I need advice!

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Well I got some disturbing news today. My best friends, whom I havent talked to in a while, what with homework and my busy weekends (we now go to different high schools so I don't see her much). Anyways, She called me today asking me for advice. She had started smoking and she can't get her mind off of smoking (We're both 14! ). We were both some of the smartest people in our class last year and we were "good" people (never into drugs, skipping, smoking ect.) And she also told me that today she skipped the whole day for no reason. She sounded so upset at herself when she called me and I made her promise to stop doing these bad things. But I know that smoking is adictive and she admitted she had been doing it since Augest, because one of her friends peer pressured her into dsoing it. I'm so upset about this, it's just so...shocking. I really don't knao what to tell her other than to stop. This whole thing is making em upset. Well if anyone has ANY advice it would be very helpful.

Things will run their course, you cant stop her.

ANd since when are people that skip school not the 'good people'

Java_Addict, was that sarcasm, or another failed attempt at giving advice? Or both?

How was that a failed attempt? She wasn't stopped mid sentence or interupted or anything, she said what she meant to say and it was her advice. Just cause you don't like it or don't consider it good advice, doesn't mean its not advice.
Now, shut up and don't start arguments. You didn't give any advice yourself so there was no need for you to post here. A bit hypocritical, eh?
So, Hotbuns (don't usually start sentences like that), there isn't a lot you can do for your friend apart from just reminding her that what she is doing isn't great, remind her that when she feels she needs to smoke she doesn't have to, that skipping school is going to get her nowhere.

In reply to: there isn't a lot you can do for your friend apart from just reminding her that what she is doing isn't great, remind her that when she feels she needs to smoke she doesn't have to, that skipping school is going to get her nowhere. yea I told her that, I was just wondering if theres anything else I can do to help her?

Poor bob, well I am surprised you havent hijacked this thread along with Java yet, but I guess only time will tell. And yes, you're right, it was advice. Unfortunately, it wasn't good advice."There is nothing you can do to stop her"Yes there is.

someone thats addicted to something can only stop themselves.

and i only hijack the ridiculus threads, or ones that are way off topic to begin with

There is nothing you can do to stop her> Yes there is. What should she do?

In reply to: Poor bob, well I am surprised you havent hijacked this thread along with Java yet Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but you are the one who has hijacked this thread. Java gave advice, which although you think is bad, it was advice. You came along and attacked (strong word I know, but ya did) Java and didn't contribute at all. You disagree with her, so tell us, what should Hotbuns do?

In reply to: >> There is nothing you can do to stop her> Yes there is.What should she do? Well, Since I dont know if hotbuns is referred as "she", I am assuming you mean hotbun's friend that's addicted. Personally, I think addictions is just another excuse to take such things as cigarettes. She is only addicted, because she says that she is, that's really the only thing keeping her 'addicted'. Ive tried many drugs, cigs, alcohol, never became addicted at all. Maybe i'm just in synch with myself psychologically. I say that, because I am definately not in synch physically. Good day.

You are so incredibly ignorant you cant just go around and say addictions arent real, because they are. In many drugs a part of the brain craves them and once it gets them it needs more and the more you take the more you need, itsscientificly proven. Dont go running around spouting your mouth about things you have no idea.

Hotbuns is asking what she, herself, should do. Obviously Hotbuns' friend's personality is a lot different from yours. What should Hotbuns do, as a friend?You may be resistant to addiction, but a lot of people are not. There are a lot of people who want to quit smoking, but can't. I won't even mention amphetamines.

In reply to: There are a lot of people who want to quit smoking, but can't Yeah thats true. She said she might start chewing gum to help her stop, but I don't think thats gunna work.

Do you mean the nicotine-containing gum?

Let her smoke if she wants to smoke. You dont need to control everyones life.

It sounds like she doesn't want to smoke.

Then she is stupid and should start smoking crack instead

That did not make sense. Are you high now?

Not really.... Im coming down off of meth

but I should go smoke a bowl of ganja