Ill save you the long story but:Well, Ive been having weird dreams, and when I really sit down and think hard, I cant see myself, no matter how I look, be with a girl, and I cant see any girl who would want to be with me. Is it just possible that some people in this earth are not meant to ever be together with someone? Are relationships overrated?
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Are some people simply neber meant to have a bf/gf
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you've asked a lot of questions hereIn reply to:Is it just possible that some people in this earth are not meant to ever be together with someone?i believe that some ppl (like paul) may have the gift from God to not want to be in a relationship, and can live their life complete, alone.some people look at relationships as selfish, that they only exist to make yourself feel better (friend debated this with me for ages, i couldnt refute her arugements).HOWEVER, are you looking for a relationship? cause if you are looking, and this is merely complaining, then you're saying something totally different; especially when added ot the next quoteIn reply to:and I cant see any girl who would want to be with me -it's coming across that you're saying that you're not good enough to see a girl with you? am i totally wrong? i hope so cause if you're in that state of mind, then no girl will want to be with you. you have to be happy with yourself, happy with life etc, before any girl is going to find you attractive. also attraction depends a lot on confidence, and IF you have this state of mind than you need confidenceplease correct me if i'm wrong In reply to: Are relationships overrated? some. but relationships can be one of the most beautiful things in the world.to see my mother and father, after 25 years, walk around hand in hand, kissing passionately, it can be very touching. love is very powerful.however a lot of relationships don't have love in them anymore. and some never get to have love in them.there are up sides and down sidesmost people generally see the up side to out weigh the down side and go for it. i'd reccomend it
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> Is it just possible that some people in this earth are not meant to ever be together with someone?
People who are criminally insane; people who can't control their violent streak; people who want to be priests or monks; people who want to engage in interplanetary travel; Son of God. If you don't fit into one of those groups, the answer is no.
> Are relationships overrated?
No. I think they're underrated.
If a girl will even talk to you, you've won a good part of the battle. Your back will eventually get better, and you are still young. I don't recall your age, but there are lots of people who hardly ever or never even dated in high school, and who went on to relationship-filled lives.
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Rainy,
Do you mind if I abreviate your name to that?
First off people are not meant to do anything and nothing is meant for them. At least that's my opinion. As I have said before life is what you make of it. I can't stress that enough.
As for attracting someone to have a relationship with, half the battle is attitude. If you are confident in yourself then people will naturaly start to attract to you, confidence is very appealing to any potential mate.
Start to practice, thinking well of yourself (no matter how hokey it sounds). If you can't see yourself as attractive right now then find an area you excel in and start building your confidence on that. Everyone has something they are better at then everyone else. Every time you start getting down on yourself, make a concerted effort to think to yourself, "hey I'm (know more about this, am smarter, am better looking, whatever), than this person. I'm not tealing you to be an ass and say such things, rather just start thinking of yourself in a positive light. One thing is for sure, life is dynamic and it changes fast. There is only one thing that anybody can tell you for sure, that is, things will change from how they are and how you perceive them now. Its psedo-psyco-babble I know, but try it anyway.
Another bit of my grandmothers advice here, see things positively and things will work out for you positively.
As for getting the girl. Let me tell ya bud, I've know guys that where loud, rude, dumm, fat, assholes, but they still went out with the best looking women. As far as I could see the only thing that they had going for them was their confidence and the fact that they knew another girl would come along if they didn't get this one.
Lastly, (and you don't need to post it here if you don't want to and your more than welcome to PM me if you want.) think about this, am I just frustrated with life or am I depressed. There is a big difference. Frustration can lead to depression, but most of the time it doesn't. If you think your depressed, then medication can help. It's nothing to be embarrassed about it just a chemical inbalance in your brain. I'm that way and have been for a long time. Believe me medication does help. It give you back the ability to hope and if you have hope than you have something to work towards.
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Very well said, Oldfolks. But there's also one more thing.You know, there are many people out there, that they also do not have a good opinion about themselves. Before one and a half year I also thought the same things you do now. I believe until now that I am not a good looking guy and my behaviour is REALLY bad sometimes (nerves, depression without any serious reason). So, I thought I would never find a gf that she'd really like me and she could stand my behaviour.In the end, I proved to myself that I was wrong. Anyway, I think the whole point is not what girls believe about you, but what do you think about yourself.Maybe these thoughts about yourself will never disapppear in your mind. But, once you'll find a girl that you really like , you'll see that she does worth the trouble breaking through all your notional obstacles and you'll ask her to go out with you. I did that once and things did work out But, if you want my opinion, I'd say you're just fine for a relationship. All it takes is one decision, a lot of guts and a little vision If you are a schezophrenic serial killer with a chainsaw in your hands, forget all the things I mentioned above. Try growing first a small plant and a puppet and then try having a relationship with a gf :P