Purity (your opinion)

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I was just wondering since I've been confused about this for quite some time. I'm going to bunch everything into one topic so try and stay with me. Ok, what I'd like to know is your opinion on purity. What would you consider pure? Is it even a good thing? I've been looking at this this site for quite some time and it gives me a good sense of how most people are in certain places (considering your locations) and this site is for people to ask about their sexuality and body. Do you think a person should be thinking of sexual activities as young as 12? 14? 16? Meaning should they be interested in sex with just one person or various people. Or should they be more concerned with school work and what not? I've been wondering if reading certain things about people and their sexual experiences and doing the most... interesting things- would that currupt a person's mind. Or if they've never heard of something before and they finally discover what it is, does that make them less innocent than they were before. Is innocence a good thing anyway? And if people suggest for young ones not to do anything at young ages or anything, why do they do what they do and they reveal to everyone that they lost their virginity at the same age or even younger? Is it something to be proud over knowing that you had sex with various and large amounts of people? I'm not sure if diseases or anything are something to fear anymore. Not sure though if it would affect someone's religion also. The school that I used to go to was a very small private school. Not alot of kids at all, small classes, but great teaching techniques. So of course everyone new each other VERY well. And the grades were from k-12. It was a religious school and 99% of the school never new about masturbation or sex. Of course they were aware of it and we occassionally watched a video on how pornography can affect the mind. But if you had visited the school you could honestly say "wow, these kids know nothing about it" even at the ages of 16. That's pretty much how close I'm talking here. I don't want to start a controversy or anything or even seem like I'm being paranoid or naiive... any of that sort. I just want to know your opinion and views on this. I only bring this up becuase when I look on here I read these things that I've absolutely never in my life have heard of and I'm not sure whether to be ashamed, glad, or worried. These things are not negative but are they really positive either? When I hear people talk about different sex techniques or what cum tastes like (which I had no idea what it was until a friend told me in the school I am in now) or always talking about other things I can't/don't want to mention. Sometimes I wonder if it's bad to think of things like this not to mention do it. Is it wrong not to know? Or is it wrong to know? Is it wrong not to do it? Or is it wrong to do it? I hear tons of things in the girl's locker room at school that I have absolutely no idea what they're talking about and half the time I don't want to know... ok most of the time. And I wonder if that makes me "lame" to not want to know. Most people automatically judge me by saying "why are you so against sex", and this is in the real world not internetland , just because I don't know what something is. Did I know what bj stood for? no. how about giving head? no. To my surprise they are both the same thing... I think. You can't have children withought sex. That's a fact I'm sure. And I will let you know that when I read some of the things on here I just really really.... really don't get it. Criticism just happens to be my worst enemy and I get it alot for so many things. I've just had this on my mind for quite some time so please share your opinions and points of views. Thanks Also, please try not to give cocky answers like "are you stupid or something" and always the classic "you're too young don't worry about it." If you don't mind I would like to know. I've been told that multiple times but I would like to find out for myself what you think. Thanks again

all i know is i'm not pure...

thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaanks for that it really helped. But, I'm looking for a little more if that's ok. May I have some more meaningful posts like from eddie, katie, angel, jenjen, helms, java, sdp... who am I missing Steve!! I always enjoy a good post from him even if it seems rude. Just looking for "posts that makes sense." Hope that's not asking for much.

oh i'm sorry i'm not....... eddie, katie, angel, jenjen, helms, java, sdp... or Steve.. oh..nvm no i'm not. ok well maybe have helms mucles hahaha

Do you equate "purity" with "not knowing" and "not doing"? Is it OK for someone who's 18 to know or do a certain thing, but impure if they're 16? Or 14? Or 12?To me, the word "purity" smacks of "superiority". I understand why it's not a good idea for teens, especially young teens, to have sex, but I don't see the virtue in ignorance. The fact that you hang out on this site shows that you're at least curious. The only other reason you'd be here would be to judge people, but I don't think that's the case.Is "purity" a religious concept? Does it have meaning in a secular context?

