ok i have a situation here and i dont know what to do. me and my boyfriend have been together for almost seven months and there is an ongoing problem... we are both friends with this girl, ill call her barb, and him and barb are like BEST friends, but i think it might be oing too far. they talk on the phone all hours of the night, and sneak out together... just them two. and he always reasures me that he loves me, not her and makes me feel stupid for suspecting anything. she likes him, she told him and right now her username on msn says how much she misses him because he is out of town. she always knows everything about our relationship, even when its just between me and my boyfriend. This week he is going in for surgery and i was suppsoed to see him the day before he gets his surgery, but now he might be ditching me to hang out with barb... and im going to houston next week and that was the only i day i would be able to see him before i left... and he decided to hang out with barbhe doesnt let me take on the role of the girlfriend, he doesnt tell me his secrets or wishes... he tells barb them... he says he loves me, that im the one he wants to marrybullshit right?
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Confusedandhurt,help
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ohh honey. Does he know how you feel? How old are you both? That sounds terrible, I've been in a similar situation before.. although mine only lasted for 3months because I got seriously annoyed. I gave the person at the time an ultimatum - you either stop ditching me for her, and start treating me like you girlfriend, or you go with her..Ok he chose to stay with me, but he soon lapsed back into his old ways and I chucked him pretty quickly..You need to think about what you really want - do you want to be treated like this any more?
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> bullshit right?
Clearly. A guy doesn't make the woman he he wants to marry second fiddle. The third wheel knows what she is doing, but the respsonibility lies squarely with your boyfriend.
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He is an arsehole. Get rid of him, you can do sooo much better.
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im 15, and he's almost 16 which is why i think him talking about marriage is crap, im only 15 lol... umm yeah he does know that it makes me upset, but alas, he keeps doing it... and now i just found out that he lied to me, he said he couldnt have visitors during his recovery time after surgery... and he is seeing barb the day after
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Dump his ass, lying to hang out with another girl means he is deffinatly hiding something. I dont think you'll miss him,.
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now he's saying that he only talks to her on the phone because shes suicidali dont know if that changes things...
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You mean that that suddenly became an issue? Either it's true, or it's false and was just made up, or she's convincing him that it's true in order to manipulate him. The whole thing is pretty hard to believe.
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give me a break...
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ok now he says he realizes what shes doing ,and that shes trying to break us up... and apparently he was freaking out to my friend about how much he hates barb because she almost made us break up
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Aww now thats good Just make sure she doesnt start popping back in your life
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In reply to: ok now he says he realizes what shes doing ,and that shes trying to break us up... and apparently he was freaking out to my friend about how much he hates barb because she almost made us break up Sweetie I'm sorry but I'd really try and look into that. My ex had a best friend named Bobbi (yep a girl) and I had no problem with it until it started feeling like I was the "friend" and she was the "girlfriend". We had a huge fight about it and he told me he felt sorry of her so that was why he was always calling her and visiting her whenever I wasn't around. Well after a while they had a huge fight and he told me he wasn't friends with her anymore and that he hated her. I believed him until I went to his house to surprise him and guess who was sitting on his couch? Dear old Bobbi. I confronted him about it and he said he didn't want to tell me because he thought I'd be mad....well no shit! Needless to say, we're no longer together and I'm very happy about that. I think you should sit him down and have a long converstion with him and find out whats really going on. If he lied once to be with his "friend", he'll do it again and you don't deserve that dear. Good luck!
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definatley tell him how you feel their relationship does sound kind of iffy especially the part about them sneaking out and he shouldn't be telling her everything about your relationship.Good luck.
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hey ive been goin out with this guy for 5 weeks and i love him a lot he has had girlfrinds before but never got beyond a kiss i go out with him twice a week and the other day i tried to kiss him but it ended up as a hug and im sorry i dont wanna screw up line so i left it ther since then i feel like such a bitch and like i dunno like wht is hapenin becos he wont even go for a plane kiss is it me or what can i do i never had this problem with other guys i dated they always made the move !!
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My best friend is a woman. I knew her for 3 years before Imet my fiancee. I hang out with her sometimes with out my g/f and I talk to her at all hours of the day and night.
I do not however, skip over the g/f to be with her. and so long as we are going to do something that my g/f is into (she is alwasy invited reguardless) she usually comes with us. Of course those two go out together with out me sometimes as well. I can tell you Id never cheat on my g/f and Iv never had more then a hug and peck on the cheek from the friend.
I never put the g/f on hold or sneak around. If they are sneaking maybe there is somethig to hide?
Its possible to have a member of the oppisite sex as a friend and nothing more but if I were you Id investigate if thats all thats going on here because it sure as hell doesnt sound like it. -
In reply to: hey ive been goin out with this guy for 5 weeks and i love him a lot he has had girlfrinds before but never got beyond a kiss i go out with him twice a week and the other day i tried to kiss him but it ended up as a hug and im sorry i dont wanna screw up line so i left it ther since then i feel like such a bitch and like i dunno like wht is hapenin becos he wont even go for a plane kiss is it me or what can i do i never had this problem with other guys i dated they always made the move !! hey welcome to the forumyou might want to start your own thread next time instead of tagging onto someone elses. just go into the relationships forum and click "post" anyhow you can't make someone want to kiss youhas it been totally obvious that you've actually tried to be kissing him?maybe he's only expecting hugs?you can always just grab his face and hold it and kiss himhowever if he has picked up that you want to kiss and he has changed it into a hug... it may state a lot about his intentions regarding you as more than a friend... so you could make a move yourselftalk to him or his friends (not my preferance)or wait for him to make a move ......
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hey ...its still xxtoriexx i just have new area!! ok well just when we thought it was bad it gets worse mi bf asked me to go to his house and i went we were sitting on his bed talking and his mate showed up and i mean i dont mind or nething .. so the conversation stopped and his friend came up to his room.... we watched this new movie and had a pizza which i didnt realli eat half way through he got up and sed he neded the toilet so he went downstairs so it was just me n his mate the guy went to the loo and called up to see if we wanted a drink i asked for hot choc as it always tastes good i was just sat on his bed and his mate grabbed me and kissed me i pulled away and ran down stairs my bf asked me like y u come down n i couldnt tell him y i felt bad and i eventuli told him i thought u mite need help carryin the drinks he believed and thanked me.. wen we went upstairs his freind kept annoying me tryin to get my attention wen he left mi bf told me like its so good ur frends o sorri its so long but yeh i desperatly need help!!