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I never thought i would be one of those people starting a thread like this, mostly cause its embaressing being a member here, (i thought about creating a new account just for this question, but im to lazy for that) So be nice! Now, Ive neve never never gone down on a guy before, mostly cause i never wanted a guy to go down on me so they didnt think it was right that i do it to them, but with my current boyfriend/fiance/fella' he really wants to go down on me, but refuses that i return it back to him. Well, I want to make him happy but I dunno how! Im not what you call kinky, or sexually mature, (despite that im 20...) Help!

So you're saying that he really wants to give you oral sex, but he refuses to do so unless you also give him oral sex? In any case, I don't understand why someone wouldn't want to receive it from their partner, regardless of gender.

Why don't you guys do it one step at a time, and one of you give the other oral sex. The receiver can worry about returning the favor later on.

nope, he wont let me give him oral. Personally, i hate oral done to me i dont like it at aaaallll

Personally, i hate oral done to meYou said you've never done it. How do you know you'll hate it?A lot of people hate spinach...until they try it.

not doing it, never have done it to a guy but a two guys have tried to do it to me, just the thought of a guy going down on me grossed me out. i wouldnt mind trying to go down on adam, but he absolutely refuses saying its degrading to woman and that it makes the allusion of a man being incontrol.

just the thought of a guy going down on me grossed me outUh-oh. Body image issues. It's not gross.> i wouldnt mind trying to go down on adam, but he absolutely refuses saying its degrading to woman and that it makes the allusion of a man being incontrol.If no one is forcing anyone to do anything, then no one is "in control". It's a matter of wanting to give pleasure to the person that you car deeply about. There's pleasure in giving as well. If ever there was a time to be altruistic...

Hey there Java =-D.Well it's kind of "neat" to hear that Adam (how cute our BF's have the same name lol) doesn't want you to give him oral sex because he thinks it degrades women. You don't hear that very often. If this is something you really want to try, explain to Adam that you won't feel degraded that you actually want to do this because you want to give him pleasure. There are mulitple ways you can say that without sounded corny. Like "It won't make me feel degraded because when I give you pleasure, it gives me pleasure" etc etc you get the point.As for you not enjoying oral sex being done to you, that could be a few things. One thing could be the other guys that tried just didn't know what they were doing. It could of been mental because perhaps you just weren't into those guys like you are with Adam. Oral sex (And sex in general) doesn't feel half as good as it does when it's with soemeone you have deep feelings for.I hope that helps alittle. =-D

It does thank you so much, you and steve are big helps I think why i dont like someone 'eating me out' (i hate how vulgar that sounds) is cause the thought of a tounge down there (again i hate how that sounds) grosses me out. bleh.

I think why i dont like someone 'eating me out' (i hate how vulgar that sounds) is cause the thought of a tounge down there (again i hate how that sounds) grosses me out. bleh. Is it because you don't want him to kiss you after? If that's the case they do make latex squares that is actually meant as a barrier for the vagina while giving oral sex. I am sure your local sex store has that.If that's not the case, you have to remember the tongue is just another body part like fingers or a penis. This might sound..odd.. but he kisses you with that tongue, just think of it has him kissing you, just a little firther down. It can be very sensual if you can block the fact of hat he's doing and just focus on the pleasure he's giving.

**Java hon, first off there is nothing to be embarrassed about, and i can't beleive you were even gonna make up another user name to post it LOL

Ok to the 'thing' there has to be a reason why you don't want a guy to go down on you, do you think you smell, or taste bad? (harsh question i know but some women think just that) Are you afraid he will hate it and throw up mid lick - im smiling when i write that by the way.
Oral for me is a very different thing to 'sex', so i get where you are coming from............I don't 100% enjoy it, i prefer to give him head that him do me, but thats me, and it might be you it seems.
As for your boyfriend, i do get where he is coming from, but, if you don't feel degraded by doing it, then i can't see his problem, unless, hes wary like yourself about stuff like that, and in that case you will both have to work through this, talking about it etc.
I suggest you get adam drunk and jump on him LOL JOKING STEVE before you lecture me on the bad points of alcohol and erections and taking advantage of people and we get in to some big debate about date rape drugs etc etc *taking a breath* sorry went off on one then LOL ** :grin: :grin:

