So, school is all started up, and this is my second week back. Yeah, it sucks because of homework and the usual, but then there is someone else that's making school harder for me. Her name is Abby, and she is one of those kids in the class that is an outcast. I mean, it's not because she's not pretty, or anything, it's just because she's weird and annoying. So last year, I felt bad for her, so I was nice to her... Big mistake, because then she followed me everywhere. It's not that I really cared too much, but I just thought we would be casual friends, you know? Like the kind that know each other, and would say hi if they see each other at the mall, but don't really do anything together besides talk at school. I mean, she didn't click with me at all. But I didn't say anything about her following me, because she had no one else to hang out with.So at first I thought she was a little bit annoying, like a 5 year old kid with their superficial thoughts and constant talking. But then I started to see what she was really like, and it freaked me out. She is very moody, and if she thinks you insulted her she will cry, and she will say things to manipulate you (which is a BIG no-no for me; I HATE being manipulated!!!). And then she sent me an email saying she would commit suicide, and I FREAKED out and told my mom and dad and emailed her parents and had my parents call them, plus I called Mrs. Baumert (our counselor-ish teacher who everyone goes to with their problems; she's good at that kind of stuff, and she genuinely cares)... I was so stressed out and shocked that I didn't get my homework done and I couldn't sleep, and I just stayed in my room and listened to music and didn't even crack open a book (which is VERY odd for me, because I love to read).So the next day, at school, Abby goes up to me and she acts kind of pissed and says, Amanda, you over-reacted. And then I was treated to a lecture. I just about cried, because I've always been taught to take suicide very seriously, and I thought that her email sounded REALLY sincere, and I KNEW I had done the right thing, so why was she yelling at me? Do you want to know why she sent that to me (along with some other friends)??? Because she was ignored by Cassi, a friend of hers that goes to another school, and because her parents were at work and she couldn't call them and talk to them either- she told me she had a bad day at school and was sick of not being popular. I heard that and I was so pissed at her!!! Can that reason be any dumber???Well, this year, I decided I wasn't taking any of this crap, so I just sort of ignored her. I wasn't being outright rude, I was just not being friendly... I was courteous and all that jazz, but I didn't go and ask her about her day, or smile at her, or anything else. If she talked to me, fine, if not, fine. Well, my plan worked better than I thought it would, because over the summer she started to have a crush on Peter (which I found out yesterday), who likes me and asked me out before school started. Of course I said yes! I had been waiting since forever for him to ask me! Well, she was mad because he liked me- the jealousy scenario, I suppose. And ever since then she has been trying to steal him away from me, and trying to take away my best friend, too. I'm not worried that she will succeed, but I'm absolutely furious that she WANTS to do this to me! She WANTS to take away two people that I love, and that she KNOWS I love!!! How can I get her to back off???
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An old shadow returns!
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Hey now my name is Abi, Abby, Abigail... you get the point. But this girl sounds like she may suffering from something emotionally. Don't treat her like a freak, that's the worst thing you could ever do. Try and be a friend to her. If you give her positive attitude no matter what she does than she may change the way she feels about you and those around her. Don't be rude though or treat in a bad way because that's how people end up as killers or stalkers when they get older. So try and see if there is anything that you can do to help her. Good luck!
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Oh, I like the name Abby in general...I don't think you understand- I was nice to her, last year! And of course she is screwed up emotionally, but the person she needs to see is a psychiatrist, not a peer. And I don't understand why I have to take care of her! There comes a point where I give up, and that was the end of last year. This year is even more stressful, with the buttload of new homework our teachers have slapped on us and all the other crap we students have to go through. You know, her parents never did get her into counseling after she wrote that suicide email- they said she was expressing herself! I refuse to treat anyone in a bad way, but ignoring doesn't count. I will not be friends with everyone that I meet, and her and I are so different that we could nev er coexist as friends. Besides, she is trying to alienate me from Emily (my best friend) and Peter!
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Oh I see. Well it's kind of tough if her parents aren't doing anything about it. If their daughter is going through that they should at least help. Before things get worse I think you should have a talk with your friends about her so they don't take anything the wrong way.
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It sounds like she's the self-absorbed type whose world revolves around herself, and just doesn't see other people in the same light as herself. There's not much you can do about that, I'm afraid.