my bf and i, both virgins, have been trying to loose our virginity to each other. so far we're having trouble. he cant seem to get this penis inside my vagina. but then again my vagina must be pretty small and tight since nothing as ever gone inside before. and when he tries, my vagina seems to reject his penis. and the whole time i'm whining about the pain i feel at my vagina opening when he tries. any advice on how he can finally get in? should he just keep on slowly pushing it in? or finger my vagina till it gets looser (who knows how long that will take) and then proceed with his penis? any advice would be appreciated! thanks!!
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We're having trouble having sex!!!
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You need to totally relax when he is putting it in there.
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You might not be adequatly lubricated. Try more foreplay or an artificial lubricant (ky, astroglide, etc.)
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is there such thing as him not being hard enough? can u get harder than hard? or once it's hard, it's hard. LOL
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Why did you post this twice?
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There are certainly different levels of hardness...
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This is a common problem in first-time sex. If a girl is worried, her vagina can tighten up without her wanting it to, and prevent the penis getting in very far. Attempts to push it in cause pain, which results in more involuntary tightening.
What is needed is to be more relaxed - which, of course, is sometimes difficult. Some soothing music and a hot bath can help. Lots of foreplay is good too - he certainly shouldn't be jumping at insertion as soon as you get your clothes off.
You'll get there.
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i dont think his dick is that long. it's probably on the small size. (length wise) but fatter than it is long. LOL. how does dick size affect how difficult it is getting in? like the bigger (thicker) it is the harder it is to get in u mean? since my vagina must be very tight and small still.
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make sure you're very relaxed and well lubricated
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i'm just thinking hardness is playing a factor in why he cant get in. maybe he isnt hard enough? is that possible? or once you're hard, you're hard? if i c he has a boner, that's enough right?
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He could be getting nervous when you guys are trying to have sex. This might be affecting his erection, causing partial limpness. Have you guys tried anything else sexual? Is he harder during oral sex or a hand job (or anything else you've tried)?
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i have given him hand jobs and blow jobs but i didnt really acknowledge which ones made him harder. and plus we've been playing around and trying to have sex in the backseat of the car since we cant go to his house or my house (there's always someone around). so i cant really see his erection that good at night in the back seat but then again the past times i havent purposely checked out this boner (i get all caught up in myself and the pain i feel when he tries). but i should really take a look at his next time.
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While attempting to have sex for the first time, you're cramped in a dark car avoiding your family and his family. Lol, what a horrible convergence of uncomfortable factors. It's no wonder you two are having problems. My erection would be as limp as a dead fish under such conditions. I suggest waiting until you two are able to enjoy your first time (a bed, perhaps?). It'll be easier and MUCH better
