Okay, well this is my first post here, so first off, hello.Secondly, this forum is the closest I could find to fit my post, so I apologize if it's in the wrong section.Thirdly, my post:It's a weird subject to start, so I guess I'll just say what's in my mind. Two boys at school are dead. They died in a car crash not tonight, but the night before. I was in class with one of them last year, and I was in a writing class with one of them this year where I got to know some of the things that he didn't say outloud to most people, etc. I've had friends closer than them die before, but I guess it's still difficult to go through. One of the real shocking/difficult things I'm going through with this doesn't even really relate to it. I keep thinking about my sister. She was in an almost identical accident to this about 15 or so years back. Basically the stories go like this: Teens in a car, fast driving, no seatbelts, passing people when they shouldn't be, cars flipping. Now the story differs where my sister's car flipped into a ditch, causing her to only be paralized from the waste down, and the two boy's car flipping into oncoming traffic and them dying.Yea, they are two completely unrelated accidents, different times, different places, different people. I still just am having trouble saying to myself, "stop relating the two things and stop thinking you are being selfish." I'm feeling almost guilty that I get to keep my sister, when these lives were ripped away from everyone. It's just...well I don't know. I feel bad about it. Don't get me wrong, I'm glad my sister is doing alright; and I'm sad that the two boys are gone. It's just...weird I guess.Heh, one of the things the boy in my writing class wrote in his "idea catcher" was, "What would life be without change?" I wish I could bring him back to give him the answer that is simply...nothing. But I can't.I'm not really sure what I'm asking for in this post, maybe just someone to say, "Hey it'll be okay," or a little support. Anything would be great. Thanks guys.
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firstly let me say welcome to the boards hugsFor a start, i think its ok to feel what you feel. There is no reason feeling guilty for being grateful you still have your sister, and i am a great beleiver in allowing yourself to feel what you need to feel.Accidents happen, and its kinda expected that hearing the news about the two young guys would bring back memories of your sisters accident. I think its perfectly normal to feel the way you are feeling, and it WILL get better
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When that sort of thing happens it's a horrible shock, and it's not surprising that it brings back memories and feelings about the other accident, which must have been a horrible shock too.There's nothing wrong with the way you are feeling. Time will dull the pain, but the ache will always be there behind the scenes.
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Thanks guys.I'm doing much better today. Things keep on going forward, y' know? (And I love these forums, I may just have to stay around.)
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Glad to hear you're doin much better hon ~hugs Hope you stick around, at the very least the arguments will make you laugh