Ok, here is the story. i have a girlfriend. probally the hottest girl that ive ever met, and the only girl ive ever loved. we have been together only a little over 3 months. and like 2 months ago, she said some thing about a medical thing that she couldnt tell me about until she knew me longer. Then it came up again, when we were discussing weather to have sex or not, she keeps putting it off, even though we do everything else. there doesnt seem to be any thing wrong at all... But she keeps saying yes, in a little while, and then changes her mind next time we talk about it. She finally came out and said that the reason she cant have sex with me is because she cant tell me yet, and she cant have sex with out telling me i guess? so now im so confused as to what it could possibly be. she will not tell me. any one know of any thing that could be up? she said not another person alive knows other than her mom. Not even her best friends or any thing. can any one help as to what might be up?
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Can Any One Help Me With This??
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We'd just be guessing. It might be some malformation of her genitalia; it might be a bad experience, such as rape, that has left psychological scars; it might be an STD or another disease transmissable by sex; or any of a lot of other possibilities. It might be something trivial or something serious. I'm afraid you'll have to be patient.
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Ive fingered her, and eaten her out, nothing wrong down there. and she is a virgin so i dont think it was rape... although that is a good point i guess. i didnt think of that one. man im going to pull my hair out waiting now that i know some things wrong! and she doesnt trust me thought to tell me yet, even though she wants to move in with me, and we love each other. so it must be some thing serious...
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It's serious to her, but it may be something she worries about unnecessarily. But try to prove yourself trustworthy by being patient with her.
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Be there for her like a good man should be. Give her time to build her trust, and when she feels comfortable you will know, but just relax some b/c she may be able to see that you are anxtious and that may be making her nervous.
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ok look this is what you do. you say you love her then to tell her "you just tell me when YOU are ready to tell me". then if she stll does not tell you with in a day or so the ask her mother what it is. tell her mother that you love her and you want to know what is wrong with her cause she will not tell what it is. cause if she is hott the way you say she is just take it day by day cause you will know soon. if you need something more like help from someone i am here for you bro. let me know how it goes. glad to help.
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If I were her, and he went around me and pumped my mother for information, I'd be pretty pissed.
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If I were her, and he went around me and pumped my mother for information, I'd be pretty pissed. Without a doubt! I'd be furious that he went behind my back. I was with the part of telling her "Tell me when you are ready, I'm here for you" but do NOT ask her mother.Just be patient and be a good boyfriend and be supportive. She'll tell you eventually. Whatever this problem is, it's very personal to her and don't just wanna tell anyone.
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For gods sake, don't be a mother-pumper. That's just a swift kick to your boys waiting to happen.Besides what are ya gonna say?, "Hey ma, I'm want'in to bang your daughter, but that bitch is an ice box, can ya help me out." You go around say'in shit like that & your gf may not get the chance to kick your boys, they'll be sitting in a jar in mamma's window sill.
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Maybe it's just an excuse she's making up so she doesn't have to engage in sex.
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bingo. and you've only been together for 3 months and you guys are in love and moving in with each other and having sex. hmm..
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just be patient, it's good for you.