How can I meet a girl if I've got no friends?

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I would love to have a girlfriend (lol, queue up girls) but I struggle to see how I can find one.How can I go out on the 'pull' if I do not have any mates? Should I just turn up to a nightclub on my own?I have never been to a pub/club in my life because I've had no-one to go with. So even if I did find someone to go out with, I wouldn't know what to do or how to act.My life is such a sad story.

well, to get friends and girl you have to get out and do stuff. Simple things where you come into contact with people (grocery stores, gyms ect) most of the guys that have asked me out see me on a regular basis (being in class, lived in my neighborhood ect) so really all you have to do is be outgoing go to pub by yourself, get into conversations with the people around you.

But how can I just go up to someone and express my feelings to them? They may laugh, and as far as I'm concerned, if there's a possibility of rejection then it's not worth the risk.Most people my age have already had relationships by now. I find it unacceptable that a lonely loser like me can suddenly be part of the crowd and win respect.

No no no you dont just go "hi, your good looking, im good looking, lets go back to myplace" you just have a conversation, just talk.

One step at a time. You need to be able to communicate with people in general before worrying about picking up a girl at a bar.First of all, you need to become comfortable with other people. Have you had friends in the past? Do you converse with people outside of your family? Are you depressed? Should I tell you for the umpteenth time that it's no sin to seek in-person therapy?You need to get yourself to be more social by getting involved in activities and organizations with other people. Having a shared interest gives you a way to break the ice in conversing with someone. If you can type, then you can speak. The more you force yourself to do it, the easier it will get.

Well I went back to college in September but two men there accused me of being gay and effectively started bullying me (not coming in the classroom if I was sitting in there etc.), so I've had to quit college after just 7 weeks.

I don't think I'm gay but nonetheless I'm not putting up with homophobic bullying for another nine months. Shame really, as I was going to apply for university in 2006. :frowning:

So I guess I'm not compatible with other people. I cannot seem to fit in with the crowd.

You quit college after 7 weeks because two guys were bullying you? And you just mention that in passing?If you again make believe you're not hearing me say this, I'm going to think that you're making up all this stuff: You are in deep need of professional help. No one on a message board can help you.

I don't know what you mean by that post. Do you think I shouldn't have quit college, then? Because I can tell you it was not a happy time for me, and the thought of going in everyday to class, having them laugh as I walked in, is a horrible one.I will visit the doctors soon but it will only be placebos.

Go to a psychiatrist.

I wouldnt have quit college cause a few guys bullied me, thats life.

Do you quit everything anytime you're made the least bit unhappy? Do you think it's a big deal that you quit college?

First off, Iv been to many bars, concerts, art festivals,plays, christ on vacation, by myself.There is no rules saying you cant go out alone. I went ot shit stag alot because well why would you bring sand to the beach?Sometimes I have been with friends, but over all greatly Iv been alone.and In reply to: if there's a possibility of rejection then it's not worth the risk. There is ALWAYS a chance of rejection, always always always.Get over it or resign yourself to being alone and single for ever or atleast until you die. Anything Iv ever gotten that was worth having or doing involved risk, women are no different. One worth having is going to involve some risk, if nothing else then the risk of being told to piss off when you ask her out.Its all a numbres game.When I was single any givenday Id hit on ten girls, one ofthem would let me take her out, if you add up ten of hte girls that said yes, then one of them would put out, well ok it was more like 6 of em would put out, but I was searching specifically for weak girls with no real values who were desperatly seeking attention and were easy to begin with.But a girl worth having, one worth keeping, since you say you want a g/f instead of just getting laid, isnt as easy to find as one that will let ya hump her on a first date.Take the risk, there is nt shit to it, after a couple dozen girls turn ya down it gets to the point that it doesnt even bother you anymore.For gods sake though, dont get creepy on them, stand up, have some confidence in yourself and dont stutter and come off as a creepy stalker guy.Confidence is key. So is being able to carry a conversation about anything. Read some books, alot of books when ya got time, pick up the paper and keep up on local and national and global events. See the most recent movies and make sure that once your talking you have a opinion on things and understand what your talkig about.

I wish I had gotten thru this one before I posted my last reply.
You quit the only real chance you have at a life because two assholes picked on you?
That is fucking nuts to let someone eles determine your happiness and how you feel about yourself.
You need to grow a pair.
I dont how to tell ya to do that, but Id start with looking into Steve and Javas recomendation to seek professional help.
If your that unsatisfied with who you are that two people could chase you out of college then what do you have to offer to anyone else in a relationship?
Youll get alot further by fixing yourself first then worring about a girl later.

Yes I think it's a big deal that I quit college. Under normal circumstances, I would not give an inch to a bully because I have grown to develop very thick skin. But there are some things you simply cannot withstand, and being accused of being gay in a vicious homophobic manner is not something I want to encounter every day of the week.I will start college again next year, no big deal. I will still attend uni, just one year latter than planned. However, that is not the point.The point is, I was asked if I felt could feel comfortable around other people, and from my experience at college this Fall, no I cannot.I am probably not gay but I am weird and very quiet in real life. Apparently these character traits make me "gay" and therefore I cannot fit in with the crowd in such an homophobic institution, hence my swift getaway.So, I go to that great new party at the weekend - won't people there think I'm gay as well? For someone who has had no social acceptance in his lifetime the last thing I need when i do try and socialise is to have experiences like that.

You know, if your going to shoot down every peice of advice given then become a hermit. you have to help yourself, and people you dont know on a general basis are going to point fingers at you and call you gay whille burning you at the stake. Go to the party, talk, mingle, forget about what happened to you at college.