Okay, I know what your thinking "What problem can she have now?" well it's yet another guy situation lol I have been talking to this guy for a little while now, and this saturday he has invited me to come and hang out at his sister's house after I get off of work. I really like him and we talk all the time on the phone, and I have fun when ever I'm around him... so whats the problem you ask? Well it's the age diffrence.... I'm 19 and he's 30. I have no problem with the age diffrence myself, it's just I've been fighting with my mother for about a month now because she thinks he's nothing but a "dirty old man" because he's talking to her baby girl. Okay, I can understand her feelings, but I am an adult now and I can my own decisions, but she keeps making it sounds as if there is something wrong with him and I talking. I'm not sleeping with this guy, and I'm not dating him (yet), so why is she getting so angry with me and acting as if it's so terrible that I'm talking to him? It's really confusing me, and I just want to know, should I just scrap this whole idea to make her happy and get her off my back or should I finally stand up and tell her it's what I want and that hanging around with him makes me happy? I'm so lost guys..... it's driving me crazy!
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Very confused... what should I do?
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well you are legally an adult. It is your choice. Do you really feel that there is some kind of connection with this person? If you feel comfortable with him then dont worry about it. If you feel like hes the kind of person thats just looking for someone young to have sex with then yea get away. Its pretty much you're call. I guess the best thing to do is keep your relationship at that level where you guys arent having sex or anyhting yet. Give it sometime and see how he acts. If he starts pressuring you for sex or anything then you kinda have an idea whats he's really after. Just becareful and dont let your emotions get the best of you. Treat him just like any other guy out there and find out where his heart is i guess.
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I know that you are "an adult" but you are still pretty young to be "friends" with this 30 year old guy. I would prefer to have a good relationship with my mother than fight about some 30 year old guy.
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Just because you are 19 does not mean that you are mature enough to be in a relationship with a guy that it 11 years older. In my opinion I agree with your Mother. She is trying to protect you and she obviously knows more about the thought processes of guys his age. Of course he is attracted to a much younger girl. The question is why can't he get girls his own age? I would suggest that you talk to some that he has dated in the past. My suggestion would be to slow down and focus on your education and guys closer your age.
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Well it doesn't matter anyways, he stood me up. Better luck next time, eh?
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I hate this. Why do I let guys get my hopes up? He was supposed to come see me at work saturday afternoon and then pick me up at my house after I got off of work to go hang out at his sister's place. Never happened. I waited till 9:45 and then I called my sister-in-law and we left and went to a friend's house. Well hell, I waited as long as I could, and I'm sorry but if he didn't want to hang out he could have called me and not let me sit there and think he was going to show up. I feel like such an idiot. My friend called him and from what his brother-in-law said he didn't even come down from where he was staying. Oh well, I mean I guess I never really expected anything to actually happen between us but I also just kind of hoped he'd be diffrent but hey what was I thinking? He's just a guy right? No reason to get upset over, but I'm yet I'm still disappointed. Oh well, better luck next time right? Yeah, better luck next time....