Hey anybody, I am 15 and am confused about my sexual prefrence . HELP PLEASE!!!!!
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Don't sweat too much over it. Mixtures of feelings are normal, especially when you're starting out. Don't be in a rush to apply labels to yourself, especially if they don't fit well.Do you want to tell us more about your feelings?
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Aye what ineligible said. Take your time, you are young still. Finding ones sexual preference is not overly important at your age, just take life day at a time. Trust me as you get older things will become much more clear =-D.
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Question for you if I may ask Ntroducing...at what point did you know you that your sexual perference was towards males? And as some have debated, do you think you were born gay or that events and experiences made you who you are today.
P.S. Is gay alright to say? I mean I know some people that get mad when you refer to them as gay...like its a taboo word or something. Its like is there a another word for it? For instance, mental handicapped people...I dont call them retards, I call them metal challenged...now not to say that being gay is a handicap or negative thing by any means as some people that are idiots may view it as, but is their a different word thats not so typical as the word gay which you "guys" (hate classifying, sorry dont mean to) prefer to be refer to when looking at your sexual preference and your sexual preference alone.
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Gay people don't mind being called gay (at least, it's been cool for the past few decades). If you want to be formal, say "homosexual".
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i think people get so worried about things like sexuality at such a young age, dont stress over it! we're always told that whenever we come to our teenage years that we will discover our sexuality etc etc i say fuck it, just take your time, its not a rush. i personally like guys and girls...i think, although im not sure, so i wouldnt label myself bisexual yet. but whatever, you are what you are, and you can do what you want.. you dont need to put a label to it
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Well I had a feeling I was gay when I was 15 (though years prior too just not an extreme form), kissed my first guy than. We were dating I suppose but it never went far into anything sexual. Well when we "broke up" I went back to dating girls for almost 3 years because I thought dating the guy was just a phase. I truely figured it out a few months shy of my 18th birthday. I was just never really honest with my feelings and always tried to hide them because you always hear people with negative words towards gay people.As far as if I believe its born with or experience I truely believe it's something I was born with. I can recall even when I was very young being attracted to boys more so than girls. As I stated in another thread I hit puperty very young, I was 9 years old. And when I used to masterbate it was always to the really cute boys in my class. Like I said I hid my true feelings because I thought I was a "freak" or there was just something mentally wrong with me. It took a lot of soul search and self understanding to discover that it was okay to be gay because being gay isn't what I am, it's just a small part of who I am.And it's cool to say gay =-D. Only term that'll really offend gay males is fag/faggot and usually lesbians don't care to be called Dykes. So yeah, the term gay is certainly acceptable =-D
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i think i was a late starter, lol, i had my first girl crush when i was 16, i had always (and still do) liked guys before that. and maybe like ntroducing said, maybe i dint confront my feelings..whatever, im still not sure, and im happy, im sure i'll find myself out one day, lol..or maybe not..
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I think its common to have girls find other girls attractive...I know my last girlfriend said she had this really off wall dream about being in this lesbian orgy with these really hot women and howw when she woke up she was extremely wet. I mean that of course doesnt mean anything and who knows she could have jsut lied and told me that to turn me on. But with my experience, its common for a lot of women I know to find other women attractive...maybe not that theyd want to jump in the sack with them...but theyve fantasized about it.Even with guys I think the same thing kinda happens but extremely less frequent. And when it does they might think...hey that guys hot or cute, but they dont daydream about doing it with them. Then again...maybe some do...I dont (and no not cause Im homophobic.)With me personal at this very moment I find my college music professor to be hot/cute in this artsy fartsy sense. Am I turned on by him? I dont know what youd call it honest. I mean I wouldnt want to do anything or think anything sexual with him, but I guess it is what it his, I just like his physical features. And as far as the whole Bi thing goes, I dont know if youd consider be being bi or not. I dont think I am. But you be the judge and tell me with what Im about to say. In the past my best friend and I talked about how we wished one of us was a girl because we are perfect for one another. And I got to thinking...I really wouldnt mind spending the rest of my life with this guy if no one else better came along. Accept theirs one thing, I would not be into any sex life with him or the itimacy end of it. I mean I could sleep in the smae bed with him, hell we do that anyways cause we like staying up talking all night when we see each other. We even cuddle...well not exactlly cuddle, but like spooning one another while were sleeping. So yea thats the scoop on that. I think if that did ever happen though hed want to enter into the sexual realm and honestly I think if I would have made a move on him (sexually) at any time in our friendship that he wouldnt deny the idea and actually be willing to give it a try. But yea thats the scoop on that, Ive never had that feeling for another guy though where I could say that I wouldnt mind spending the rest of my life with him. So whats your verdict on things, would you guys consider my as Bi? I personally dont think so.
