hey somethings been bothering me for a while now and i wonder if any one could help me.I'v been with my boyfirned nearly half a year now n we love each other n everything but hes had sex with his last girlfriend , he said he wishes he never cos shes treated him badly and stuff.but it doesnt stop me wondering if hes had it with his ex girlfriend does it mean he wants it with me? he knows i am a virgin and everything but i dnt know what to do, he is coming up to his 16th birthday meaning he can have sex legally but i will still be only 15 will it bother him that we wont be having sex?i hope you understand what i mean.
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Im a virgin...but my boyfriend isnt
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Hey hon welcome to the boards If your BF knows how you feel, then it shouldn't be a problem, if he expects you to have sex with him, and your not ready - then its tough, and if thats a problem for him, then its HIS problem not yours. Don't feel pressured into having sex, just cos he had sex with his ex.
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thanks:D but do you think when we come to havin sex for my first time will he expect anything? i hear on your first time you bleed and im quiet nervous about that,does it hurt? alot of people who i know have done it say its very painfull for the first time is it true? is their anything i have to be aware of?
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**I have no idea honestly, whether he will expect anything or not.........thats maybe something you need to talk to him about. As for bleeding and hurting, yes some girls do bleed when they have sex for the first time, and it can hurt. The answer is, try to be as relaxed as you can, even if you don't feel 'that' nervous etc your vaginal muscles can be tight unless you are completely relaxed and comfortable, also use lubrication, that will minimise on the hurt when he enters you...........as for blood, it can be nothing at all, some don't even notice they have bled, some bleed heavy the first time, what ever happens its perfectly normal for you and your body, and nothing to be embarrassed about, more like just being aware of :smile:
The only thing i can say to do with this is, NEVER feel pressured, find a time and a place where you will both be comfortable, and undisturbed, that might help with the nervousness......and don't expect to be able to perform like a porn star your first time *grin* Enjoy it, have fun ** :grin: -
Yeah just relax if you guys do commit to having sex. But never feel pressured to do something you do not want, especially sex. It is something you need to decide on your own. Just remember that if he truly loves you then it will not matter if you have sex or not.
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aww thanks guys im new on here n it really does help when you read peoples opinions, hes never asked for it and i know he loves me and i think he will wait.i think the only reason why iv started thinkin about it is because hes coming up to becoming 16 so hes legally able to have sex.thanks for reasurring me i much apreciate it!i want to make him feel special in a way that can pleasure him tho , but without the sex part i give him hand jobs but i want to spice things up abit and do something memorable iv read on other posts about blind folds and stuff would something like that be good? or is there something else i can do?
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well i mean you are 15...so i mean seems a bit much for someone so young. I mean it is too late to stop you from doing it. But just try and focus on emotional part of relationship it is a lot more gratifying.
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Don't be concerned about it. Don't do anything until it is right for YOU. Don't feel any pressure to please him sexually. There are many ways you can please him without giving away something that you should value. Another mistake that so many young girls make is that they feel obligated to give sex. Also, the feel pressure if they don't give sex then the guy will leave. I have news for you. THey are more likely to leave after you give your virginity than if you didn't. Have sex for the right reason...please!
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ok, thanks.hes a great guy and wouldnt make me have sex wtih him anyway he hasnt even mentioned it!so il just see when the time comesthanks for all your helpxxx