I'm pretty sure I'm gay but i really would rather be attracted to women. Is there any way to go straight? Any responses are great.
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Sexuality change?
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is there a way to go straight? of course you just do it! or have you considered maybe that you're BI?
you're sexuality is upto you, you make it what you want really -
I would have to disagree with prx on that one. You are what you are, and it might take some time to fully understand and figure out what you are.
Learn to be happy whatever sexuality you happen to be. You can try to suppress your true feelings, and might convince yourself otherwise, but sooner or later you're going to realize that you were just suppressing your feelings, and it won't be a good feeling knowing you wasted so much time trying to be something you're not.
I don't know what age you are, but I would make a lucky guess that you are younger. It's normal to question yourself at times. If you're attracted to the same sex sexually, but not emotionally, then more than like you're heterosexual. If you are attracted to the same sex sexually and emotionally, most likely you are homosexual. If the same goes for both sexes, then most likely bisexual.
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I'm not attracted to men emotionally. I would also like to know if I truly am heterosexual, when will it show? When will I be more sexually attracted to girls? Yes I am quite young. Barely 14.
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It's just something you'll know sooner or later. When I was younger, I knew I was attracted to both males and females, but didn't know the extent to which I was attracted to both sexes.Fast forward, and I now know that I am sexually and emotionally attracted to both sexes, although I have a stronger sense of attraction to males.
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Things may still be developing, BlackRoses. Sometimes guys get confused because they have sex with, or sexual thoughts about, other guys because they are all they know. So I'd suggest spending time with girls to give that side of your sexuality every chance to flourish. Apart from that, you just have to wait and see how things develop.
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Another thing is, there's this girl. Her name is Brietta. She's one of those, spend my life with you, people, if you catch my drift. The reason I ask about how to change, is for her. I am sexually attracted to women, but I don't get erect very easily when thinking about them. I am emotionally attracted too. I want to be able to love her because she has made it clear she feels that way about me.
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I wouldn't sweat it over that girl. You're only fourteen years old, and have a ways to go before things should be getting so serious. Just wait until you get to college and there are so many different types of people to meet!
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You are still very young and you have plenty of developing to do and I don't just mean physically but more so mentally.What Prx said ins't exactly true "you're sexuality is upto you, you make it what you want really." Though it would be nice if we can choose what sexual orientation we are, it's just not factual. Sexual orientation is something you don't choose. As you get older things will become more clear.For now my best advise I can give you is to be a typical teenage. Go out and have fun (but always be safe). Trust me things will iron out as you get older.
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"you're sexuality is upto you, you make it what you want really." I think people are understanding me the wrong way i didn't mean it in the terms of, "oh look I want to be hetrosexual...Oh no now I'm homosexual, wait maybe im Bisexual"I meant that it can change with the way you are raised, the way your views are set while you grow up. Social accpetance, reglious views etc... I do agree that you grow into your sexuality and that it can change as you go through puberty. Hope I got it right this time
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Your surroundings and upbringing can help suppress your feelings, but your true feelings will eventually creep back up.If what you said were true, there is no way I would also be attracted to guys.
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yeah, I don't think I know how to put into words what I wanted to say, properly. sorry guys/gals!
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Don't worry about labels, ever. But since this society does seem to like its labels just put off thought about them until you absolutely have to make the label to stick on your forhead saying what you are. Right now your to young to even think about putting the gay label, or the straight label, or the bi label, or lesbian trapped in mans body label on yourself. At your age commitment is generally about months not years let alone lifetimes. If you like this girl go out with her enjoy it to the most while it lasts. After that if you meet a guy you like go out with him and enjoy it while it lasts. You'll come to a better understanding of the sex, person, whatever that you what to make a long commitment to later when your older. Right know just enjoy. -- But be safe in your enjoyment.
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Thanks you guys. I've been feeling strange today. It's as though my talking about this with you guys has made my heterosexual side go into overdrive. I've been thinking about a wife and children, and getting to have a wedding. I just want it to happen so bad, maybe my body is adapting for me.
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Hey, I just turned 14 a while ago. But it was a few months ago when I started going to high school that I really went crazy thinking about girls 24/7. I've always liked girls but now I'm going crazy hitting on them and flirting with them. By the way you sound you probably are just Bi so hang in there.
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Hopefully by the time you are ready to marry, gay marriage and adoption will be legal, so it's no worry either way I suggest you just settle down and not to try to convince yourself of who you are. Thinking those things isn't going to make you straight if biologically you aren't straight. Just enjoy life for now, and let your feelings show themself to you, instead of trying to dig deep looking for them If you look at a lot of the people who "convince" themsleves they aren't something they are, generally you can see they are unhappy. I suppose a good example would be the "born again" Christian camps where homosexuals go to "purge themself" of their homosexual feelings (though, I admit this is a bit more on the extreme side). Especially, take a look at the leaders. They're generally hateful, unhappy people.
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I think you're too young to define your sexual orientation right now. And I believe you're a little bit confused (as almost every boy in your age).A young boy can be "attracted" by other men. But this happens, not because you want to have sexual relationships with him. When you are about 14-16, you struggle to develop your own personality by copying others. So, a handsome man can be just an idol for you, that you'd like more to look like him than having sex with him. Generally, at this age you want to look like a man but you are still not a man, you are a boy.I'd suggest you to answer yourself the question you mentioned above after 2-3 years. Then, you 'll start to develop your own unique personality and you'll realize what you truly are.
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Wow. The simplest answer yet. I thank you a thousand times and more!
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This may sound sick and twited but i am not gay and i am turned on by guys, then again i have a girlfriend and im straight 14-
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maybe your bi?