What Am I doing Wrong??

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Well i like this girl at school and she is in most of my classes. But when it comes to talkin to her i cannot. i mean i cant think of anythin to say to her. When i try to send her messages she just says that she is busy or does not respond. I know she does not have a b/f but it seems that she wants nothing to do with me. Can i change this or get her to know me better or me to know her better? Also should i send her more messages to see if she responds or no. BTW this is my first post.

Welcome to A2A! Well, first off, let me be honest....there are some girls I like at school that I know would never like me, and there are some i try to get to like me, and there are some who naturally like me....If you actually have to try hard to get a girl, then she must not have too much in common with you.....the girls who like you are the ones who have more in common where you don't have to try very hard to get them if they naturally like you...For you, I say try to get to know this girl if you like her, but after awhile if she doesn't have much to do with you, it's prolly cuz she isn't that intrested in you as a b/f and you might need to focus on someone else you might like. Well, anyways welcolm to this site....um my post are never as helpful as this cuz im tryin to make a good 1st impression lol!

The prob is when i try to get to know her i cant say anythin. its like my mind goes blank. After a while she did send me a messages back here is some of it: the reason that i dont respond that much is im not on very long when i am and theres many other people i need to respond to and stuff so i try to do as much as i can... and u send me a lot of messages so i try to reply to as many... sorry if its not alotso i DONT hate you and ill try to get to these things quicker and ill check out ur stuff soon... cya But after this i sent her 2 more messages and i still have gottin no responce.

> u send me a lot of messages

Trying pretty hard? I wouldn't hold my breath. It sounds like it's time to move on.

So u guys think it is over

I don't think it ever started. Are you able to talk to other girls more easily?

You asked her if she hated you?

wow, you sound a little.....obsesed?

First of all i am able to talk to girls very eaisly. But for some reason i cant talk to her (b/c i like her im thinkin). And yes i did ask her that. I dont know. i think i will leave her alone for a while and try talkin to her at school and see what happens.

Alright... One night when she is coming home alone, really late, you wait outside in the bushes. When she walks by, you grab her SWAT style and tie her up and put her in the back of your old school van. You drive to Mexico and with a gun to her head, tell her 'you better like me' and she will love you!Seriously tho... Stop trying

wtf?

He's saying, in a sarcastic way, that you should let her go, and turn your attention elsewhere.

you can't make someone like you... they either do or they don'tinternet is a lame way of trying to tune a chick too, especially if you see her in real life, cause then she is going to think that you lack confidence to speak to her face to face.no pain no gain, push yourself out of your comfort zone and speak to her in real life, and if she reacts the same way as she does online... then time to move oni think the lesson here is what a girl told me earlier this year. if you start to like someone, ask them out right away. this way you don't develop all these feelings for them and get nervous and mind blanks around them, -you won't end up looking like an idiot like i'm sure we've all done before.

that is the prob. when i get up to her i dont know what to say. my mind goes blank.

It doesn't matter, it ain't gonna happen. Consider it a sign that you are giving yourself that is saying "I'm not meant to talk/be with her"

Basicaly youre trying too hard, just dont try is the best way to get girls to like you if its gunna happen.

sometimes possum:P some or most girls have this uncanny ability to see right through our thought:S you have to be some guy that can play it cool really well to pull something like that off. (with out her losing interest) sry not trying to be negative cpt.

you guys make girls sound like some weird alien creature that's still being discovered today. Didn't know it was so hard to figure out, pertaining to the average kind of posts we got on here.

Guys have very little idea what makes girls tick.

Not really, whats the point in putting on some fake personality to impress a girl? Its fucking degrading if you ask me. Alot of male friends of mine would somtimes act differant around girls and I thought it was pathetic. I am just myself around everyone (except I dont fart and belch loadly around girls, unless I dont care if I repulse them) and thats the way to go because if you put on some fake girl attracting charactor the girl you pick up will be attracted to that charactor and not to the real you.