Hi everyone this is my first post, this is what happened:I have been with my girlfriend for 2 months and all we had done was just kissing, then one day we got excited and I touched her breast with her cloths on, she didn't try to stop me at that time, then we went to a party with her family 2 weeks ago and we got a litle drunk and started making out with a lot of enthusiasm at her home when we came back, then her parents returned home and I had to leave, then last week we were alone again and sober, and started kissing again I pulled up her t-shirt and bra and for the first time I started touching and kissing her breast, just for a few seconds before she pushed me away and put her bra in position again, we kissed again, very pasionated long and wet kisses I moved my hands under her clothes and moved her bra up again and started playing with her tits and touching her nipless while we were kissing and kissing and kissing, I grabed one of her hands and I tried to put it inside my pants but as soon as she touched my erection she stoped me and we went back to kissing after a few more seconds I got my hand under her pants and underwear and as soon I touched her pubic hair she stoped me and stepped away, she has been very cold with me since then, and I was wondering:Did I scare her? Is she just teasing me? Could she be a virgin being curious? Am I going too fast? I'm 28, she is 24 and except for the way she kisses me, she is very shy about the way she hugs me or touches meI hope I can get some advice here, thanks
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Did i do something wrong to my girlfriend?
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I suppose there is a possibility she is a virgin and isn't quite ready for the next step. She may also be somewhat religious, which would hold her back. I don't think you did anything wrong, I just think she's not ready. You should just ask her if you did something, and if not, ask her why she's treating you differently since you touched her pubic area.
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She just might not be ready for that sort of thing. Two months together might seem like a long time to you, but maybe she doesn't feel the same way.After the first time she turned your hands away, I would have stopped there. I have had someone do the same to me (except, I'm a guy). I felt things were going a bit fast, so I just moved their hand elsewhere. They got the picture, and we were able to continue and enjoy without any awkwardness.
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She kept pushing your hand away, but you kept going for it, without pausing to discuss it? That could be a problem.
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I continued going fot it because she didnt look mad at all actually she smiled big and said HEY! everytime she stopped me
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It never occured to you that it was a nicer way of saying stop then for her to just come out and say "Knock it off asshole! your not gettin any!" ?
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just talk to her?
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She was gently trying to tell you to stop, that what you were doing was not okay with her. For future reference if someone pulls your hand away, that usually means they want you to stop whatever your doing. I think you need to go find her and apologize your ass off, as soon as possible.
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Nop, normally when she stops me she says "stop" and adds: "I wont want to ask you again"
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"No" means "yes" until you get slugged?I think you wore down her patience.
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Mayhaps, she had thought you were adult enough and cared about her enough to understand her when she gently said no?
Now maybe, she thinks your an uncaring ass.
its just a thought and maybe I off, but Im betting Im right.
now yu proved your not "in tune" with her. you dont understand her. blah blah blah get it?
best go start kissing some ass, figurativly speaking I mean :wink: -
You finally wore her down and now she just doesn't want to have to deal, sigh with constantly trying to get you to realize, "You ain't gett'in the goody."Think about it form her point of view. Making out with you isn't going to be much fun, its going to be a constant fight to keep you out of her pants.
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Just because she doesn't want you feeling up every inch of her body, you instantly think "virgin"? What if she just takes things a lot slower than you and most of the other girls you've been with. You tried to rush her and she didn't seem to be up for it, she pointed it out nicely but you missed the point completely.... twice. So she is pissed off with you. Give her time, apologise and in future take things slower.
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You could ask her... Make it clear you just need to know what is and isn't acceptable and appologies for being an ass earlier.
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Good news we talked and she told me that she ain't mad at me she has been under stress because of her work and family, she told me that she is a virgin but feels very confortable when we are together but sometimes things start moving too fast, anyway having sex with her will have to wait at least for a few more months, I have never been with a virgin but I like her so much that I will wait until she is ready or we are married
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Good job working it out. Good luck with your relationship
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What DIDN'T you do wrong? Look, if a girl stops an advance, that should be a warning sign. Given another half hour or so, you can try again. But even then, the second try should be much more subtle. Like if it's kissing her tits that she pulled away from, just go back to mplaying with them. Don't move forward to getting her hand in your pants. And if the second advance is stopped, you call it a night right there. Don't go for a third one. Sorry man, I see that as disrespectful. And then you ask if you did something wrong. Hell yeah you did. Look, I'm not trying to bust your nuts here man, but remember, if the first advance is stopped, you can try a second. And if that's stopped don't go for a third. And when you're going for the second, don't let it be something even further along than the first.