I think of myself having a little above average stress for a kid my age, 16. I have a girl friend who i love, but have the feeling that if I get somewhat close to another girl that she'll think I'll leave her or cheat on her. Never would I do that! I simply wouldn't let myself get that close to another girl. I don't know but I feel that she gets angry at me for sometimes the smallest of reasons. Something else is that I feel that I get ticked off too damn easy...I know I just have to learn to chill out or something. My sisters say I get angry and act like my dad and everyone seems to hate that or get scared by it. Sometimes I'm not even yelling at her or my band members or something but just the volume of my voice raises, but that happens to everyone when their patience wears down. I'm talking to her best friends right now. We all agreed that my gf is a fragile person, that she hates this one girl in my school that talks to me, and just hates girls talking or hanging around with me. what should I do about this? Do i just have a short temper or something?
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Bad temper?
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now dont take this as advise, it seemed to remind me of this thread when I read the study so I came back to post it because its not exactly of topic, and maybe something in here will do ya some good?According to Carnegie Mellon psychologist Jennifer Lerner ,"The people whose faces showed more fear during the study had higher blood pressure and higher levels of the hormone. The findings were the same for men and women....anger triggers feelings of certainty and control. People who reacted with anger were more optimistic about risk... in maddening situations in which anger or indignation are justified, anger is not a bad idea, the thinking goes. In fact, it's adaptive, Lerner says, and it's a healthier response than fear." however, Chronic, explosive anger or a hostile outlook on the world is still bad for you, contributing to heart disease and high blood pressure, research shows. The new research supports the idea that humans have more than one uniform response to stress and that fear and anger provoke different responses from our nervous systems and the parts of our brain, such as the pituitary, that deal with tough situations.