What's in a name?

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I've been with my bf for nearly two years, and we've been having sex for eight months.Whenever we discuss having sex, he refers to it as "making love" and I just call it "sex".I asked him why he calls it "making love" and he said that it was on a different level. There was "making love", "getting laid" and "having sex".I was just wondering what other people refered to IT as, and if the title by which you called it had any bearing upon what it meant to you.thanks

I asked my ex who i very often talk to about this, and he noticed that when i talked about it with him i called it love making, but when i talked about it with my newer ex, i just called it having sex. The ex i was talking to it about was a much happier relationship, i dont know if this proves anything for anyone else, but hey.

Honestly, I think a lot of (straight) guys like saying 'make/made/making love' because they feel that's what the other person likes to hear. I, personally, find it cliche. I've always just said 'sex'. Even with my boyfriend of damn near three years. All my girl friends say sex or just 'sleep/slept with/together'. A few guys I've had sex with like saying the made love to me, sadly including the guy I lost my virginity too. I find that funny, strange and sad all at the same time.

I think its on a more romantic level if you know what I mean.Like if your going with someone and your b/f or G/f say yah we had sex...It could make it seem like yah I just wanted to have sex nothing more..But by saying "We made love" its more on a level were maybe the partners care about each otehr more..and it was on a more 2 sided level insted of just one person wanting...if any of this made since lol.

But really though, people in relationships sometimes just have sex. They don't always make love. The very first guy I had sex with thought he 'made love' to me when there was absolutely no 'love' involved. I barely liked him and we only knew each other a couple months. I just wanted to get it over and done with.I wonder though what makes people think they 'made love' with someone.

when its true passion maybe

Its all in the mind I guess...On my side of it I dont belive in love..beacuse it leads to stupied things...its just a feeling thatas all.

People can be making babies, but love lives in your head. You can't manufacture love. But you can express lustful feelings and love through sex.

Well said, SteveA.

I agree with winged, that was a perfect way to put it.I love my bf dearly but I view sex as a merely physical thing, that's what it is, sex. I loved him a long time before we started having sex.

I dont know, but me and my fiancee have different levels. Like, making love and having sex isnt the same for us, but it can start with one of them and end with the other.You could say we have making love, having sex, bening animalish and being kinky. Or something. But it cal all of course being referred to as havign sex. I think. What do you think?

My partner and I are similar. We use different terms depending on what our moods are and what we physically/emotionally want to experience. Making love is great, a good hard fuck is fun, and rutting like crazed weasels is always a welcome experience. Technically they're all 'having sex' but our mental outlook on the moment makes them different.

That makes sense. Because there's times when you do it to feel love and times you do it becuase your driven by some animalistic need.Thanks ya'll this really helped