Do you think it's selfish?

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I have a question, like alot of people here of course. I have never truly had a girlfriend before. Sure, i've went places with my female friends like from work and such, but i never considered that dating. I have alot of concerns about dating, but one of my biggest might seem a little selfish. Is it selfish to think that when you have a gf, you'll no longer have spare money and time for yourself?

The reason I ask this is because alot of my friends seem to have this touble with women. They never have time for anything, and when they do have time, it's never by themselves, its always both of them. and it always seems like they're broke! I'm like, wait, they have decent jobs, wtf?

any opinions?

i dont think its selfish. Thats a personal choice you make and it doesnt affect anyone else.

well, what i mean is, i get annoyed by spending too much money on other people. sure, i'll buy gifts and such, but i know sometimes i'm all "Man, I dont want a GF cause the ho will probably take all my fuckin money!" haha

So you plan on dying alone if you don't find a woman who earns more than you do? Not sure about your being selfish, but I'm a bit skeptical of your rationalizion.

honestly i dunno what you being a cheapass has to do with being selfish or not. Like SteveA said if you don't mind being alone for the rest of your life thats on you. I dont see how it would hurt anyone else.

In reply to: Is it selfish to think that when you have a gf, you'll no longer have spare money and time for yourself? ok when you find someone you want as a GF you won't want time to yourself mostly............the whole thing about being attracted to someone is that you enjoy and want to spend time with the other person.........tho saying that it doesn't mean you have to spend 24 hrs a day with them...........as for money, if its an equal relationship then both parties should pay for stuff like cinema etc etc....so not sure where the idea about lack of money comes from, except that when you are in a relationship you would tend to go out more, hence spend more than you would sat at home alone in front of the tv! As a woman i resent the fact that you think women are just something that takes up your time and money, no surpise you arn't with someone at the mo if you think like that.

Dude u like Shenmue!!!

He also seems to like naruto. what we have here is a fanboi! :P

Shenmue: Epic game for the sega dreamcast (although it loses it's appeal quickly)Naruto: Anime - Japanese cartoon.Fanboi: erm...fanboy...someone who er, is a fan of something!

It gets down to what's important to you. Perhaps you have not found the right one or you just aren't ready. I look at a relationship with a girl as an investment. It's the reward vs risk issue and I am not talking about sex being the only reward. Finding someone to trust, respect, enjoy, share and communicate with is enough reward for me. It would be the same if I were rich or poor. Just being with her would be worth it.

Shenmue best game ever, doesnt lose its appeal! buy it now!