My g/f and I havent gotten to oral stuff yet, I mean it's not too far off cuz we've been doing almost everything else to the respective regions for about a month. She is very much a virgin, and her hymen is very much there. As far as this is concerned, do you think I should talk to her about vaginal stimulation now, wait till I can give her the added pleasure of oral stimulation, or wait until we have sex for the first time. So I'm not really asking how to do so, I've seen the posts on that, just asking the opinions of the grand masses on whether you think that the pleasure it would give her now would outweigh the emotional significance of it happening the first time we have sex.And I know I know, ask her, but um, asking here is so much easier. This is a confidence beg one way or the other. This is actually a subquestion from a previous question I had that wasn't really answered. For the previous post, look here ERS
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Breaking the hymen...
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Why not give her oral now? Sex is gonna feel much different so it doesn't really matter now. Oral is great because it's painless and orgasmic, same with fingering. OR what would be nice, if you give her oral for the first time the day you plan to have sex - it's like double "woohoo" and it'll serve as foreplay.
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See, i've heard of wedding planners, but never sex planners. :laughing: Good suggestion tho. :laughing:
Its not a matter of giving her oral thats the issue, i was just wondering whether the benefits of simultaneous vaginal stim and oral were worth breaking her hymen in order to accomplish that. Or do you think the signficance of physically losing your virginity the first time you have sex is worth holding off for.
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Well I actually believe that you don't have a problem! The hymen has an opening in it (to allow out menstrual fluids and discharge), and if ur gf uses tampons then a finger or two in the vagina wont break it! Even if she doesn't use tampons it's the same. So go ahead and try both oral and stimulation. If it hurts her, ask her if she want to go through with it. Good Luck lol
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JenJen is very right, the first time i gave her oral sex, she was floored...i enjoy it a lot myself, i love the taste and seeing her climax. if you manage to get your gf to climax from oral sex, she will love you for it good luck!
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I agree on all but one point, the hymen CAN be broken through fingering... I just fingered my grilfreind for the first time yesterday. About halfway through she said "oh shit I just started my period" and ran to the bathroom. Turns out I have REALLY big fingers She liked it and we continued later, but she's still a virgin in all technical terms.Point of story: Breaking the hymen isn't as big a thing for a lot of girls as having sex for the first time. Just try and see where it gets you.