WHATS WRONG WITH ME. GIVE ME AWNSERS PLZ!!!!!

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i'm not attracted 2 girls or boys but ive had sex with my best freind can u tell me if i am gay IF I AM I CAN WORK ON CHANGEING THAT PLZ HELP ME

If you look around the boards you will find a lot of info on your question.Otherwise, we cannot tell you if you are gay or not..t hat's something for you to find out. And if you happent o be gay it's not something you can change, it's not a choice. But remember we annot tell you your sexuality that's something you have to find out on your own.

Just cause you feel you're not attracted to either gender doesn't mean your gay, it could just mean that you have a low sex drive. Of course without getting into your head we can't know if you are gay, straight or bi, its up to you to figure that out.

Hi Shuyin!! NOTHING IS WRONG WITH YOU!! Lot's of guys fool around with their best friend. And for most guys - their best friend is another guy. It isn't so much about being gay as it is about being with someone we TRUST. And believe me - if fooling around [having sex] with our best friend [especially while we are young guys] meant that we are gay - then most guys would be gay. Don't get all worked up over nothing. And don't worry about not being attracted sexually to either sex. Guys often believe a lie - and that lie is that a 'real guy' is ALWAYS turned on sexually by something or someone. Well.. that's just not true. Most people go through plenty of times in their lives where they have no sexual feelings for anyone. It's perfectly OK and perfectly normal. GREAT BIG HUGCraig!!

Err, i have never fooled around with my best friend and never will, i would call that gay.And, try getting with a girl and see how you feel about her, if that doesnt work, try it with a guy, and if that doesnt work, you dont have to worry about relationships.

BAsically whateveryone else said. My friend (male has given me head but thats just because were horny little monkeys. Your sexuality isn't a cocious choice and eve if you are gay its not a crime and there are alot of other people out there like you. Becoming hory at the sight of a penis, or naked male doesn;t make you gay its perfectly normal for teens. Remeber to wear protection during sex and don;t let your storming hormones command you =P Good luck finding your sexuality! By the by if you've had sex with your best friend I'd sa its a safe bet theres a some attractio therre

In reply to:i have never fooled around with my best friend and never will, i would call that gay. Hi derkaderk!! So according to YOU - MOST guys are GAY!! That's interesting. GREAT BIG HUGCraig!!

Engaging in sexual activities with a male friend sounds a bit gay to me, sorry if that makes me wierd. I am certain none of my friends have ever done this as well.

yeh that does make you wierd

Hi derkaderk!! You're not weird - just naive. [as in 'unaware'] Most guys - at sometime in their life [usually when they are young teenagers] have 'experimented' sexually with a same-sex pal. Anything from jacking off together [or jacking off each other] to oral sex. Very few 'experimenter's' have anal sex - however - which is why draw the line at anal sex. I think that if a guy engages in anal sex - he has gone beyond just 'fooling around with his buddy'. In fact - I think most people THINK anal sex with they think 'gay sex'. [which is why I'm never comfortable calling myself 'gay' because I don't like - and won't have - anal sex] I think you would be surprised by how many of your buddies HAVE 'fooled around' with another guy. It's not exactly something guys talk about. Not because they are ashamed - necessarily - but because there are people in this world who are uncomfortable with the idea. [and they don't want THEM to know] IF 'fooling around with another guy' has not been something YOU have wanted to do - that's perfectly OK - too. Some guys do - some guys don't. GREAT BIG HUGCraig!!

which is why I'm never comfortable calling myself 'gay' because I don't like - and won't have - anal sexThere was a whole long thread about that. Some think that your orientation is determined by which gender you form a romantic/emotional connection with.

Hi SteveA!! I hope you're OK. You said, "Some think that your orientation is determined by which gender you form a romantic/emotional connection with."Among those who actually use their brain - that's true. [and I agree with it] Unfortunately - when it comes to things related to sex - most people respond emotionally - NOT intellectually. I think for most people - being 'gay' means 'having anal sex'. Just one example. A few years ago I went to a new dentist. On the 'personal information' form that they asked me to fill out - there was a question. It simply asked, "are you gay?" What they were trying to determine was if I was a 'high risk' person insofar as having the HIV virus. What they were really asking was, "do you engage in anal sex?" They simply assumed that a 'yes' answer to the "are you gay?" question WAS a 'yes' answer to whether or not 'you' were having anal sex. I answered that question with a 'no'. How many people would even consider the possibly of someone who says they are 'gay' is also someone who does not have anal sex? [or who has been celibate for the past 8 1/2 years!!]GREAT BIG HUGCraig!!

As for the orientation thing, I don't have strong feelings on the subject. Ntro does, though, I think.> "are you gay?"That's pretty intrusive. Did they also ask if you're Hatian or an IV drug user?I would hope they take the same precautions with everyone. There's no way to know who might be infected with HIV through a trivial questionaire.

>Some think that your orientation is determined by which gender you form a romantic/emotional connection with.

Yup! That's me! =-D

And Craig all I can say is WOW! You're dentist had that as a question. Blows my mind. As Steve said, reguardless they should always assume everyone has a chance of infecting them. Atleast that's how it's been with all the doctors I have worked for.

And what about hepatitis (B? C?)? It's more infectious than HIV, and no walk in the park. Eveyone who's worried about getting HIV should be even more worried about getting hepatitis.In the 80's and 90's there were dentists who refused to work on HIV+ clients.

Sorry yes I meant that all doctors I worked for just assumed everyone was infectious. As always said, better safe than sorry.