Traitor?

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Ok, well for the past few weeks, since I started school actually, I met this guy named Aaron only one year older (15) who's in most of my classes and he's really nice, sweet, smart, funny, and gorgeous. And he's been a really good friend to me by helping with homework assignments, chatting during the lunch periods and what not. And we have grown closer and started going out and he asked me to be his gf. But the problem with everyone seems to be that he's white. I don't care and wouldn't care if he was purple or green or from a different planet. He is absolutely the nicest person I have ever met. He walks me home, gives me the most romantic compliments ever, his family is extremely nice especially his dad, and it's just crazy how much I'm into him. He has these really sexy greenish grayish eyes and adorable blonde hair which adds to his hottness . But ever since I have started hanging with him, family and friends have been on my case for the longest time. Usually I wouldn't let this bother me and would ignore but it's getting out of hand. My friends have been giving me dirty looks and saying that I'm turning white or what other stupidness they like to say. The guys especially are telling me that I'm a traitor and saying that white guys don't make brown babies brown guys do... that is such crap. I'm not even thinking that far ahead. When I hug him or when we raps his arms around me in public people just shake their head and I heard this one guy say "stealing our females once again" what kind of stupidity is that? I am tired of walking down the hallway and getting the dirtiest looks ever. If looks could kill I'd be long dead. My friends are such hypocrites. I had spoken to Aaron about it and he was like it's no big deal they're just ignorant but even though I listen to him when he says it, it still gives me doubts. Last Thursday my friends brought me to a restaurant and gave me a 1 hour (waste of time, I could have been studying) lecture on how what I am doing will bring me many enemies and made me stare at all the boys that passed by the window to tell the difference thinking I was going to change my mind. They just don't get it. It's not like I don't like them I just like Aaron because of his personality and how generous he has been to me, more than others that I know. Even my friends who are Asian and Hispanic think that it's wrong. My white friends don't find anything wrong with it and say that interracial couples are always best since most of them are in one. I don't even want to get started on my dad... that's a whoooole nother story. He'll go back all the way to the days of colonial America. I just don't know what to do anymore. Why do people think this way? And why are they giving me a hard time when I barely did anything? Am I really being a traitor? Is what I'm doing wrong?

It sounds like West Side Story ("A boy like that..."). No, you're not a traitor, and you're not doing anything wrong. Some traditional (and bad) ways of thinking don't die easily. It's unfortunate. If I were you, I'd hold my ground. Family and friends will just have to get used to the idea. But keep in mind this is a white guy telling you this.

The guy who was worrying about his women being stolen would be dateless even if your boyfriend wasn't going out with you. What a jerk.

You are in no way a traitor and it isn't wrong to date a guy who just happens to have a lighter skin tone. He's still a human being, flesh and blood just like you, and all these people you're calling your friends are completely in the wrong. With all interracial couples you're going to have some people who do not completely agree with the relationship, but if you like this guy and he likes you I say you should go with it and enjoy yourself. You just need to explain to your family and friends that what they're doing is hurting you, not helping you. Good luck my friend *hugs*

If anyone gives you shit just tell them to fuck off and give them the finger thats what i do when people give me dirty looks. My friend got arrested the other day for mooning these toffs in a cafe for giving him dirty looks cus of his mohawk ha ha ha.

So is that your friend in the picture or you? either way it is awesome!

Thanks ^^ Thats me. Its a lot longer now and dyed black because i had to redye it too much and was too much maintinece when red.

Thanks for the advice. But, I'm not exactly one to curse people out or give them the middle finger . I guess it's becuase I'm a chicken or whatever. I get sad or feel sympathetic whenever I see someone in trouble or hurting. That's so pathetic.

You don't need to take a swing at other people. If you look angry (which you deserve to be) and walk away, they should get the idea. I mean, in 2005, people need to be able to deal with interracial dating. I wouldn't think it would be so difficult in New York. Where I live, it surely wouldn't be noticed. I've seen a lot of interracial (inter-everything, in fact) couples.I think you'd find interracial dating very difficult in Japan, by the way.

Why is that?

For the most part, the Japanese are very insular. They are quite unaccepting of outsiders. You can live there for decades, and you'll still be a gaijin. If you're not Japanese, and especially if your skin is dark, you will not have an easy time fitting in.

gaijin?

non-japanese.Steve, yeah I know about that. But I have tons of friends and family in Japan. I need to look out for that sort of thing but I already know about it, had a Japanese bf before but yeah I know. Thanks.

A gaijin is a non-Japanese person. In Japan, if your a gaijin, you're an outsider. The culture can be rather xenophobic.(JapanFan14, I'm not saying that you shouldn't visit or even live there, as long as you don't have an idealized preconception of what it will be like. If you have family there, it will be a lot easier. But if you're upset about how you're treated w.r.t. interracial dating here, it surely won't be better there.)

I do it all the time its brittiant you get someone staring and giving you horriable looks and you just descretely mouth fuck you at them and watch them look away akwardly. I wouldnt go around feeling embarrased about somthing like ineraceal dating, if people give you nasty looks its because they are cunts so let them know that. Dont be scared to give people shit back, nearly all of them will back off if you flip a bird their way cus then that makes them feel akward.

I don't get it. Where do you live? Are you asian? I see tons of biracial couples in minnesota. What is wrong with your friends?

They seem to be a little more narrow-minded in New York City.

No, I'm Cuban/Hatian. Alot of people seem to be perfectly fine with it. It's my friends who have the same skin tone as me who seem to have the problem.

now that seems odd to me.