Let me start by saying that I dont really consider myself to be bisexual.. I've tossed and turned over this situation for many -years- now and still toss and turn from time to time..
Ever since I became interested in sex and masturbation etc I have been attracted to the female body.. And.. In the very beginning I even found the male body, particularly the male genitalia, to be down right disgusting.. Over the years my opinion of the male genitalia has changed (haha..).. But my fascination with the female body has grown..
My very first sexual encounters were with a female, and I was not with a male until I was 16 years of age.. Before that I'd only dealt sexually with two females..
I thought for a long time that I was simply bisexual.. But that all depends on what you consider bisexuality.. I dated a female, once.. And it didnt feel right to me.. Not on societies standards but just on my own.. I didnt feel that it would ever amount to anything.. Not only because I was young, but because there was no real emotional attraction.. Only physical.. So.. When a 13 year old girl has her first puppy love crush on the "cute boy" in her class, she feels all bubbly and has butterflies and whatnot.. Ive never had those feelings about a female..
But when it comes to sexual attraction I almost prefer a female over a male..
Honestly I dont know what to make of this, and have no clue where I'm going with this topic.. I have no specific question to ask, but would rather just like opinions.. If this seems really odd and needs to be dealt with.. Or.. Whatever..
Any comments greatly appreciated.
Is this state of mind unhealthy in your eyes?
honestly, i think people have this idea that your either bisexual or not, gay or straight etc sometimes it isnt that easy to pin point, i think people think that its a clear line its either this or that, no other way but to me the line is fuzzy. i hate labelling it but i would also describe myself as bi, much like you, i'm not quite sure what i like, but who cares? who says you always know what you like, things will come in time when you find out more and more what you prefer. but i really wouldnt worry about it, i used to bcos you dont knwo what the fuck you are feeling but really whats the point? just go with the flow
Yeah, I have to agree that the female body ROCKS. I guess it could really suck if you don't feel emotionally interested in women but are sexually interested in some. It'd be cool if you one day met a woman you DID feel comfortable with relationship-wise, and I imagine it will happen. But it also seems too odd to date a guy and have no sexual interest in him. So does this mean you need to start the hunt for the right chick for you? I don't know, but, coming from a family full of lesbians, I say it's healthiest to accept your sexuality and then worry about relationship problems. I hope you begin to feel better about stuff-- and hope you meet someone who does give you butterflies!!
hmm actually i don't think it's odd you find the female body somthing of beauty. the male body was made more for work(to provide), strenth(sp)(to protect), and of course efficiacy(ie: no periods)(to reproduce).
however the female body seems to be more made to be beautiful, somthing more to be enjoyed, either by looking at or feeling it.
so while u didn't find the male body too atractive at first (and are now getting into it), but you liked the female body more. i think it's only natural. i'm not bi or gay but i can look at a guy and say "yea he's attractive" (speaking from a girl's perspective, kinda like girls and say other girls look good w/o being bi or gay). but in all the porn i've seen (not too much currently but years ago) almost all the time guys can have what you call sexy abs/body/etc. but once they're naked it doesn't really get any better and somtimes look worse. however women on the other hand either get better or just stay just as good looking. so i can understand your point and facination w/ the female body.
I've got a real face for radio! disclaimer: if i say somthing to hurt your feelings that was not my intention...
The problem with "going with the flow" and such is that... I dont have casual sex.. I have before, and I didnt enjoy it... It didnt feel right, and it wasnt as enjoyable as having sex when feelings were attached to the act of it.. Call me old fashioned, but.. At least I gave it a chance..
Anyway.. So.. I dont have casual sex.. And I cant seem to have emotional feelings for a female.. So.. Casual sex is out of the question because having feelings for a female isnt possible
So I guess then people would say.. Well your options are obvious.. Pay no mind to your attraction to the female body and go with the emotional feelings you could possibly have with a male... But.. Then the sexual attraction is not as strong, because my attraction to the male body isnt as intense as that with the female body..
I guess I just need to find the right male.. Then maybe the attraction will be more intense than not only an ordinary male but also any female...
Okay.. I think I've solved it on my own hahahaha.
Thanks for all your opinions and thoughts!!!