Dad problems

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apparently you're never too old to get disciplined when it comes to my family. If you disrespect an elder you already know what's coming. My parents have never gone too far but even if I were to tell someone it wouldn't be absurd becomes its common. Today in school I was talking about it. But one kid in my school gets hit by his father everyday with a wet hot stick for no reason and you see red marks up and down his back. It's horrible but he doesn't want to tell anyone.

it doesn't matter if she's a girl or a guy. what's going on is not healthy. no one deserves to be hit.

You're nearly 20 and your parents slap you???? That is not even close to acceptable. Why on Earth do you stay there?

When my dad used to get physical with me I would usialy go crazy. I remember one time he dragged me outside wanting to "fight" So I beat the shit out of myself while he watched. The look on his face was priceless. Another time when I was about 11 he smashed my face on the stairs and chipped my tooth because I said "fuck you". I went up to my room and he got me to come back down in which time I picked up the nearest wepon (broken glass) and he started getting pissed off at me again and started hitting me so I slashed him with it. I shouldnt have done it but I was young and scared. And then the last time he did anything I glassed him with a pint glass over the face. I never really like hurting my dad cus I respected him thats why I beat the shit out of myself so he didnt have to. But when I glassed him he was strangling me so I needed to get away and hit him with the most painful thing I could. Thats when my parents broke up for a bit. Those were the main times I actualy faught back, he left me alone for quite some time after I did all of those. All the other times I never fought back or my mom saved my ass and pulled him off me lol. If your dads a fucking cock like that your mom should leave him until he gets anger treatment and you should support her to do so. Your dad sounds like he has issues, I remember the only time I ever properly tried to commit suicide was after he had a go at me and told me I was worthless and would never amount to anything. Your home should be the LAST place there should be any violence and fear in. Since my dad doesnt live with us there isnt any violence and I dont feel like I am going to get the shit kicked into me when I do somthing wrong. In a way I miss him alot but in another I am glad that I dont have to live in fear, hes a really nice guy. He used to play soccer with me when I was a little kid and stuff parents do with their kids and I look up to him but I will never treat my kids like that when they step out of line. I wouldnt say he was a bad parent he just had a bad temper. Does your dad beat your mom also when she disagrees with him? I would have a talk with your mom about him and see what she has to say. If your mom thinks hes a good parent beating you and you cant solve the problem take self defence lessons. I dunno how big your dad is but I think self defence lessons would be good. Because maybe one day your dad will take it to far and you will need to fight back. Self defence classes are good in general anyway as they are a hobby and useful in real life and build confidence. My friends dad used to beat him and his brothers when they were younger so he took judo and worked out he even became addicted to exercise. He said the last time his dad hit him my friend picked him up by the throat one handed clear off the ground and threw him against the wall and his dad didnt get up for some time. His dad never touched him again.Somtimes the only thing people understand is violence and think if they are bigger and stronger than you they can trample all over you, and its really fucking sad when it happens in your own home but I dont think its an uncommen thing.

courts in the US (and many other countries) do permit a certain amount of physical punishment of children by parents that would not be permissible if done by othersI'm sure it varies by states, but in a lot of places, a parent who slaps their kid in public is subject to arrest if a cop sees it, or someone files a complaint. I'd wager that a slap after each syllable in a sentence likely crosses the line most anywhere.

in canada actually a few years back, the govt made it legal for parents to spank their kids: only on the bottom, only with the hand (no props), and not tremendously hard. Also, it only applies to kids youger than 16 i think...but i'm not sure about that.

It rarely happens. Besides, where do you suppose I go Steve? I don't think I'd do to well living on the street.

My dad fucking sucks, he treats me like im an inconvience sucking up all his money when its for things i need. Sometimes i wonder why the hell he had kids. I wish all the time I was a rotten fetus in the dumpster of the planned parenthood instead. My mom shouldve had me aborted. Why did they legalize it if it isnt utilized enough?

My parents kept telling me how expensive I was, too (and I wasn't). It's a horrible abusive way to treat a child. Some people aren't fit to have children - but that doesn't at all mean you're no good, white_lines. It means they're no good.

