Last night I was online with my friend, we'd been talking earlier that day about my boyfriend and how he wouldn't move out of his parents house or anything like that, so while I was online last night I told her that I had dumped my boyfriend of nearly 2 years. And she started going off on what a good idea it was, and such. As if that wasn't bad enough she started talking about her boyfriend, and how she was going down to meet him next week end and what fun they were going to have. First of all I realize it's wrong to lie, but I did this to test my friend. The night before last, she and one of my guy friends were discussing how terrible my relationship with my bf is, and it was my guy friend who told me they were talking about it. Not her. She just pretended that nothing was going on.After I told her that I'd dumped my bf, some mutual friends logged on, and I IMed them five minutes after they logged on, and she'd already told them. It really hurts that she thinks my realtionship is so bad, that she's happy about the breakup and that she decided to go and tell everyone who knew me the second she could grab a hold of them. And also she kept talking about her bf and how much he meant to her. Unless I'm mistaken that's not what a good friend does when her good friend is trying to go through a tough breakup.sorry just wanted to rant a bit.
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Best friend reactions
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Wow, that's pretty rude. Did she eventually find out that you guys hadn't really broken up?
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She really had no right to go IM your other friends.If she has a problem with your relationship then get her to be honest and tell you.
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Putting people to the test like that is something that just doesn't seem nice to me. You lied, and the situation with your friends is now a mess. They probably all feel aggrieved for being deceived.I think it's better to let people be as they are, and not expect any friends to be perfect.
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yeh i agree just lying in that way probably made it worse bcos essentially your just acting the way she was to you earlier. with situations like this you should always be yourself. but i can completely relate to your friends behaviour, its happened to me before and it hurts when people talk about you behind your back, its nasty and not fair. i recently split with my b/f bcos i knew our realtionship was slightly fucked up, i stayed friends with the guy but just my best friends reaction really got me down, people can be so unsensitive in these situations, she reacted very much like your friend.
but you got to get over these things and keep your head high and just not get caught up in these things so much. the less you care about these small immature things people put you through, the more they will respect you and leave you alone. -
I told her the truth the day after. She said the only disconcerning part was that I lied too well. But I chalk that up to being a thesbian. so yeah.
thanks ya'll
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thesbianIs that a gay female actress?
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a thesbian is an actor.Thesbes was the first actor in greek theater to step out of teh chorus and speak on his own. So a thesbian is just an actor.At lunch my friends and I used to yell out "look at the masticating thesbians over there" at the drama kids. It means the actors that are chewing.
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Thespian; Thespis of Icaria, the legendary first actor.