Hey guys! I just wanted to ask you for your opinion. When I met my g/f, and before we started going out, there were a few guys who really liked her and they happened to be my friends. They all asked her out but she didn't go out with any of them, instead she became my g/f because we really liked each other. Despite that fact, one of the guys kept insisting and telling her how he loves her very much asking her to go out with him and stuff like that. I've talked to my g/f and she told me she only likes him as a friend and I believe her. As a matter of fact he is a fun guy and she seems to enjoy spending time with him, just as she spends time with her g/fs. But what sometimes really pisses me off is the fact that he often sees her more than I do and stays at her house late, while she usually kicks me out early when I come. Its not that I am worried about her cheating on me, at least I still trust her, its just that it really makes me mad sometimes when I call her and find out that the guy is there again and instead of seeing me she sees him. I am not sure though, whether he asks her if he can come or she invites him. Probably both. So I don't know if I should tell her that I don't like it or if I should simply ignore it and take it easy. Not letting her be friends with other guys sounds ridiculous to me but on the other hand, her spending so much time with him is also kind of strange. What do you guys think?
What should I tell her?
hey matei was sorta in the situation you described... cept i was the friend of your gf. i'm not proud of this, infact i realy regret it, but little to the knowledge of her bf... we had something in the closet happening. now things could be totally different in your situation, hopefully you can trust her.however if i were in your situation, and i knew that my gf was playing around with some guy that has the hots for her, up late, at night, and seeing her more than myself, i would be pretty annoyed.what would i do??? i have no idea. it seems nazi like to say "you cant see him." but also doesnt seem right what she's doing. maybe if you can, discuss it with her. bring everything out in a conversation with her and see what her response is.
it's natural for all guys to go crazy when their g/f has guy friends, but let's face it, do you talk to girls too and flirt with them? I digress.Anyways, I'd say you confront her and tell her 'I just want to make sure that what we have together is special between us'. Be honest with her and tell her how you feel about her seeing your friend late at night. Openness could save a thousand lives.
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