I'm moving away from my current home in three weeks. I'm moving very far away to much bigger city and I'm not really going to see much of my current gf ever again, who I have been with about a year. She wants to do a long distance relationship and I said yeah but I am certain it wont work.Well things have gotten worse. I wanted to meet up plenty over the next three weeks before i leave and she always said we would. But the other night she admitted that she didnt wanna meet up much and had recently been making up her excuses not to meet up with me much. The reason is she wants to drift before I go so as it doesnt hurt as much. I was very upset when she told me cos I almost left earlier to my new city and only stayed for her and now she doenst wanna meet up as much.Thing is i gets worse in that I really felt like I was being betrayed and I wanted her to ring me (we was talking online) so that I could hear her voice and it would just be reassuring and make me know she loves me. But she refused! She said she was scared she would get hurt if she spoke to me on phone which really pissed me off(maybe she was scared i would dump her).I am now considering dumping her and moving to Leeds early.But I do love her! I am just not convinced that she loves me If it was another girl I wouldnt be so bothered but cos its this girl who is very special to me, so the whole situation really hurts me. Her affection is very important to me. I dont crave it so much with other girls who I am content just to have a good time with.Sex come sinto thsi too. We are both virgins, as has been mentioned in other posts. Cos of experiences earlier in my life that have mad eme slow in feeling ready its been her waiting for me rather than the more usual situation of a guy waitng for girl to be ready. However I am still kinda choosy about how i wnat it to be when i go all the way and I told her before she gotta meet up withh me plenty if I'm gunna feel comfortable with it cos I gotta really feel that she loves me and now I'm not sure atall if she does, I only know for sure thats she wants to have sex with me.Meeeh I dunno what to do.
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Moving away, problems with my gf
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It sounds like she feels hurt and betrayed by your moving, Owain, and so she is withdrawing into her shell so she can't be hurt.
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Yah man my girl kind of did that but it was in the beggining of the relationship, she said she tried fucking up to get me to break up with her so she wouldnt be hurt. Which also pissed me off very bad but it hasnt happened since. But i would ask her straight why are you doing this, and depending on her response you should know what to do from there on. Has she ever done anything like this in the past?
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How do you know my name?
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"Has she ever done anything like this in the past?"Well not something this bad, but its the kinda thing I could always imagine her doing.
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Your name is in your profile.
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I have to say, that for a long distance relationship, you both have to be 200% into it and assured that you will do anything to make it work. Her keeping away from you lately, dont know what to say about it, but I can only agree with others, she is trying not to get hurt.
Anyway, you have to talk about the possibilities before you move. How often can you see eachother? How will you do it? Hoq can you talk to eachother?
But most of all, you both have to be totally sure that you can continue it. Long distance is hard. It hurts. Its so much missing, missing, missing. Its easy to bring up fights, cause of all feelings inside that comes from the missing.
My suggestion is just to really sit down and have a talk with her., about all scenarios that pops up with you moving. Maybe she isnt ready for a long distance relationship. If she feel you are abondining her (which you arent, you have your own life too) maybe its nothing to do. I dont know. Sorry if this post is just confusing you. GTood luck with the girl anyway.
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The long distance thing wanst really what my post was about. I know it wont work and thats all there is too it. But I wanted my time in Salisbury to be good.
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Hrrrrm. Well, if I were you I would have just moved. But Im the impulsive type.
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Alright so you could tell she was that kind of person, well like i said jsut ask her that and see what she says..... let us know how it goes.
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"Hrrrrm. Well, if I were you I would have just moved. But Im the impulsive type." What do you mean? I am moving, in three weeks.
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Hehehe...we're sort of swapping places. You're moving from Salisbury to Leeds and I'm moving from Leeds to Salisbury (well, close to Salisbury).
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lol why on earth are you doing that? Things are so much more expensive in the South! When I was visiting Leeds I saw cinema tickets for like £4.50!!! I was shocked in Salisbury its £6.80! And we have a MUCH smaller selection of shops than Leeds.
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I'm at university down there. 2nd year of my masters in physics. And yeah, it's a lot more expensive than up here but that's one of the reasons I have 3 jobs and virtually no social life