I was just kind of curious. I know its not healthy in a relationship, and have been going out with my girlfriend for a year (in which I found out she cheated on me twice early in the relationship).Is it really common for people to cheat on each other? Or is it pretty safe to say that with most people if you get into a relationship with them, that they'll be staying loyal to you?Not really sure if this post made much sense. But for those of you who get it.... Afraid to ask should make a new poll about cheating. How many people have cheated in relationships and stuff.
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Cheating...
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no, its not right to cheat or be cheated on.
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No, its not normal to have cheated on someone when your in a relationship, unless your a selfish, uncaring idiot............No-one deserves to be cheated on, and no one has the right to cheat on anyone else.I have never cheated on anyone i have been in a relationship with........in my opinion there is no excuse for it.
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yeah not as common as you think, your one to talk too!
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i hope not. cuz then how do you trust eachother? trust is what keeps you together, and once it's been broken i don't think the relationship could go on anymore.
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No it's NOT common. It does happen, but it's not a common thing. People that cheat are selfish and simply have no self control or caring for other people. Personally I have been cheated on before, my first BF ever. He cheated on me 3 times in 3 months. He chalked it up to being "young", we both just turned 18 at that time. But I have never been cheated on since than nor would I even tolerate it because it's disrespectful.I hate to use this saying, but from my experiences it's true "Once a cheater, always a cheater".
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i agree with gundam with the whole trust thing, personally for me its all about trust and if someone did that to me, i'd be pretty devastatedwhat do you think? aren't you annoyed with your g/f?
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Any girl who cheated on me I would dump streaight away, no second chances. I cant undertsand why you have let her off having cheated on you twice.
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It's amazing how many spouses cheat on each other. Anything who thinks the number is slim is foolish.
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Amanda, you're right.It's becoming more common than ever. It's an unfortunate thing...:(
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I'm not sure that it's any more common, but people do discuss it more openly nowadays. We're like most other animals.
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I really don't understand why anyone cheats actually. I'd never cheat on someone because I know how much it hurts to have it happen. It's really rather sad to know that it happens more often than most people think.
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people can be cruel. and sometimes they either don't think twice or they just don't care. I don't understand much either.
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It's also amazing how many people talk badly about it and say they would never do it...until a situation presents itself.
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ya i guess that's kinda true. but i for one have been in those situations and have never cheated.
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I think it's kinda sad now that people seem to have to spend a lot of time and energy worrying about whether someone is cheating on them. It's like a relationship based on suspiscion, and I don't see why it should be. It is quite common for people to cheat when they are younger, but I think once people get older most of them do feel the need to settle down, and have had enough experience to be happy with what they have. So don't worry about being cheated on until it happens... then you will actually have reason to worry and be angry!!! long ramble.. sorry!!!
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How old are you? How much of your life have you spent in a relationship with someone where the word "cheating" would be meaningful? Let us know if you can say the same thing in 20 years.Amz> It is quite common for people to cheat when they are younger, but I think once people get older most of them do feel the need to settle down, and have had enough experience to be happy with what they have.I'm afraid that's closer to the ideal than the reality. It doesn't mean that everyone cheats...but an awful lot of people do.
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I am by no means an expert on relationships, but I know very well how much it hurts and how lowly it makes you feel when someone cheats on you. I could never put someone through that because there is no reason to make someone feel used and belittled. Instead of cheating why can't people talk to thier partners about any problems they are having instead of looking outside the relationship... I guess I'm just looking through rose coloured lenses again because I know that many/most people don't stop and think about thier actions until after the damage is done (and sometimes they don't even care then).
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I agree with that statement. My Dad cheated the entire time my parents were married. My mom put up with it for too many years. I saw what that did to them and us kids and he was not too young. They were when they were married but not when it finally ended.
I personally have never cheated but Iv helped other people to cheat on thier lovers with me. maybe that makes me a bastard maybe not. If someone wants to cheat nothign will change that or keep them from doing it.
my dad is now on his 3rd marriage and told me he no longer cheats but I thikn its more because of him not being abe to afford the divorce then because he stopped wanting to cheat.
Some peope can never be happy no matter who they have and what they have with them.
I had my share of girls and was single for many years by choice. I now have one and Im 34, I realized what I have with her and Im done with the rest of them. It took me many years to come to that decision and have turned down numerous oppertunitys to cheat. That however is me and I know many people that are my age and older that still cheat no matter how good they have it at home. -
I've cheated in the past, but it's not in my nature. If I am at the point where I am thinking about it, I know the relationship is already over. The only time I have ever done it was within weeks before we separated. But like I said, I never did it until I knew the relationship was over. My personal opinion on it, is it sucks. I know I was wrong for doing what I did. If I were in that situation again, I wouldn't do it until I was completely out of the relationship. The real question is, when does the cheating start? When you're considering it? Fantasizing about it? Or when it physically happens?