I'm 17 years old, been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, he is my first and only sexual partner and we have never had any major problems like this up until this point. Recently, I have been very very tired, and unable to have sex with him, as you can imagine this is frustrating for both of us. The problem is, I want to, but I find myself unable to do it because of how tired I feel. , I feel I have lost my sex drive... how do I get it back?I do still fancy my boyfriend but he thinks I don't and it is hard to convince him.I'm not on any medication, my diet is the same as it has always been, the only thing that has changed is that I am no longer on the contraceptive pill and I started my college course which does have long hours.I have tried to initiate sex n stuff with my boyfriend but after a while I just feel so tired that I have to stop and leave him unsatisfied... whats wrong with me?
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I'm 17 and I've already lost my sex drive!
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Almost any woman will not feel sexy when very tired. Try to get more sleep, though it may be partly due to the stress of the new course and you may have to wait until you are more used to it.
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Marijuana?
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Marijuana is great
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One of the most common causes for a decrease in sex drive is fatigue. Has anything been happening in your life lately that is causing extra stress/anxienty and leaving you tired? Maybe it is because you have started a college course which has long hours. Beyond being tired, depression, as well as anxiety disorders, especially undiagnosed and untreated, often affect one's libido. Take some time to think about how you've been feeling lately, separate from the obvious frustration at not being as sexually charged as you want to be.Why not try watching movies with your boyfriend first to try to get you both aroused. Or why not first both relax in a tub with relaxing music to get you in the mood? I hope these tips and avice will be of use to you.
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Have you ever used any sexual aids as "Upset" mentioned? They do heighten your arrousal.
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I would say it is due to stress/fatigue in your life over anything at this point. Before classes started again, I generally masturbated everyday, and now that I've moved again for school, and dealt with class (among other things), I generally masturbate maybe once a week, sometimes not even that.
I still get aroused as much, but don't feel like acting on it as much.
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Ok, since I made this post, things have gotten better we had general normal sex and I explained I wanted him to be a little more adventurous and change the way he does things, like u guys suggested, So, last night we tried out owme stuff (including role play) and I think things are back on track, thanks alot for the advice guys, and no, marajuana is not the right answer.