I have to give my parents credit though, I run through about a couple hundred a week even though it is for necesities. They do what they can but it irriates me how they expect me to live on what they supply considering I have no job, I don't want the pressure of a job at the moment with school and all.

about the wet hot stick beaten boy, why don't you tell someone. like a principle or teacher. you would be doing him a big favor.

Hmm, a couple of hundred a week is a lot more than "necessities" ought to cost. Perhaps you are living too lavishly?

Pot? Coke? Domino's Pizza?

My step-dad was JUST like that. Theres no way to make it stop. Deal with it, and start choosing homes to send him to as soon as he's old and pissing himself. My dad used to beat the shit out of me, and verbally abuse me all the time. He used the belt on me when I was about 8 for sticking my tongue out at him. He also threw an action figure at my head when I was about 6, for an equally petty reason. As I go older it was anything from my school report not gleaming as much as my cousin's, to the time when I didn't do my homework the day I said I would - I did it the next day instead, which was still a week before it was due in. This resulted in my dad beating the crap out of me because I apparently "lied" to him. When I say "beat the crap out of me" it used to be a number of things: he's punched me, kicked me, given me lip bleeds, enourmous bruises, flung me about the room, thrown stuff at me, pushed me back into the radiator where I banged my head - almost knocked me out. The last serious incident was when I was 17 (now almost 19). About 6 months ago he started on me again, but I think he realised that it wasn't a good idea when I pushed him back and sent him flying - even though with his martial arts experience he could probably beat the shit out of me, I'm now big old enough to cause him some serious damage too. Lol, and he knows it, or so I gathered when he backed off.My mum hated it and couldn't do anything but watch. It had her in tears, and many times she threatened to leave him for it. Once he pushed her over (when I was like 16) and I told him that if he ever hurt her again I'd knife him in his sleep. And hell, I meant it - I was 16, I didn't have prison to worry about. But unlike most kids I always shamed him. Whenever someone was at our house and asked where my bruises came from I told them the truth - and made sure he was in the room to hear it. He used to deny it, and looked like a total fool. Strangely he never said anything about it when the visiter had gone.He's since stopped, after my mum explained she wasn't having it anymore. He's still an arsehole towards me, it's just verbal now - despite that I've been successful both in school, college and now work. And even more so, especially since I've come into a lot of money from my real dad. He just seems to be jealous, and doesn't consider me his own son (as I've heard him state in many arguments with my mother). To be honest though, it doesn't mean anything to me anymore - My mums worth 100 of him, which tends to outweigh the shit he gives me. We're actually a relatively happy family, despite those past problems. We just don't get in each others way anymore - ie: I only talk to the fucker when I have to, lol. But it's not something I'm going to let go of. I'll confront him about it when he's old and needs looking after. I'll ask him why I should look after him.

In reply to: about the wet hot stick beaten boy, why don't you tell someone. like a principle or teacher. you would be doing him a big favor. Like anyone would care?

Thats a pathetic reply. Someone would care. I would care if someone told me........

It's obvious you would care and I do too, but I was implying that in my area it's so common that nobody would find it a big deal. Nor would the teachers let alone the principle take time out from his "busy schedule" to make sure kids were being treated right by their parents.

A few years ago, we found out, as kids do that one of the guys father used to beat him............the other guys we used to hang around with, 'had a word with his dad' i don't know if the threat of him getting back what he gave his son did the trick, or the simple fact that someone else knew what he did and he was ashamed of it, but it worked he never touched his son again. You don't know if the teachers etc would give up their time to do anything, or just do something as simple as report the matter to certain authorities............if something like this is on record of being brought to thier attention, surely its their responsability to at least pass it on. Well it is over here anyway.

Ah I gotcha. I have talked to him about telling someone but he said he hates his dad so much but he's too scared of him to do anything about it. I've never even heard anything about his mom. I just don't know who would even listen to me if I told them. To them I'm just another girl who get's my nose in everything and gossips about it. I have suggested telling the cops but maybe that's a little too far? I don't want him to be sent to a foster home or anything.

well, prolly the police prolly would send him to jail or just tell him don't do it again....just depends on how bad it is and who the cop is.