Ok. I have 3 older sisters and one older brother who are all older than me and we live together. (I’ll use names) Nicole is my favorite sister and closest to my age… the pregnant one. Then comes Bianca, and then Alexa. My brother’s name is Sean. My sisters and I have been fighting a lot lately. I mean it’s not like this bothered me before but now it’s just really annoying. We never used to fight this much. It’s terrible because it’s gotten to the point where we fight in public. Not physically though, we do that at home. They piss me off a lot and I definitely know I piss them off too. But it’s just a never-ending argument. We tried separating from each other for a while but, it doesn’t work.Alexa and I can’t even pass through the hallway without hair being pulled and yelling being heard. Last night around 3 am in the morning she chased me up the stairs and punched a hole in the wall. Ya… my dad is pretty pissed. Bianca has just declared war on Nicole and have insults flying through the air like crazy. My brother usually is in the fights but he mostly plays the referee. Dinner is always a disaster because of the arguing, other than about my cooking which is a total different story. My parents try to settle it by saying “you’re all grounded” or “is this the Christian thing to do” riiiiiiight, like that really helps. The only time the arguments were this bad was last year when my grand uncle died in October (long story). We were just about ringing each other’s throats, but I guess it was because we blamed ourselves… I know I did. But aside from that I don’t know what to do. I try being nice to them at first but then they just get me to that point where it gets out of hand. I’m a little concerned for tonight because my dad invited some people from his job over for a dinner tonight for 9:30 (why?) and he said he wants us to be on our best behavior.. mhm. I don’t want to make my dad look bad nor do my sisters. We have to make dinner too to top it all off. Do you guys have any advice? I could really use it.
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Sister troubles
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Get your brother and sisters together in a room and just talk and tell them just do it for your dad and just keep it in your head if a sibling pisses another off. Good luck with that and the dinner
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really the only way to guarantee there wont be any problems when your dads friends come over is for all the kids to leave the house during that time. Everyone should go out to a movie, friends house, or something. But dont stay home. As far as the fighting, I'm sorry to break it to you stacey but its probably not gonna get better anytime soon, if ever. Its harsh but thats reality. Trust me my moms side of the family split apart because of family fueding and they are old! Just stay in school and try to do good so you can goto any college of your choice once high school is over. That way you can get away from all that stuff.
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Sounds like too many young adults in too small a space. You're right...it might be less of a risk to get the kids out of the house, unless dad wants to display the handsome and well-behaved kids to the boss.
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Yah that's what i was thinking.
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What exactly do you fight over? Anything in particular or just constant bickering? BUt yeah, like everyone's said, just try and stay out of their way and let them cool off. Don't always jump to a fight because cooler heads prevail.
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I come from a rather large family as well so I can relate to all the sibiling squabbling. I have 2 older sisiter, one older brother and 2 younger brothers. Luckily, for the most part, I got along with all my siblings except for my sister Mary. We've had similar situations where she would come after me and put holes in the wall, even one time she shattered the sliding glass door by kicking it when I had to throw her outside because she was acting like a lunatic. I wish I could say things got better once we got older. Truely is hasn't between Mary and I. We still fight if we are together for too long of a time, nor can we live together (I let her move into my house and it was a disaster!). Now we avoid each other as much as possible, no matter how much we try we just cannot get along.Best advice I could give, and I know other have already suggested, would be to get outta the house while the company is there or if thats not an options than you and your siblings need to have a talk to be on youe best behavior for your fathers sake. Might take a lot of biting tongues but it'll be the respectful things to do for your father.
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It's now the next day. How did it go?
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Well, we didn't really argue or talk to each other. We had to go to the dinner anyway dressed in these horrid clothes and be the "perfect Christian family" my dad hopes us to be. Felt like the brady bunch. But this guy had like 4 sons it was ridiculous. Luckily my overdose of food helped. Other than that everything seeemed to be ok. The tv just took the place of talking while parents talked about some stuff.