its been 5 yrs that ive been with my fiance. not once have i ever cheated on her. she is the best sex ive ever had, and turns me on like crazy. the problem is that now its not enough. as i get older (im 29) my libito is going out of control. i want to expirience so many sexual things. like roleplaying, public, etc etc. i dont even leave the house without her because im so scared ill cheat. when i was single woman never talked to me, now that im engaged i beat them off with a stick whenever im out. they must smell that im taken. i really dont want to do anything. well my cock does but my mind and heart dont. what to do? try and satisfy my feelings thru masterbation?porn? try to get her to take the next step in experimental sex?
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Cant get enough woman
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People always come out of the wood(tee hee)work when you're taken. The second I'm seeing someone seriously, guys fall out of the sky.
You should be able to trust yourself alone around other women. Have you tried talking to your fiancee about maybe spicing things up? Do you think she'd be open to it? How often do you have sex now?
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Lol, wow this sounds familiar. The same thing happens to me. Before a guy would just stare at me... well not my face, but I wasn't talked to. But now that I have a bf it's like you said I you have carry a stick. In my case a bat. But I would suggest that you just stay strong. These girls need to get it through their mind that you're taken. I'm proud of you for staying true to your girl. Try getting a little more sexually active with her if that helps. Good luck.
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My married friend claims that women became more interested in him after he started wearing a wedding ring. It got even worse when he pushed around a baby stroller.
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what the fuck is wrong with these woman? its like they love taken men. i got soo pushed to the limit by this hot blonde at a bar one night. she invited me to her apartment, was like showing me tan lines, being touchy with me. get this, she sat with me because it was the only available seat in the bar. what are the chances of a hot blonde walking in a bar and you having the only available seat next to you. then she sits down, starts a conversation with you, and wants to sleep with you? the chances are slim to none ! unless your getting married. then it fucking happens. well to let you females know i got up and left when she leaned over to kiss me, so applaud me as a steller fiance
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If someone is taken, they clearly have something to offer. Others pick up on that and they want it.
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I applaud you for walking away! You did the right thing.I think you should talk with your girl. If you've been in a relationship this long, you two should feel comfortable saying "I want you to smack my ass baby!" Or whatever else you might find kinky and want to try in the bedroom. Good luck!
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They were discussing this on a radio show and they said that its a psycological thing. Something about people not caring about things they can potentially have but then once it is taken, the fact that they can't have it, makes them want it, strange isnt it?
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you know what else i think it is? the fact that im taken and dont care if woman talk to me turnes them on. im having sex regurly and im not out looking for it. girls see a that as confidence maybe? also unklike single guys im not all over them. that could be it. all i know is that its making me super horny
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You never answered my questions. I thought this was more about sex with your fiancee and not the women who throw themselves at you.
Have you tried talking to your fiancee about maybe spicing things up? Do you think she'd be open to it? How often do you have sex now?
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its bothits just lust in general. i am still very attracted to my fiance. its just being sexually adventurous
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Uhm... but... hmm.. scratches head**walks away
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I had a theory about this phenomenon a long time ago, and it has yet to not prove true.
For guys, when you're not with a woman, your self-esteem and self-confidence are lower, typically. Confidence is one of the top things that attracts people to each other, so when this is low, it's harder to attract a mate.
When you are attached, generally, your self-esteem and confidence are through the roof, making you more attractive to potential mates.
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i couldnt agree more. im sexually active therefor im confident. now the problem is am i able to contain this confidence? now i wanna bang everything. i dont know what to do. i am very in love and getting married soon. as shallow as it is i know im not the only guy who faced these demons. any married guys out there have advice on this? knowing that your going to only be sleeping with one woman forever. bachelor party? masterbation? one last fling? what?
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LOL man i just thought of something, if your single and you want a gf just wear a fake wedding ring MUWHAHA
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I find the direction this thread has taken pretty odd. It turned from wanting sex more often with your fiancee and wanting her to experiment more, to focus on you having to beat women off of you with a stick. I don't quite understand this. Maybe I took your initial post too seriously.
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i dont think you understand. my initial post was saying that im feeling temptation outside of my relationship. i am looking for away to calm it down and one of my ideas was to try and get my fiace to try new things. so the direction these posts went in arent very odd at all
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I know how you feel. I'm married and I can't keep my eyes off of woman. It's like they have a magical spell over me. It's easier said than done to walk away.
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i know. ive been faithful for 5 yrs! not sure if i can hold it anymore. girls are so much more liberated now. in the past if you didnt talk to them they didnt talk to you. its a whole new game now. i need an outlut
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In the face of marriage folks sometimes (consciously, subconsciously I dunno) begin to realize all the things they haven't done especially in the area of sex...The possibility that you may never get to try these things is one step closer every day nearer you get to the altar. Big freak out?...most of the time. If you want to try new things in terms of sexual experimentation, and you want to stay with your fiance, then she is the one to experiment with. If this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with shouldn't you be able to talk to her about anything you want to do together as sexual partners? Why would you marry someone if you can not 'be yourself' around them sexually? If you're going to be with your fiance 'forever' she needs to be everthing she wants to be sexually and so do you...but part of that is the agreement to be those things only with each other (I'm assuming this is a monogamous relationship).If you need to ride everything in sight I wouldn't expect your fiance to understand or to wait for you to finish.