I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months now. Been on and off in bed and for some reason, i can't get my penis up and running with her. When I'm home and doing what any normal guy does, it gets up and does its thing. Whats wrong with me...! Is there like..a mental thing thats going on with me or am i just limb from the rest of my life ???
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Can't get it up..is something wrong with me?
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Nothing is wrong with you your just having performance anxiety. Alot of guys get this just try and relax in bed and not worry or think about getting it up so much. You can do a search on performance anxiety their are plenty of posts about it.
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Thank you. phew been panicing for awhile..Thanks again.
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Just a thought... If you have little foreplay you may try having some more, maybe stimulating the girl too... Chances are you'll stop thinking about yourself and getting erect, and your body will do that job for you as you get turned on by her. :smile: Anyway, there's nothing saying you're "limb" as you've already said everything is fine when you're alone. Good luck :smile:
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Keep in mind that the brain is the biggest sex organ. If it is stressed most organs in the body will be affected. Other things that have a big negative affect on performance are drugs (legal and illegal, marijuana and alcohol). Sometimes a guys need for sex will override his ability to think clearly. If you are with a girl that doesn't turn you on or feel guilty for some reason it will definitely affect your performance.
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Hey bud, don't panic...that's only going to make this worse. Here's the deal....you know it works because it does for you. You're trying to hard to make things work well...we do that. But the pressure you're putting on yourself (and the fear that lil man isn't going to get up) are making it worse. More foreplay and focusing only on her should help alot!
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Here's a thought. Perhaps she really isn't the girl for you and you know it. My guess is that you are seeing her out of sexual convenience and it isn't working for you. The other suggestions were great as well. Try much more foreplay. Also, cut down on the masterbation when you know you are going to see her. Enjoy!
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Thank you everyone for replying. I'm going to her house tonight. Wish me luck.
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ok well..its about 4:30am and i just got home. Ok, progress was made. I got it up, I got it in, but...went downhill from there. It didnt stay. oh man...im a disgrace
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sigh...i guess one more attempt wouldnt hurt. thanks again for the insight