There is this girl that I guess I USED to like. We hung out one Saturday and we had fun, and from the looks of it, she did like me. But, the next Saturday (when I planned to hang out with her again), she blew me off to go to some bonfire thing, when really the two things weren't even in conflict with each other. She said that she was sorry and that she guarantees that she will hang out with me this Saturday, and she PROMISED. Well, it turns out some friends asked her if she wanted to go to some Haunted farm thing (she hadn't seen these guys in forever or something), and now she blew me off again. Pfft, she felt "bad." If she felt so bad, then WHY THE HELL DID SHE DO IT. It hurt my feelings immensely because I was kind of looking forward to this weekend because she's really cool if you hang out with her. I have no idea what's wrong with her because I could've sworn that she liked me. I mean, I was 90% sure that she would go out with me if I asked, and I planned on asking her out last Saturday (the Saturday after the Saturday that we hung out). Why the hell would you do that? I mean, she's not a bad person, but that's just wrong.
What do you guys think?
did you let on that you like her now?
maybe she was just in it for the chase and now is bored cause she knows?
bah even if i'm totally wrong with the above, you need to chill. dont get so worked up about women like this. she's hurt you, blown you off, and you're coming back for more? you sound like a nice guy. would you treat her right? would you be a good boyfriend? i'm guessing so. therefore its HER loss if she blows you off. so stuff her, ignore her, don't make plans with her, and do your own thing and be happy hanging with your mates. if she comes back to you again then you know she's interested.
obvoiusly no one likes a guy who has a cry "you were gonna spend time with me and now you hurt me"
so i say be the opposite. let us know how you go
Well, she may or may not think that I like her. I was just sort of pissed because by a friend's POV, you shouldn't do that anyway. I would never do that with any of my friends, and if I had to, I'd probably make sure that I made it up to them. I'm not really coming back for more. Right now, I could care less if we hang out next weekend or whatever because it won't mean the same if she feels obliged to hang out with me. Of course I would treat her right. I'm probably one of the more morally inclined people that you would meet.
I didn't tell her that she hurt me, but she knows that I'm pissed. But yeah, I'll try ignoring her and seeing how that turns out. Thanks for the advice. =)
from my own experiances the female of the species can be cruel and hurtful, i woldnt put it past her to have hung out with you cause she had nothing better to do and she was just flirting for the hell of it, im not sayin that its your fault in any way, i speak from experiance here, the best thing to do is just forget about her, go out and find some one else, and if you cant maby your aiming a bit to high
I'm definitely not aiming too high, but I know that I'm pretty much through with her. Now, we are arguing because I called her "inconsiderate" for doing what she did. Who knew that she would've gone beserk over "inconsiderate." Really, I'm just trying to save the friendship, but I doubt we'll really be frineds until she puts this behind it all. I'm over the situation, and I have been for a while.
Now, there's this other chick whom I'm sure likes me (well, she kissed me the other day), and I think she thinks (or knows) that she likes me. The problem is I don't want to go out with her because I think she's hot (she is). I want to go out with her because I think she's a cool person to be around, and I know that I can be safe (sexually) around her. The only problem is that she drinks - which I'm against - and she's had sex before, which makes me think that she wouldn't be troubled to do it again. Most guys would jump at this opportunity, but not me. If we decide to go out, then I'd have to make a deal with her. Would asking her to stop drinking be too much? And would asking her if we could not have sex be too much? Thanks!
in short mate, yes, it is too much to ask.
you either accept someone for who they are or you don't
you can't go out with someone hoping to change them into someone else...
i'll be frank with you, i'm 21. i just started drinking 2 months ago. it's not that big of a deal. i dont regret not drinking before, but really... it shouldn't be such a main thing about a relationship.
i was with someone who drank for a long time, but i was able to understand that we were different. she drank, i didn't. not much of a big deal
the sex issue can be controlled i think. obviously its not going to come up (mind the pun ) for a while, and perhaps you could mention the topic to her to discuss. it seems to me that a lot of girls have sex cause they bf's want to, but if you say you don't want to, then she'll most likely respect that. but once again, i'd say wait until you have been together for some period of time before mentioning it
just go out and have some fun with her and just chill out a bit
good luck mate
Thanks for the advice. =) I'll definitely post what happens in both cases. So far, nothing really.
But with the first case about her blowing me off. She said that she felt bad, and she said that it was with a friend that she hadn't seen in a while. I know that it is stupid of me to just say sorry and let's move on, but as time goes by, I grow increasingly more inclined to do just that. I hate it when a friend and I are at ends with each other, but if I called her up and said that I was sorry, then it would mean that I accept that her changing plans with me without my knowing. I don't really accept that, but it may be the only way to redo the friendship.
personally i can't ever not forgive someone, just because im religious and my Lord has forgiven me, so how could i not forgive someone else for doing wrong to me...
no one likes arguements etc. if you think she deserves an apology for calling her inconsiderate then it's probably in your best interest to say it to her
but just because you apologise to her and things are 'ok' or whatever between you two doesn't mean you have to be open to be hurt again from her. that's your call
Cool man, thanks. =) I'll call her tomorrow (couldn't tonight nor last night).