I don't think we've ever talked, but I agree with Angel there is no need to be embarrassed.Keep in mind I don't know you, your b/f or the situation. So take anything I say with a grain-of-salt because I'm making a lot of assumptions.If you don't want your b/f going down on you for legit. reasons just tell him. Not all men are pigs. If my lady told me she didn't want to do this or that because...it brings up bad memories or whatever, I would sure respect that and not think any the less of her for it.If you don't want him going down on you out of fear of the unknown....well that doesn't count for much, you might be missing good times! Never know till you try.If you just get nothing out of it, but it doesn't seriously bother you than just make a once in while, special occation thing. I guarantee, unless you push his head back down there, he won't be there long. Most men don't have enough patients when searching for the elusive muff guppy. They don't find it within a minute and they're moving on to other things dumb asses...j/k Anyway it's a thought. I'm being tongue and cheek here so don't take the following to seriously. Tell him get off the macho/ sensitive guy bullshit, you wanna suck that big healthy cock! Seriously though, like I said, I don't know any of you and am making a lot of assumptions. If you find anything applicable then good if not just dismiss it.Take care and best wishes

>>>"makes the allusion of a man being incontrol."

I disagree. As a man, anyone with their teeth around my cock is the one in control...lol :wink:

sorry, Im retarded here as Im new so sooner or later youll get over it and start abusing me like a regular ntill then I have to say I agree with oldfolks up there....if you got my dick in your mouth and are capable of chewing your in control.If hes so worried about it being degrading.....Once my g/f hand cuffed me to the bed and blew me. Now I have no problem with gtting it it was jsut sometig she wanted to do I wasnt afraid or against her doing it. but it was a very good time. Something about being taken totaly out of control is very cool, or atleast to me. try that one on him an I bet he doesnt complain too much when your finished, and hell if he does you can leave his ass tied to the bed and go home, give him tim eto calm down becaue he degraded ya.

"Once my g/f hand cuffed me to the bed and blew me."Handcuffs are FFUUUUUNNNNNN! Can anyone tell I have nothing better to do today then sit here and respond to shit on this board...lol

Java hon, first off there is nothing to be embarrassed about, and i can't beleive you were even gonna make up another user name to post it LOLIm serious! I was like ok. everyone is gonna laugh or ignore this thread cause im a permanent member :P>Ok to the 'thing' there has to be a reason why you don't want a guy to go down on you, do you think you smell, or taste bad? (harsh question i know but some women think just that) Are you afraid he will hate it and throw up mid lick - im smiling when i write that by the way.Hahaha No, i dont have one of those. Im absolutely fine with a guy using his finger and that sort of thing. I talked to him today (its almost like we have to schedual time to be with each other with classes and he has work, its crazy) I think one of things thats different with Adam is that my parents know his parents (its the california jewish connection tee hee hee) So im always thinking omg my parents and i have a strained enough relationship, they dont need to be hearing im having sex too! Cause he is really open with his dad (his dad knows like all of his problems and stuff like that) and his mom likes to get all the little secrets and see where she can do the most damage. As corney and highschool as this sounds, i dont want it to get back to my Father! lmaoOral for me is a very different thing to 'sex', so i get where you are coming from............I don't 100% enjoy it, i prefer to give him head that him do me, but thats me, and it might be you it seems.Exactly! Its very different to me.>As for your boyfriend, i do get where he is coming from, but, if you don't feel degraded by doing it, then i can't see his problem, unless, hes wary like yourself about stuff like that, and in that case you will both have to work through this, talking about it etc.He is always on the womans side for everything, like he doesnt get why sometimes i want it rough or for him to be the boss and stuff like that. He's been like that since he first had sex many moons ago. (i grew up with him so i know all his dirty little secrets :P)I suggest you get adam drunk and jump on him. He doesnt drink. pfft. and hes old enough to buy the beer!

When i started going out with my bf, i told myself that i wouldn't let him go down on me cuz it's disgusting! And that i would never give him oral cuz i thought that was gross too. My opinions changed as we grew closer...i chose to give him oral bacause i loved him and i knew how much pleasure it will give him. I got over the whole 'degrading' issue with one thought: In my hands and mouth, I have the most sensitive and most cherished limb of the male body - the epitome of masculinity in my power...the truth is that a man is vulnerable at that point, so if anyone is in control, it's me . Hehe. I reluctantly let him give me oral, only to discover that it feels amazing, moreover, he loves the taste and feel etc...as was mentioned before, the other guys probably just didnt know what they were doing. Say to yourself "I'm a clean, healthy girl, there is absolutely no harm in him putting his tongue there. Heck i only live once and according to 99% of the oral recieving female population it feel awsome!"I think you just gotta get over that mental barrier... Good luck!

>>>>>>>I disagree. As a man, anyone with their teeth around my cock is the one in control...lol

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Thats exactly what my man says ..............Im in control, and he isn't, in fact I could get him to do just about anything when i have his cock in my mouth *laffin* Ahhhh the control factor ** :grin: