This Girl :: Need all the advice I can get.Alright, I'll try to make this post as concise as possible to get my point across. But when you're in love with someone, it's hard not to talk about them a lot.About me. I lurk on here a lot. Post occasionally and use this place to get advice. Much thanks to smootches and Angel Witch hugs I'm 17, pretty athlethic, have more acne than I want, and I'm very diverse.OK, so here's where the story starts. Let's just call the girl Grace for time being. I've known OF grace since last year. This year, she's in my first period class in the morning and i eat lunch at her table. I've gotten to know her pretty well. I get to school 30 minutes early for parking and we talk in 1st period. I also talk to her at lunch as well as my other friends. Now, at the beginning of October I made it a point to get her aim screen name. She stated that she didn't talk much on aim, but somehow, I've talked to her every single day for the last 20 days except f or two days.Well, the "hints" all started a while ago. On Oct 22, I talked to grace on the phone about my running race and her rowing race. anyways, after talking to her, i fell alseep reading my book on my bed around 7pm. well, she IMs me later saying, "so i was going to ask if you wanted to come watch a movie at my house or something, but i thought it might be too late" well i was definitely free that night and could have went to hang out with her. When she was done watching the movie by herself, she came to aim and said she wanted to talk b/c she couldnt go to bed b/c the movie was too scary. Then we talked about jabberwocky poetry style. After a while I said this, "that reminds me, i was just thinking I just wanted to let you know that over the time I've known you I've grown to like you a lot and I just wanted you to know that." she replied, "aw thanks. you are pretty cool yourself" then i replied "i just find myself liking you more and more.. lol" she said "haha well i mean im irresistable...." then a tad later she said, "i like talking to you because you make me laugh"Ok, a few days later we had this convo:========================================HER(9:11:01 PM): oh yea, while im thinking about bdays, yours is comming up so what do you want?ME (9:11:17 PM): something intangibleHER(9:11:29 PM): lol anything more precise?ME (9:11:47 PM): not reallyME (9:11:54 PM): maybe a night out?ME (9:12:19 PM): u dont have to get me anything if you dont want too, so don't feel obliged.HER(9:12:41 PM): lol well i wouldnt have offered if i didnt want toME (9:12:51 PM): ok, lolHER(9:13:26 PM): i always get ppl bday presents because most of the time my mom forgets mine so that way, at least someone will remember their birthdays...if that makes senseME (9:13:54 PM): it does make sense.HER(9:14:30 PM): haha a night out, sorry i just saw that, if thats what you want then sureME (9:14:40 PM): oh, lol.HER(9:15:19 PM): im like sitting on the floor playing with my dogs and i have the keyboard next to me so its kind of hard to see everythingME (9:15:32 PM): oh, it's alright, as long as you saw it ;-)*then she signs off=========================================Well our fall break was Oct 24 - Oct 27th. She had to leave early on that thursday but she said if i got up early we could hang out. well, i got up early and went on a run. turned out that she had to do chores for her mom before she left. she felt really bad that i had to get up early for her, but i reassured her many times that it was alright. i didnt get to talk to her for 4 days. anyways, monday was yesterday. We're reading a book in english class and so I called her yesterday to see if she could go over the chapters that we had to read. I told her that it was a lame excuse to get my mom to let me go hang out with her. She was extremely tired from the weekend, but she said I could come over anyways. I got there and gave her a CD mix that I had promised her and a bag of my famous candy. A lot of my friends like this candy and so does she. She was instantly excited. So we hung out for an hour and a half. sat on her couch, played a board game, watched the first harry potter movie, and talked a little bit. then when i was getting ready to leave, i told her a few funny stories that she laughed at and then i said "hug?" She said "sure" then she got up and gave me a hug. It was only one armed because i had my backpack on and wasnt too tight. Then I told her good night. By the way, she usually goes to bed around 9pm b/c she gets up so early, but she went to bed after 9:30 because that's when i left. and she had to get up early for some meeting at school around 6am.Finally, today. I got to school and saw her in english class where she gave me my cliff notes that i left last night. had a good class discussion over the book and had fun. then i saw one of my good friends who is a girl. (really good friends) and i told her i had to talk to her about someone. she asked " would that happen to be grace lastname?" and i said "yea, how'd you know?" Well it so happened that she took my famous candy to school early that morning and gave it to my friends. Well, i'm sitting in my class right before lunch and two of grace's friends come up to me and both of them say "can i have some of your famous candy?" and i said "what are you talking about? how do you know i have any?" and they said "oh we've got our connections. well, obviously grace had told them about my candy. so i go to lunch and i see her there. i really dont talk to her directly because we sit 2 seats away and so we just told stoires and i talked with other friends at my table.In conclusion, I get home today, and around 6pm she signs onto aim. she of course IMs me first even though i have an aim alert on her name :-D. she creates small chat and sees what i'm doing. then she says "haha i was like blasting the cd you gave me in the car today and all of a sudden it was hillary duff and it made me laugh" then i said " lol :-) i told you it was random... my sis made me put one of the hillary duff songs on there." then she said " i figured it wasnt your favorite lol" i then mentioned my two favorite songs onthe cd and she said yea those two are really good. then i asked her what happened this morning and why she gave out my "special" candy. convo below.====================================ME ::: (6:26:22 PM): you told people about my famous candy?ME ::: (6:26:32 PM): early this morning..HER ::(6:26:36 PM): yea and everyone ate itME ::: (6:26:47 PM): i should have warned youHER ::(6:26:52 PM): because i was super excited lolME ::: (6:26:57 PM): they didnt mind that i was at your house last night? lolHER ::(6:27:14 PM): well the reactions were somewhat ammusing, but i have to go my mom is getting madME ::: (6:27:22 PM): oh, ok, we can talk tomorrow========================after she signed off, I figured I'd better write up a post for afraidtoask.com because I dont know how to ask her out or what to do next? I've also thought about what it'd be like if all my friends knew that I was going out with her or if her friends knew i was her boyfriend. But then again, it shouldnt matter what my friends think because the relationship would be between me and her.Anyways, if you read through this whole thing, i REALLY appreciate it. I spend enough time on these boards giving advice so advice from you is much appreciated.Thanks,anondude
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This Girl :: Need all the advice I can get.
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dont ask online but, do it at school or at her house. just as long as its in person.
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thanks, i definitely know that I will do it in person. perhaps i should do it on the "special night out"?
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the special night out? why did yo ask her to do something. did i miss something in the post?
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Hey there. Honestly I think you are doing a great job on your own. I think she deff likes you. Since you guys talk on a regular bases, just ask her if she wants to go to the movies. Really that's not much more advice that can be given because honestly I think you're doing okay. It truely sounds like she likes ya.
As for your acne, have you gone to a dermatologist?
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In reply to:the special night out? why did yo ask her to do something. did i miss something in the post? did you read this part? Ok, a few days later we had this convo:========================================HER(9:11:01 PM): oh yea, while im thinking about bdays, yours is comming up so what do you want?ME (9:11:17 PM): something intangibleHER(9:11:29 PM): lol anything more precise?ME (9:11:47 PM): not reallyME (9:11:54 PM): maybe a night out?ME (9:12:19 PM): u dont have to get me anything if you dont want too, so don't feel obliged.HER(9:12:41 PM): lol well i wouldnt have offered if i didnt want toME (9:12:51 PM): ok, lolHER(9:13:26 PM): i always get ppl bday presents because most of the time my mom forgets mine so that way, at least someone will remember their birthdays...if that makes senseME (9:13:54 PM): it does make sense.HER(9:14:30 PM): haha a night out, sorry i just saw that, if thats what you want then sureME (9:14:40 PM): oh, lol.HER(9:15:19 PM): im like sitting on the floor playing with my dogs and i have the keyboard next to me so its kind of hard to see everythingME (9:15:32 PM): oh, it's alright, as long as you saw it ;-)*then she signs off========================================= read that up there!
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sorry musta missed it. but trust me i read the whole post.
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**ya, well i'd really like to know what the "amusing reactions" were that she refered to tonight.
ME ::: (6:26:57 PM): they didnt mind that i was at your house last night? lol
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i guess they were negative and she thought they were just stupid, but who cares about her friends. But sometimes friends can play a big role in stuff like this.
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that may be the case, but a lot of things amuse her, so I'll definitely ask her about that tomorrow morning and if she's in a good mood, i'll ask her out after first period. that sound like a good idea?
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Don't you fuckin ever PM me agani you asshole
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i wouldnt ask her out in school come to think of it, usually pretty hectic the periods before lunch so periods after luch are usually smoother.
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he was just asking for help. you suck anyway.
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come to think of it, It might be too quick to ask her tomorrow. I may have to wait it out a little bit and see how she acts.
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there seems to be a lot of proof there.
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proof of what?
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that she likes you.
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I'd like to think so myself, but the fear of rejection is roaming right now
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nah not if you do it right. you know people always regret more what they didnt do then what they did do.
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Look who's talking, you can't ask a girl out yourself