Hello, I have not had much experience to say the least in any field. What I am wondering is, is it normal to get a erection from making out or even cuddling? I would appreciate opinions from girls and guys preferably over the age of 17...For the ladies, would this scare you away or what would you think if it happened to you ( or maybe it has and it is just normal ) I don't know. I mean I am not ugly at all, have very nice body and face but I have just avoided many situations because of this...the fact i just do not know....I have no problem picking up any girl i would want i just dont know how to go to the next step..you know...so I avoid situations because I know there is no excuse for me not going home with a girl...if you know what I mean...it really sux and has been a problem for a while..i just continue to avoid and thats why I sit here now at 20 years of age with nothin...I even kicked a girl out of my bed when things started to kick up....whattta dumb shit right ? Noone can tell I am like this because there have been many girls that have tried to be with me, and i dont act like a mute or anything around females....(when i know it will not turn into something more) also I think I am very picky too, i hate slutty girls etc...well now I am just babbling on, just trying to give you all backround...get back to me with your experiences, much appreciated
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Relationship Question for girls, and guys
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> What I am wondering is, is it normal to get a erection from making out or even cuddling?
Yes. Period.
Other people's experiences don't matter. The qustion is, What are you afraid of? Are you afraid that you'll lose control if you get into a sexual situation?
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Wow, you're not full of yourself at all!
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Well their experiences do matter, because if they see something they are not use to they may think you are a pervert, just looking for sex, or just ultra sensitive which would be the case anyways...but this cannot be the case for many people...take the club scene for example guys and girls are grinding on each other all night right ? I dont think the guys walk around with hard-ons there (even though i dont know for sure).....I think if a girl was grinding on me I would, this is where I am coming from.
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LOL yes I am a little, but not in a hurtful way to anyone else ever, and thats also the funny part of my little problem...wouldn't you say ?
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Guys do walk around with hard-ons! If a girl is grinding a guys crotch, she expects him to get hard.What are you saying? That men should never get sexually stimulated and have an erection, or that women think it's weird for men do that? I think some of your ideas need to be recalibrated. They don't make any sense at all.
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Steve, thanks for the feedback I do appreciate it. I don't mean it like that...for example...my friend was telling a story about being at the strip club...and how the strippers pulled up this kid that was acting "cocky/comfortable etc" on stage, and teased him and how he got hard....then the friend says he went up and no way would he get stimulated over that...maybe it is just because he is more use to sexual activity ? which if thats the case is part of my question why females may think it is strange, because it seems most would rather be with a guy that "knows his way around".....Also don't take offense to this, but many of your replies to others I have read all have the same type of attitude...should I say attacking the questions with "ignorance" or...rather making the question almost seem like a dumb question....if you can tell what I am trying to get at...would you be practicing to be a psych or are one ? or am I just reading to much into this...again I thank you for your feedback and look forward to your replies just wondering about that...
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I take it back not alll your posts are like that, I didn't do a good job explaining anyways...just seemd like a lot of them were earlier
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Any ladies here with any thoughts ?
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Im not a lady, but I know exacccccttttly where you are coming from bro! I am a virgin myself (23 on top of that!) and like whenever things atart to pick up sexually...Im like woooooooooahhhhhh hold the phone. Why that is I dont know....part of it is religion....part of it is because people seem to become more comfortable easier than I do....and Im sure there is a third part thats underlying somewhere in my conciousness. In terms of the boner while cuddling and making out, dont sweat it bro...last girl I was with ever time wed go to kiss or cuddle my dick would get soooooo hard, because I thought she was extremely hot both on the outside (wasnt the case when we were just starting our friendship) but especially on the inside. Id always try to hide it or shove it out of the way, but when I couldnt Id back off. Then shed be like what gives...until finally one day I think she realized what was up or I just told her....and I was like ya, yah know its embrassing and stuff and I didnt know what you would think if you knew (she was older and more experience, so this was nothing new.) And in the end she told me that she really was turned on by the fact and that she wanted to touch it and see it. Boy was I blushing that day. But yea...if a girl really likes you and youve known her for a while (not maybe on a first date)...chances are she'll dig it or be turned on. Hope that helps
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The reason that you are pulling back may be from a fear that things are starting to get out of your control. I don't mean that comment as a negative one... just that it not unusual for people to want to feel in control of any situation and they understand that when their emotions start to take charge from being sexualy stimulated they may not be thinking straight. Don't worry about popping a boner. Most girls are well aware of the effect they have on guys and chances are that yours won't be the first she's ever caused. Just relax, have fun, and enjoy the ride.
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One of my fondest memories is of just having stopped making out and standing up from the bench to walk the girl home and seeing her look at my bloated crotch, very obvious erection, didnt say anything just preceded to walk with her. I told one of my buddies the netx day and he was like "didnt you find it embarressing?!" but why the hell should I? It certainly lets her know that I was enjoying what we was doing.
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not alll your posts are like thatWell that's lovely. Aren't I just grand.Whenever I see someone who is very inhibited, and that inhibition limits his life, I just want to grab that person by the shoulders and shake him. It takes me back to a shyer time (although not quite in the way you describe). I wasted too much time worrying about what others though about what I said and did.Girls know that guys get erections. They're usually flattered, if they're the cause. If guys didn't get ererctions around girls, then there wouldn't be much sex going on. There's plenty of sex going on, therefore...draw your own conclusions.The stripper was teasing the guy. She would probably have been dissapointed and/or insulted if he didn't get a woodie. The most important thing, though, is to take what you young friends say with a grain of salt. They'll tend to say what they think makes them sound cool, no matter what they really think. If you're friend claims he wouldn't have gotten an erection, that's his issue.I'm still not sure that I understand your question.
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I personally think it's hot when a guy gets a boner. It just turns me on even more. Just relax and let things go. It's not so hot when a guy is trying to hold back alot. But also don't jump into things straight away.
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well when me and my boyfriend makeout im just like OKK lets go further. i just get soo .. well.. wet lol. horney? yeah thats it.im female incase neone was wondering.