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Hmm.. now thats an interesting situation. I don't think I'd call that bi. Sounds like you and your friend have a VERY close friendship. I am going to be presumptious to say I bet you have some emotional feelings towards your friend but not sexual feelings. This is actually pretty normal when it comes to females, or should I actually say it's more common with female. Best example I can give is a friend on mine who is gay but has a straight male friend that he is very close with. His friend visits him often and they sleep in the same bed, they even snuggle but his friend has no sexual desires for another guy. I personally thought this was odd so when I asked a professor about this he said that though it's more common with females it of course can happen with males. Basically what happens is that two people become so close to each other emotionally that they almost become genderless to each other. Which makes since if you think about it. When you become so close to someone and known them for a long time, last thing you really think about is the persons gender.Well sorry got a little long winded on ya, but that's personally what I think about the situation. Not saying it's right either, I don't want anyone taking me out of context, it's just my evaluation of the info you gave me. =-D
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i wouldnt put you down as bi
i mean i have a very close friend like that, nothing sexual but we know everything about eachother and can talk openly about anything really, very strong emotional bond, in one way i would say we are emotional soulmates, sounds lame i know, but its a sad rarity that not that many people can relate to eachother that much, in my situatuion anyway
as for me, i think i would sleep with a woman, to put it bluntly, maybe it is just a phase but im open to exploring it
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actually i think everyone has a bit of bi-ness in them,some more than others, i guess society draws people to be straight and have opposite sex partners, thats how its always been like...
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In reply to: actually i think everyone has a bit of bi-ness in them I completely agree with that. As I've told Eddie before, I honestly believe that everyone is attracted to someone of the same sex at least once in their lifetime whether it is an emotional connection or a sexual one. I really don't understand why we as humans have to label ourselves as "gay," "strait," or "bisexual." Why can't we just say "I'm attracted to this person and it's perfectly acceptible." sigh But maybe that's just me. I'll admit that I have been sexually attracted to females and I've also been emotionally attracted to some. Did I ever act on those sexual feelings? No, because I'm more attracted to men (just can't get enough of 'em ) than I am women. Would I ever act on those feelings? Maybe, I'm still young and I have no clue what the future holds for me so I wont say it wont ever happen for sure because anything is possible.
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I really don't understand why we as humans have to label ourselves as "gay," "strait," or "bisexual." Why can't we just say "I'm attracted to this person and it's perfectly acceptible." sigh i completely agree, i hate that labelling system, the thing is with sexuality there are no straight lines or rules, its not as simple as that
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Tjats what I was saying in my post when asking introducing my question...its like why label peoples sexual preference.
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I really don't understand why we as humans have to label ourselves as "gay," "strait," or "bisexual." Why can't we just say "I'm attracted to this person and it's perfectly acceptible." sigh Exactly sweetie! hugs I hate labels, but that's just how society works. People are scared of the "unknown" and are very comfortable with labels. It would certainly be nice if some day people can just be who they are without having people judge them.
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I hate labelsSo then why don't we just stop using them? Who cares what society thinks.
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I'm game for that =-D.