Well, some of you may have seen my other post. After sending her into a crying heartbroken frenzy, I said I had to go eat dinner. I called back 2 hours later, and she was calm, and she seemed to have accepted everything. We talked for a little bit, then I went off to school. I called her again for a bit when I got home from school, and we just kinda talked about our feelings.Right now, I feel really weird, an impossible to explain emptiness. I know things are better off now, us breaking up, but still the feeling is there. For a year and a half I had countless amazing and unforgetable memories with this girl and even though I am the one who initiated the break up, this will take a long, long time to get over. What is the best thing to do? I plan on keeping touch with her, but not nearly to the level that we did when we were together. As friends, how often should I call her? I want to keep in touch, but not so close to the point where we get romantically close again.I must say I feel extremely relieved, and the fact that she has calmed down, accepted things the way they are, and still wants to be distant friends makes me extremely happy. This girl gave me the time of my life, and I am extremely thankful for everything and its unfortunate that I fell out of love, but thats the way it is.
God what a relief
To be fair to the girl, who is no doubt going through even stronger emotions, I don't think you should call her at all. Calling her will awaken hope that all is not lost. Talk to her when your paths happen to cross, and that's all, I think.
Agreed. Imagine swapping sides, and a girl kept calling you after splitting up with you. Part of you would think "maybe she's just testing my love" or "maybe she's still interested in me a bit". It's false hope which will make her feel even worse eventually.
Yeah, I agree with the two previous posters. I went through something like that, and I was quite distant from my x for a while, but just recently we became good friends again. I think it was best that way because I never gave any false hope, and that led to a good friendship later on.