Hey This is really hard for me, I dont know what to do, so I guess Ill fill you in and you can give me advice...Well I met this awesome girl in school, weve been going out for close to 2 months now, and everything seemed to be going awesome.. Then on friday a few of my friends told me they think she might be cheating on me, and I dont know what to do. Shes been hanging out with this short kid that I thought shes just friends with, but they keep telling me theyre holding hands, and that doesnt bother me that much, but it leads me to believe there could be more going on... We both moved here a little while before the new school year, so we dont have many friends yet, and she says this guy is like one of her only friends, so I guess its ok for them to be close (though I do frown everytime she gives him a light 1 armed hug to say bye, and hear they hold hands) but all these stories keep telling me somethings going on.. I really like her and we connect really well.. we talk on the phone for hours about pretty much anything, and she swears to god she isnt cheating on me and she would be the happiest girl in the world if she was with me forever. We both love eachother, and we do stuff couples do, but still I dont trust this guy... do you have any suggestions on how to figure out if somethings up, how to stop it, or what to do? Thanks... I dont want to lose her...
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Tough situation... is she cheating?
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Well, I know how you feel and it's definitely good that you are protective and watchful. But I'd say you should talk to her about the situation. Tell her that you want to make sure that you're the only guy that she likes more than a friend and that if you arent every offering her what she wants, to tell you. Second, men usually are very jealous about their women. But you have to realize, she has friends too. For example. I have a friend at school who is one of my pretty good buddies. But I'm really good friends with his girlfriend. He knows that we are good friends, and yes he watches me But I'm still really good friends with her. So you have to realize that even though she's your girlfriend, she probably has really good friends too, or at least she is starting to develop them (since you are new to the school)
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The day I heard about it I got really pissed off and it took me like 2 hours to calm down after I got home(I played guitar and listened to some music, it helped), then I called her. this was last friday, and when I called her I said something like this, not sure how close this is... "Hey I heard something about you today and we need to talk about it. Its about you and ****** fooling around during lunch. Im not about to tell you who you can be friends with and who you can't, but friends dont do that. If youre going to lie to me and tell me you love me when youre messing around with someone else Im not going to deal with it *****. Im sorry but its either him or me. I really think we can last but if you do stuff like this just break up with me and take my heart with you, I love you so much... more than anything in this world, but I cant worry about this anymore... I need to know youre going to be faithful to me as much as I am with you. I havent touched another girl since weve been going out, and 2 girls asked me out or if I wanted to fool around and I said no, I have a girlfriend and I love her. Do you know why? because I do. I hope you feel the same, and i want to get this sorted out tonight so Im not losing sleep over a lie. I love you *****, and Im praying this isnt true, but I have to tell you, Ive been scared of this happening since I saw you first hanging out with ******. And if youre wondering about after school, I was mad. And it was partly at you, partly at ******. I was thinking about if this is true, and you two are going out or making out, kissing, holding hands or whatever with ***, how could you look me in the eye and tell me you love me, when youre lieing to me."Yeah I thought about what to say for a while, and after I said that last sentence she broke down crying, and I forget what happened after that, but I remember her saying something like " if you dont believe me when I tell you I love you, I wont say it... me and ***** are just friends and hes one of the only friends I still have, alot of my friends dont hang out with me anymore blah blah blah..."So while shes away this week Im pretty much screwed into thinking about what to do, what shes doing, and how Im going to fix this. I really love her and will do anything to fix this... any advice will help me... thanks.
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Dude i went through almost the same thing as you, me and my girl have been going great for almost 4 months now but a while back it wasnt so great. she would go to the camp ground almost everyweekend and at the time get high(i wouldnt let her drink) and she was always with this guy and it bugged the shit outta me and she would just tell me it was her friend and all but i still didnt care. And i heard she had cheated on me with him and all this bullshit. But i found out it isnt true and what im tryign to say is girls have guy friends to just like us,maybe one of your friends likes your girl and is trying to get you two to break up. Or something like that, well keep us updated man, later
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Haha, boy do I know that feeling.. Well somewhat..My girl and I have been together for 8 months, and I always get paranoid about her cheating on me, knowing she wouldn't, it's just one thing I realize... Love makes you the happiest, stupidest thing in the world. Or break you of course...My opinion, she isn't cheating on you if she would break down that much, of course i've heard of some girls faking it, if you're saying I love you that intense at 2 months, chances are highly against her cheating on you.But, that's just my opinion, love can happen in the weirdest places, just gotta know how to not let it engolf you.
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i'd say that you talked to her very well. you said the right things and you did the right things to ensure that you told her what you wanted to say. the way she responded sounds like she really does care about you and will save the good stuff for you. i'm glad you made it quite clear to her.now, don't worry about it and think about the good times you've had with her
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Thanks for the help everyone... you are all awesome.
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You just have to talk to her. Maybe the guy is just a good friend and she doesn't know you are upset.