Religious conflict

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Hey im a new member, so take it easy. But i went out with a old friend and she took me out with some of her friends, but everything was going fine until we walk up to a church and one of her guy friends pretends he is jesus on the cross. They laugh as hard as they could and took cell phone pics. I was soo hurt i walked off. Now her friends are making me the bad guy and saying i hurt her soooooo much, was i wrong?

No, you're not wrong. It's not unusual to take that sort of thing negatively. I have a couple of friends of mine who are the same religion as me and we would joke around alot about every little thing saying "omg you stole her boyfriend? ungodly!" or "if I were Jesus I would have popped Judas in the back of the head every chance I got" things like that just joking around. We'd have to watch Biblical movies at church and sometimes make fun of the bad acting but it was all out of fun. If it gets to a certain point where it makes you uncomfortable then you should let them know. If they really care they would respect your opinion and take it down a little.

Thanks, it always helps to hear things like that. But the other thing is her friends, they are tottally convinced that its ALL my fault.

Well that's their problem. The important thing is that you know it's not your fault. They should have never been acting that way in the first place knowing that it was affecting you. It doesn't even make sense that she would get upset over something like that. They should ease up on you a little if not then they're not what you need.

Did you ask them to stop, or make it clear that you were uncomfortable with it before you walked off? If not, then how were they to know that it was offending you? You need to voice up if that's the case, and if they don't stop (if you did what I just asked and they didn't stop) then you're right in what you did. They may not have been trying to disrespect your wishes though, if you didn't actually say anything.

We already covered that i went to a catholic school and everything like that and they knew they would bring it up as "no big deal to us" when her friends would yell at me

If they can't understand why you're offended, then that's their problem. They obviously don't appreciate you enough to be great friends, and you have no obligation to hang out with them. Apologize if you think you went overboard (I really don't know as I wasn't there), but if not then all you can do is explain why you were offended.

I really dont think they would accept it. they go to a really artsy school (no offnense to anyone hear) so its a completly different mind set over there.