Hello, I am 15 and i am a softmore in highschool. My girlfreind and I have been going out for a long time now, and we just started to get sexually active. When I say sezually active, I don't meen sex just some minor sexual activity, but anyways I have some sexual issues. I think I have a tight frenelum. It's veryhard for my girlfreind and I to do anything sexual at all with this problem. ALso, I can't seem to cum until after activity, and its just some flowing precum. This makes our play very boreing.My girlfreind keeps on saying it will be alright, we will work around it, when i know that we won't. I don't want this to makeour relationship fail, and I WILL NOT get circumcised unless there is abslolutely no hope, eve then I just might not. It just isn't fair.
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Trying to work around sexual problems.
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Hey bud, what exactly is the problem? Is it that your foreskin won't retract over the head? And are you able to masturbate and ejaculate when you're not with your girlfriend? If so, then the fact that you're only producing precum and not really ejaculating during "play time" is probably related to being nervous and anxious about things. That is quite common and even has a name..performance anxiety! We can help with the foreskin issue if that's something that is happening. The rest of it....is all up to you, it'll just take some "practice" and your girlfriend is right..you'll get through that part. Let us know how we can help, we'll be glad to.
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I will not address the frenulum or foreskin issue since being circumsized I am not qualified.However, regarding the other item. I think that performance anxiety is probably your problem. If you can masturbate to completion on your own then I would guess this is it, or the activity your performing with your girl may not be enough to reach climax.If you think that is the problem I would suggest you try masturbating on your own in front of each other. No hands on from the other party, just do your normal thing to your self. Concentrate on you, just let her watch. You should be more comfortable because it should be something your more familiar with. Once that is really comfortable between the two of you, you should be able to move on to other things with each other.That all said. I think at 15 your a little young to be having sex with your girlfriend. Maybe you just need to slow down a little bit.
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ok...first things first we are not gonna have actual "sex" for a while, untile we rolder. Lance, about the foreskin problem, i really think its a tight frenelum. When i am flaccid i can retract easliy, but when im hard, its much harder too.When i get a rection it pulls back and exposed a litttle bit of the head on its own, but then the rest is up to me.When I trie to pull it back, it jusy won't seem to budge. I also feel alot of tension sometimes on my back side of the penis, trying to pull it. About the cum, I have nave reached in once before on my own, taking a very long time fo me to achieve it though. But beside that i always just get late precum.Is there anyway to stretch my frenelum, because i am NOT getting circumed.
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Hey bud, your frenulum won't reallly stretch...but it will loosen up as time goes on. Keep working at retracting the foreskin down over the head and onto the shaft...the more you do this and the farther you're able to get it down...the easier it'll be on your frenulum. As to the ejaculations...keep trying there bud, sounds like you're still developing, remember we're all able to do things at different times.
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Hey again. I have to agree with Lance here. Given the fact that you do not cum regularly during masturbation. I believe that your body may just not be there yet. For me I was somewhere between 16 or 17 before I actually had cum. Things felt good but I never really came. I can still remember the first time I actually came during masturbation in the shower. I was really excited. See my younger brother (year younger) had shown me one night what his penis could do if he rubbed it. He wasn't sure what was going on. I understood the what and explained it to him but was miffed because he got to do it before me. I kept trying after that, but it took me close to 2 years to catch up. Needless to say, he matured in other ways faster than I as well, shaving, body hair, etc.So, be hand in, you will get there.