Having Trouble with Orgasms

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Ok. I need help. My fiance and I have sex regularly, and he hasn't given me an orgasm yet. (we've been together a year and a half.) It's starting to wear on us both, him because he feels "useless," and me because I can't stand him feeling useless. I never had an orgasm with any of my other partners either. What should we do?

Can you make yourself cum? IF so, do it in front of him, let him join in a little, and maybe he will see how you do it an be able to copy it. Its not really a big deal, as long as you both enjoy sex together. Sometimes my other half will play with my nipples etc while i play with myself, and it turns him on a lot to do that........maybe something like that will take the pressure of both of you, if it becomes a problem it will be hard for you both.

We did that once, but it made him uncomfortable that he wasn't able to do it. I can get off on my own just fine. He wants to be more hands on, as in, he's the one doing it.

I have the same problem as you, I find it very hard to reach orgasm. But I can easily do it myself. Try and not think about it too much. It will happen eventually. I heard of a couple that have been married and have 3 children and the female only just had her first orgasm a while back. You are both still enjoying sex right? So really there shouldn't be that much of a worry. I love sex and everything to do with it even thought I have yet to reach orgasm from it. =D

I have issues cumming when someone else is stimulating me, esp with a BJ (On occassions I can get off when being jerked off by my lover). Most of the time I end up finishing by masterbating which isn't always a bad thing mind you, gives me the option of where I want to cum. But I'd love to be able to get of by a BJ. I came close this past weekend. My BF was determined to get me off with a BJ so he kept at it even though I was going crazy!! Well eventually I masterbated until I was almost there and let his mouth finish me off.. That's the closest I have been and all I can say is wow.. it was awesome.

Guess it's as they say "Practice makes Perfect" LoL

**part of giving a blowjob for me is using both my hands and mouth, maybe thats why i have never given one where the guy didn't cum LOL ** :grin:

Well I cannot think of a time I have not been able to get someone off with a BJ as well ehhe. I have given him a few pointers on what feels great, and he was nailing all those points this past weekend lol. My main problem is that the head of my penis gets SOO sensative that I had to grip the sides of the bed to control myself LOL.

totally know where you are coming from with that one, after over an hour of 'attention' - he doens't know whether to grab my head or grab a hold of something else LOL

Here is a suggestion that might work. My wife use to have a problem cumming just from intercourse itself. If you do some reading you will find that is not uncommon. Also, my initial attempts at manual stimulation with my hands were not very successful (I've learned better over the years). What really worked was oral. It let me control the amount of pressure and always pushed her over the edge. I would suggest you have him give it a try. The other is for you to lay back and relax and enjoy what he is doing. Concentrate on the feelings you are getting, not ones you want to occur. My guess this combination will push you over the edge.

A lot of women can't reach orgasm from sex alone. Most need some extra clitoral (or other) stimulation. So don't even sweat it, as long as sex feels good.

from sex aloneFrom intercourse alone. Oral sex is sex too, unless you're Bill Clinton.

ah yes, good ol' Bill. Sorry; most women can't achieve orgasm from intercourse alone.

I doubt that Bill was too concerned with Monica's orgasm.