Yes, I am on here becuase I am curious but from the things I read on here, what I experience in school, and what I study I'm just wondering if it's a good thing or a bad thing to be "pure" or someting to that extent. No one is pure but in a sense where you haven't done anything or seen anything in that sense to say the least I guess. I am mostly judged for not knowing or doing certain things mostly and especially at school which is why I wanted to know if it was a bad thing. But I would also like a different point of view on it.
No, I don't compare purity and religion together, I try to stay away from that category. But when I was in that school there was really nothing negative at all or much to be proud about becuase nobody really new, but they were all of my religion. That's basically why I'm curious to know.

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>Do you think a person should be thinking of sexual activities as young as 12? 14? 16?
I think that when ever they hit puperty, and the sexual thoughts naturally happen its fine.

>Meaning should they be interested in sex with just one person or various people. Or should they be more concerned with school work and what not?

I think that depends on their priorities and Goals, Mostly because To me school has always been very important, along with pleasing my parents, rabbies and what not, i didnt get a chance to even think about it till i was 18.

>I've been wondering if reading certain things about people and their sexual experiences and doing the most... interesting things- would that currupt a person's mind.

Yes. I often worry that little kids stumble onto this site and read the trolls stuffing cucumbers up their butts, and thinking thats cool.

>Or if they've never heard of something before and they finally discover what it is, does that make them less innocent than they were before. Is innocence a good thing anyway?

Nope, i think that depends on if they act on it. And innocence is in the eye of the beholder.

>Is it something to be proud over knowing that you had sex with various and large amounts of people?

Depends on the person, and if they like that sort of thing.

>I'm not sure if diseases or anything are something to fear anymore.

People should fear STD's every time they have sex, protected or not.

>Most people automatically judge me by saying "why are you so against sex",

Oh now that was pointed lmao And its cause you come off like no one should do it.

CR> i would trade beign dirty and fith for being pure anyday!You think you're dirty and filthy because you were abused when you were very young?JF: I'm not sure why you're tying together knowledge and experience. When I was 11, I was reading everything I could find about sex. But I don't think I'd even masturbated yet, much less had sex. Was I impure?

Oh now if i knew you were gonna say that i wouldnt have put a lengthy reply :P

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Oh my god, sweetie I am so sorry to hear that, and I know how it feels to be abused by someone who you would think would never do something like that. I believe innocence is a very good thing, hold on to it as long as you can because once it's gone you'll never be able to get it back. You can't go back to the days where everything was nothing but rainbows and butterflies, and once thats striped away from you, you feel raw and broken on the inside. You feel lost, you feel unclean, and no amount of hot water or soap can make it go away. If I could go back and choose the way I learned somethings I would.>>i wisish i didn;t know about these things like i found them out. it's a every day thing to think and wonder wut would i be like if i was liek every one else.. i would trade beign dirty and fith for being pure anyday!Sweet heart, you're not dirty nor are you filth. Don't ever say that you are because you're not. I was raped myself when I was a little girl, when I was barely six years old (and yes some people will say "well that doesn't make you a virgin then," well I believe that virginity is something you give away by choice so I still say I'm a virgin because I didn't choose to give it to that person) and I have been sexually assulted by a few other people between the ages of 13 and 16. It's not your fault that those evil things happened to you, it's those sick twisted people who prey in the innocence of children what are the dirty and unclean ones. Not you.

Oh sorry if I come off that way just trying to understand things that I way I read them. At school it's mostly if someone says oh so and so did this to me and I say what's that they automatically think I'm against sex because I know nothing of what they're talking about. It gets confusing at times.

Steve >since you put it that way, I guess not. Putting them together would be inaccurate.

CR > I'm so sorry that happened to you, it's a terrible thing for something like that to occur. Did you ever talk someone about it and was your sister punished?

Its no biggie, after reading more of your posts i realize your not at all against it

(and i know i come off like a horrible ice bitch, but im not lol)

no one else reply to me... reply to japanfan. answer her Qs.... leave me alone!

