I have an unusual problem right now. Whenever i have sex with my girlfriend, upon entry i have no self control and i seem to just "go" almost right away (not even passed a minute!). When we dry hump and dry fuck it doesnt really get me off. Also, ive had sex before and ive never been like this before! I usualy last ATLEAST 30 minutes, but for some reason i can barely last 1 minute! What the HELL IS GOING ON?! Im embarassed as fuck. any ways to fix this?
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Embarassing problem..
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You're probably just getting overly worked up. As time goes by things will change. For now you can try masterbating before you have sex, might help delay things.
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Instead of trying not to come go ahead and come after you do give your girlfriend oral sex until you can get it up and then go at it again
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lol maybe she has a magical vagina:P j/k...ya like NtroducingMyself said you're probably just getting "too" aroused before you go in. and i've found masturbating before hand to work great:P
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Dude, You must find her exceptionally sexy and hot because you are way too excited and revved up when you get inside her. Until you can relax and bring down your level of excitement, I would masturbate and then attempt the riding lesson on your second round. Be sure to wear a condom because if you cum first before you get inside her, you’ll have a much higher chance of getting her pregnant. Your little swimmers will be present from cumming the first time.
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You could just try a condom which helps delay climax. This type of condom has some substances on it and they will make you feel less the penetration and the lovemaking will last much longer.
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maybe she has a magical vagina: I have one of those preening
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lol lucky husband:P
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Use the condom. I can't cum at all when I wear one, so it just might do the trick for you. I thought all vagina's are magical...LoL Well, except for the one's who've been magical all over town...J/K...wait no I'm not...LoL
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yea, well ive alreay tryed that kind of condom and, infact, it makes it worse! haha I even baught that Durex "play longer" desensitizing cream, wich DOESNT even work lol.....ive been looking at those pricey decensitizing balms/creams, do ANY of them actualy work?also, its weird, lately i seem to be getting of really easy. im afraid i might have PE or something. Its embarassing, whats going on? GAhhh
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Desensitising creams generally contain a local anaesthetic, usually lignocaine/lidocaine (two names for the same thing). Creams containing that certainly have an effect, but how well they'll work for you is something you'll have to find out. If you use them without a condom, not only is it unsafe, but the inside of your gf's vagina will also be desensitised. Make sure the cream you use isn't oil-based and is safe to use with a condom, put it on, then put the condom on over the cream. (The desensitising condoms have similar local anaesthetic on the inside of the condom.)
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THIS IS CRAZY but works take a good 150 MG of Sleepaid.. your not so revved up and can have sex longer...plus from the sleepaid in your body.. will increase your orgasim feeling.. i did it once.. yuo'll last a while!
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Hi CaliGuy!! :smile:
I can appreciate why you are frustrated. But truth be told - MOST guys can not 'go at it' for 30 minutes. [and even fewer still can go longer than that] That's an awful long time to continuously thrust without cumming. In fact - most guys cum within a 2 or 3 minutes. It's the same thing with masturbating. Very few guys can pump their penises [without stopping] for more than a few minutes. The best way to TRY to last longer is to use the old 'start and stop' method. You say that you are able to 'fuck' your girlfriend for about a minute. Do you sense when you are about to cum? IF you DO - then TRY to either stop pumping and/or pull out completely BEFORE YOU CUM and let that 'about to cum' feeling pass. After it has - go at it again - and STOP AGAIN when that 'about to cum' feeling comes back. If you miss it - and get to the 'there is no stopping it now' stage - don't worry about. Just try it again the next time. [sounds like a pretty fun project to me] And let your girlfriend in on what you are doing. Let her know that you really want to last longer. And ask her to LET you do what you have to do without taking any of it personally. But don't bring up the fact that with OTHER people - you have been able to last longer. [saying stuff like that can really turn people off!!] What you want to do is gain control over WHEN you cum. So try [and keep trying] the old 'stop and start' method and see how that works for you.
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Not only an embarassing problem but only a frustrating one. We, as guys, want to show our girls how in control we are. Yet as soon as our cocks enter their pussies, we are out of control. The problem you have is really quite common and, while there are a lot of good suggestions (like the stop and go method) that work for some, I'm really not aware of any sure-fire-works-for-everyone solution. You just have to try and see what works. More than likely your girl will be perfectly happy to do the research with you because it's for her benefit too.As Ineligible posted, desensitising creams do work for some but you also have to consider the drawbacks. And the sensations of being inside her are great in and of themselves and do you really want to lose that?Another tip is to try jacking off an hour or two before sex. That will diminish your need to get off quickly.