I'm not sure that you represent the average male. In any case, there are lots of men and women who can have sex without an emotional attachment. I mean, how attached can people get in one evening?
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Why do Guys Cheat?
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it's ok.. i'm in a way better mood now. well not really but not cuz of u.. my older brother want shair and let me play with our.. i mean his.. new PS2.
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The times I've had those "one night stands" is when I know a relationship is over. When I've felt beat down for too long, and I need a lift. Sex makes me feel better.
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A lot of men and women have one night stands when they're not involved with anyone else.
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>I'm not sure that you represent the average male.
Yeah that's about ignorant. Are you saying because I'm a gay male it makes me less of a male? IF that's even CLOSE to what you are implying, that statement is just as ignorant as the perosn who said over weight people don't have good personalities.
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I thought that an opinion is something that should be beyond dispute. How dare you. And playing the gay card, no less.In our society as it is, with the males who populate it, most guys want to get laid. An emotional attachement would be a great thing, but I'll bet, if asked the question, especially to a young guy, "Suppose a real relationship is not on the horizon, but an attractive (to you) woman who was guaranteed to be free of disease wanted to have sex with you. Would you?", most would answer yes.Your point of view represents that of many men. It may be commendable. But I wouldn't call it average.
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Don't be a freak Ass Steve. If you did't mean Gay than explain your damned statement "I'm not sure that you represent the average male."And never said I was the average male in the respects of I need emotional attachment for sex. Just who I am. Thanks.
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I just did, but from another thread I learned that you don't read my posts. Go back and read my last post, or stop wondering.And once again, how dare you question someone's opinion. It's an opinion, for goodness sake! How can it be wrong?!?!?
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Well I don't know how this answers my question:>In our society as it is, with the males who populate it, most guys want to get laid. An emotional attachement would be a great thing, but I'll bet, if asked the question, especially to a young guy, "Suppose a real relationship is not on the horizon, but an attractive (to you) woman who was guaranteed to be free of disease wanted to have sex with you. Would you?", most would answer yes.But whatever that's fine. I just wanted to make it clear that sexual orientation doesn't make anyone less or more of a man.Sorry if I Jumped that guy but the way you worded it sounds really bad.
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It had to do with solipsism, and nothing to do with sexual orientation.
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Weird YOU should be asking that question .. have you read your sig lately?
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hehe I said:>Sorry if I Jumped that guy meant "Jump the gun" LoL!
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hugs back at ya Eddie Geez, you just finally realized I've got a great mind!?!? lol just kidding with you ^_^
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I mean, how attached can people get in one evening?I think there is some hormone released during sex form both partners that makes them attached to the other, except the testotrone that the guy has counteracts it... And since you, Steve, love those links, I will go look for them. Check out #9... Oxytocin But I'm not too sure if oxytocin is the hormone I mean...? Ah well, I'm sure I'll be corrected eventually. But anyways, to answer the question (that was pretty much rhetorical), you probably don't get greatly attached.
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Yes, you have the right hormone. And I love data.In reply to:Love Will Keep Us Together. Does sex save marriages? Crenshaw says affectionate touch increases levels of oxytocin, a desire-enhancing chemical secreted by the pituitary gland which she labels the "bonding hormone." Oxytocin may help frequent couplers remain coupled more frequently. That's for people who have a longstanding relationship. It's also what helps bond a mother to her child.
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Guys are genetically encouraged to cheat. By having sex with as many women as possible, by planting the most seed, he will produce more offspring.
Women cheat because it increases their chances of having an orgasm, which increases the chance of pregnancy.
I'm not talking about what they're thinking, this is just the biological wiring. "Cheating," which is a nonexistent concept in the state of nature, leads to more children, which is the biological purpose of sex.
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> Guys are genetically encouraged to cheat. By having sex with as many women as possible, by planting the most seed, he will produce more offspring.
That seems logical.
> Women cheat because it increases their chances of having an orgasm, which increases the chance of pregnancy.
That is wildly speculative. Recent research point to the female orgasm being an accident of evolution. There are other reasons it may have been advantageous for women to have stepped out on their significant other in primitive times.
> I'm not talking about what they're thinking, this is just the biological wiring. "Cheating," which is a nonexistent concept in the state of nature, leads to more children, which is the biological purpose of sex.
Orangutangs are wildly promiscuous. Gorillas are not at all. Humans are somewhere in between. Female promiscuity is correlated with male semen production, which is correleated with testicle size (proportional to body mass).
Everyone having sex with everyone else at every opportunity is not necessarily the path to maximizing the number of successful offspring one produces. Likewise for personality traits; the most agressive is not always the winner.
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Why Men cheat...I would have to say every relationship is different. There are so many variables that go into answering that question why men cheat. One reason may be is one of the parties involved just somehow forgot what it takes to keep the love in the relationship going. A relationship is a two way HARD working job that needs to be fulfilled by both parties. 100% of each ones love, trust, honesty, friendship, loyalty needs to be the main focus of their relationship. When one person only contributes 80% of their efforts into the relationship, then that leaves 20% room for error or something false to enter. Don't take that chance. Devote your time to the one you're in love with.
Your relationship is so vital on communicating with each other; working things out together, telling each other that you love them on a daily basis, showing your love, and taking a good LOOK at yourself and finding ways to improve the things that YOU'VE let go of and gave up on. Don't get so relaxed that you forget the important essentials of what a relationship is based upon. So a man or woman may cheat with the intentions of not knowing which way to turn. They get sidetracked by false love and self gratification to try and make up the difference of that inadequate feeling they're getting from their partner. They're not getting that full 100% feeling of love that they need. I know....This is NOT a reason to cheat. But we all make mistakes in our lives. So many people take the easy route of cheating instead of looking at their fears of their relationship of trying to make it work. Therefore the weak cheat. Therefore the man or woman cheats. That is only one small reason or my opinion why a man may cheat.
Or the man is just a horny bastard acting on his animal instincts?
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back before i became a pussy whipped man (about 2 years ago)I datd almost exclusivly married women. I did because then I could stay single and they didnt come back around, they were there and then gone and Id see em once in a while but they had familys and kids and husbands and so they didnt bother my lifestyle.now I cant say why women cheat but I can tell you something that you can do to help keep your wife from cheating.all of those women I got to because I gae them what thier husband wasnt....attention. After you are with someone for a while you tend to start taking them for granted and dont pay them the attention that they need. Get to wrapped up in your own side bars ad what you wnt and foget that they have wants and needs too. I never could have gotten them if they were not looking for some attention. All I did was spend some time with them and listen what they had to say.I was a bastard I agree but because I did that I learned some stuff and now Iv been with this girl for almost 2 years and living together for 14 months. we will be gettingmarried soon, no date is set but we would like to get it set up and planned for before the first of the year and make sure I always pay attention to her. with men it can be many many different reasons to cheat and I suppose with women too but the biggeest reason (atleast in my own mind) that women do is because of emotional needs being ignored.
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> ...attention....
That is some good advice (StealthWarrior and grvtykllr). It is absolutely correct.