It's not your fault that you didn't get taught these things at school, its also not your fault that you were in a school which was "pure" i dont like that word to describe but it what you used so im going to stick to it. I dont beleive that people should be engaging in sexual activities with another person until maybe 16? I lost my virginity with JenJen at the age of 17 (both of us). Sexual experiences with masturbation and such when you're alone is more than fine for whenever you start to experiment. as for you wanting to know things, just ask!!! if your friends are looking at you the wrong way, just come here and ask! myself of JenJen would be more than happy to answer if you wanted to PM us any questions... or if you want to make them understand, just tell them how you were taught in school! hope that helped

I'm not a religious person (not even close), so I wouldn't have a religious view on purity, but this is that I think. Purity has to do with what you've done. Knowledge and thoughts are not things that can rob you of purity in the sexual sense...otherwise, noone is pure - the only pure things in the world in my opinion are plants/animals and new born babies. If we're talking about sex, then I think that one is pure until some sexual deed is done. Fantasizing and having sexual thoughts are natural and may happen without conscious control. Knowing about sexual things is fine too, I mean, the more you know, the better dicisions you can make and the more aware you are. It's quite unfortunate that you weren't educated about sex fomally, because I think it's a necessaty. I've been exposed to 'the facts of life' since we had to watch a sex ed video in like grade 4! All us kids went ewww and thats about it, no one walked away any less pure...we just went on to play with our stickers and pogs. A lot also depends on how you've been exposed to sex, if it was done out of love for the person then it's wonderful...I might just even change my previous statement as say that if sex is done out of sheer love and devotion, then it is a pure act. But if it was out of peer pressure or rape or some unfortunate circumstance then something good had been tarnished.I belive that every one should know, do only once they're mature, do it out of love, and nothing about that is wrong.

**wow this is a huge question.

Personally i have never thought about purity. Its not a factor in how i think. Im not religous, i don't beleive in god, havnt' ever really, i guess i have been lucky that i have always had a strong sense of who i am and what i beleive in, and confidence to know what i do i do for the right reasons - at the time. Hindsight is a wonderful thing, and you can grow to regret certain things, for example losing your virginity to someone you wish you hadn't etc etc.
Personally i think there is no need to have sex before the age of 15, 15 and 16 to me, well there isn't a lot of difference in the kids i have known. Young people for some reason feel they need to experience everything, so young, i don't get it, maybe im too old!

Knowing things, and doing things, are totally different things. What i don't get is if you feel this strongly, why are you on this site - not being nasty just asking, you seem to be disgusted by lots of what you read, and yet you are still here..........

people who are older, i know end up saying that young people shouldn't have sex early and then reveal they did just that, but i think thats why they say it in the first place, cos they have been there, done that, and realise it was a mistake, or wish they had waited.......as i said hindsight is a wonderful thing.

There is nothing wrong with education, knowing what giving head is etc etc..............just cos you know what it is and means doesn't mean you're gonna go out and go mad.

im not sure if this post is making any sense, as i have a house full of kids and its sooo noisy i can't think LOL **

what I'd like to know is your opinion on purity. What would you consider pure?After all this, I still don't know, what do you mean by purity?

Do you think a person should be thinking of sexual activities as young as 12? 14? 16?I think puberty dictates your thoughts and desires. It's a natural human response. If someone is thinking about sex or sexual attraction at whatever age, shouldn't make them "impure".I've been looking at this this site for quite some time and it gives me a good sense of how most people are in certain places (considering your locations) and this site is for people to ask about their sexuality and bodyI think the internet is a great resource of information, however, I also think it is a vile place which has corrupted the minds of the young generation. The internet has so much pornography and truly disgusting (and I mean really disgusting) things that are open to anyone including our youth. What affect will it have in the long run? Sure, before the internet, we all still had sexual thoughts, girlie magazines etc.. but nothing even close to the scale of what you can find on your computer screen. I really do think that the internet is gradually(?) bringing about a moral decline in our society.