Underwear party: it sounds worse than it is

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That's mainly because all their life they have someone controlling them, and then when they're on their own they don't have anyone telling them not to do stuff so they just go crazy.but yeah, one of my brothers' friends is a cop's kid and he was recently expelled from school for stabbing a kid in his class in the hand with a pencil.

I don't think dancing with someone is a big deal. Does your boyfriend know you went to the party? If you feel guilty you should tell him, and then tell him that it's no big deal.

I don't think dancing with someone is a big deal. Does your boyfriend know you went to the party?It depends what you were wearing, how you were dancing, and why you went to a type of party, without your boyfriend, that is known to spark sexual activity.

typical girl, screw the other guy go for the hotter one

typical girl, screw the other guy go for the hotter oneScapegoating is a lot easier than getting your own sh*t together, isn't it?

I told my boyfriend before I went to the the party, that I was going, and what I was wearing.I guess I'm just niave but think that parties aren't places to make out or hook up, but just a place to dance around and have a good time, and maybe meet some friends.I even told my boyfriend the next day that I was infatuated with the other guy, and he said he trusted me. I've had time to think and I realize that I love my boyfriend, and yeah, I was just infatuated with this other guy. I didn't even really know anything about him.I was just very flattered becuase he was one of the "cool" people that usually never notice me. My boyfriend is coming up next weekend for my birthday, and I can't wait to see him again.

I am glad things worked out and you get to see your b. Have you seen the guy since the party?

no I haven't seen the other guy since the party. But he did invite me to a party this past friday which I declined.

"I was just very flattered becuase he was one of the "cool" people that usually never notice me."Since when in the fuck do you need to be noticed....and what makes him one of the "cool" people....there is no such thing in my eyes. The term "cool people" should have long since left your vocabulary after you finished your high school years. People that are "cool" are the friends and people you already have around you...yah know the ones that are always there for you whom you know you'd never let them down. You can only classify people as "cool" once youve gotten to know them...not just because they have a great body or seem to be the heart of a party. If I sound like an asshole Im sorry, but really get over the whole being flattered by being noticed by "cool" people you dont even know, thats doing a disrespect to yourself and to those that you already hold dear to your heart, friends or boyfriend alike Really look at what you have, which seems like youve decided that this is a great guy...one thats been a great support to you throughout the years. Someone that seems like he really cares about you. However, there does seems to be an issue with is bodily apperance. Which is totally fine! I mean shit if my guy looked like a pear (if I was a girl that is) and played video games all the time...Id be like hey look babe....I think you need to explore things outside the realm of video games and maybe go to the gym a couple of days a week both for your own personal benefit and because it would turn me on. Nothing wrong with being honest. In any case thats the way Id go about it.Seems to me that you got a great guy, who has a couple of flaws like any of us guys do. I mean it seems like youve been together for a while even though he lives 2 hours away and thats say a lot. So take a look at what you got and if you want some changes, bring them up. Us guys are really receptive as long as your straight forward with us, its when you guys beat around the bush or dont say anything that keeps us in the dark. Its like you just want it to be a natural change on our part sometimes when really we need some outside inspiration. Yah dig? Hope that helps

Wow! Quality post there!

Thanks for being honest.I had mentioned to my bf that I would like it if he accompanied me to the gym at least once a week, and he said "no way" so I asked him to do some crunches and push ups every night before bed. He says he does them when he remembers. I really didn't want to tell him that I thought he needed to get into better shape becuase I thought he would take it offensively. If someone, even my bf, said I needed to get into shape, it would really hurt.And yes, I do have a great guy who is still with me for reasons I don't even know why, becuase if I was dating me I would have dumped me a long time ago.

Good! I'm glad it worked out for you.

In reply to: I asked him to do some crunches and push ups every night before bed Does he not get subtle messages? In reply to:if I was dating me I would have dumped me a long time ago. What's going on here? You sound like a great girl who any guy would be lucky to have.

In reply to:What's going on here? You sound like a great girl who any guy would be lucky to have.Awww thats so flattering I almost had to grab the box of tissues

I can be really whiny, and moody a lot.

and I keep complianing to him about his family, which he doesn't mind granted, becuase he doesn't like his family either.

but I also get jealous over nothing and am easily provoked.

I honestly don't know why he puts up with me.

but thank you for the compliment just the same.

Hmmmm...it kind of sounds like you're a normal human being. And he sounds very Zen.

Whats with you and Zen steve, you say that all the time...you fruitcake

you fruitcakeVery nice. THat's the third time you've used that word as an insult.

Not insulting you Steve....if I would have insulted you I would have used some outlandish comment instead of fruitcake. But really you use Zen more than I use fruitcake

One bends, seemingly going with the flow, but does not break. Therein lies true strength.It works for Shao Lin masters, and it worked for Ganhi and Martin Luther King. It also allows some relationships to endure.