Okay I am sick of posting about my problems and by the low number of responses that I am getting I feel that you guys are the same. So this will be it b/c I do not know what to do anymore.My current situation:I am failing at school, I work, I have little to no social life. I need help, and I do not know what with. I cannot focus in school, it seems almost impossible for me to do anything related to school work. I know what I enjoy doing but I have no direction so I am going nowhere real fast.I am constantly lonely, even when I am out with my friends I still have part of me being real lonely. I can make friends easily, but there is a part of me that just does not want to make any extra effort. I only have a few things I enjoy doing anymore. I love my guitar, play it all the time. I love my music anything with guitar. It speaks to me and helps me carry on. And I love working on my car, I love having to plan out what I have to do when I want to mod. I have a real active imagination, I can think up paint schemes, where parts go on the Jeep....I mean I have the mind of an engineer according to all the school proficiency tests I have taken. I find everything I do very easy when i set my mind on it...I just feel so lost. I do not know what to do. If anyone can offer any advice.
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What do I need to do
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set your mind on lovin live and then live it.
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hm..sounds like you've summed up that last year or 2 of my life:P but the only way out of it, or at least this is what helped me. is to get a hobby, or something you're really interested in....which it sounds like you already do, and just concentrate on that for a while and don't worry about the other stuff...the more you think about it the more lonely you feel trust me....the second thing i would do is just to surround yourself with some really good friends that will lift your spirits and put in the extra effort that you don't wanna put in...well good luck.
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i dont really know what to say, i'll probably give shit advice as i basically have the same attitude to you a lot of the time, im kinda in the same boat
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good friends ha...I had a good friend, but his no bull shit attitude showed me no respect when I respected him as a brother.
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Hey there bub. Sounds like you need a cool down period. I know you are having issues with school because you are going for something you don't want. When it comes to school there are two things you can do 1) Change your major, no matter what your parents like. It's YOUR life. You cannot make anyone happy unless youre happy with yourself. Last thing you want is to granduate with this degree and end up hating yourself later for it. 2) Step away from school for now. People might be upset I say that, but some people just need time to think about the career they want. Sometimes people just need time away from school to gather mental strength. You just need to look within yourself and find out what YOU want and need to do.As for the feeling on loneliness, that's not so easy to give advise on. Friends can only fullfill parts of loneliness, but there's that romantic side that is left empty and can really out weight the fullfillment you get from your friends. Only thing I can say, and it might sound redundant, is that you will find someone. You're too good of a guy not to find someone. Just keep a smile on your face and know when you do find that right girl, you're gonna treat her right and you'll be happy. I know not exactly advise, but it's te best I can give ya.Just remember you need to live for yourself.
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Thanks Ntroducing. I guess I just have been worried too much about what my parents think. I mean that is a huge cause of my stress. I wish I could take a vacation to get away from it all.
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I know I am always scared to respond to some of your posts because sometimes you are mean. Anyway, you seem to be very depressed. I think Ntroducing had some good ideas for you. Maybe putting your thoughts down on paper would help you figure out what you really want to be learning in school and what you would like to do in the future.You seemed to be really happy and helpful when you were dating those couple of girls. (correct me if I'm not remembering correctly) What ever happened with that situation? The only advice I have really, is to see your doctor and maybe start taking an antidepressant. I don't know how you feel about medication, but it may help you think a little clearly and help you with your emotions. When you are happy, you have a warm, loving feeling to you that makes us girls swoon.
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See I put out that happy loving kind of attitude when I am not at home. Only at home do I become like this.As for being mean, I am sorry, I really am a nice guy and feel free to post to all my posts. Free country.
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Might it help to take a year off doing volunteer work in some Third World country? I know someone who was getting nowhere in his studies, seriously depressed, who went to East Timor and ended up teaching English in the university there and enjoyed it.
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I tried to tell my family, no one understodd they all think I am giving up on everything. My mom called me this morning that we need to chat b/c she thinks I am being to relaxed about the sitaution and thinks I need find somewhere else to live on my own. I mean goddamn, what am I doing wrong? I am about ready to give up.........I do not know what to even more than before.
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It sounds to me like your emtions are getting the best of you. When that happens to me, I look at each situation for what it really is, i dettach all emtion to it and make the best decision based on what i see then. Your describing something alot of us if not all go through, and I think it just takes alot of self acceptance and really getting to know who you are.