I have a few questions:1)Is it worth it if you dont want any kids, and you want sex with out a condom (while your girlfriend sticks with her birthcontrol)2)What is the average cost?3)Recovery time?4)Does it affect testosterone in males?5)Its the male one that is reversable, right?
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Vasectomy
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> 1)Is it worth it if you dont want any kids, and you want sex with out a condom (while your girlfriend sticks with her birthcontrol)
What would be the point of having her stick with her birth control, unless she's using it for period regulation? If she's having sex with other guys at the same time she's having sex with you, then you should still use a condom to protect yourself.
Otherwise, it's a fine idea if you you know that you and your partner have no STD. However, it's doubtful that an ethical doctor would do it to a guy in his early 20's, because people often change thier mind when they get older, and...
> 5)Its the male one that is reversable, right?
Usually, but there are no guarantees. If you're thinking about reversing it
> 4)Does it affect testosterone in males?
No, or no one would do it. What's the point of having built-in birth control, but not wanting to have sex? The vasectomy doesn't allow sperm to mix into the semen. Sperm form a small part of the semen volume anyway.
> 2)What is the average cost?
> 3)Recovery time?Someone discussed his vasectomy experience here a few months ago. Do a search.
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What would be the point of having her stick with her birth control, unless she's using it for period regulation? If she's having sex with other guys at the same time she's having sex with you, then you should still use a condom to protect yourself.I resent that steve, I dont play around... As for you greg, Dont be stupid and waste your money.
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My Uncles friend would be doing the opperation and he said so long as im sure, I just want to get some research under my belt before I call him up again. As for reversing it, I would only do that if i was with a girl i loved that absolutely wanted kids. I dont, I love kids but they arent for me. I would never be around for them, i just would not be a good dad at all.
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> My Uncles friend would be doing the opperation and he said so long as im sure
Might your uncle's friend be a urological surgeon?
Personally, I wait 'till at least my late 20's before taking such a big step...but it's up to you. I am a bit surprised that a physician would be that sanguine about it.
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In reply to: Might your uncle's friend be a urological surgeon? Yea, Rox and i were having dinner at my uncles house last night and we got onto the subject.
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1)Is it worth it if you dont want any kids, and you want sex with out a condom (while your girlfriend sticks with her birthcontrol)well I have 2 kids, plus her 2 year old has never known a dad besides me and has never so much as met his real sperm donor (I refuse to call him his dad) who disapeared once he heard the words pregnant.She has other kids who live at thier dads house and visit us on weekends. We know we dont want any more period ever.Im 34, she is 32.2)What is the average cost?With my health insurance it cost me 10 dollars for the first office visit to try to be talked out of it and 10 bucks for the surgery, plus about 6 bucks for the perscrition pain killers after my insurance picked up the cost on that too.plus gas and I ended up having it done on a Monday, had scheduled that week off on vacation, but ended up gettin glaid off the thursday before it so I was off work and that didnt cost me money for missing.3)Recovery time?If you do it all right and take care of yourself it should be between 2 and 4 days if ther is no problems and you avoid any infections at the surgery site. Alot of that is dependant upon the docs methods and the rest of that on your after care habits.4)Does it affect testosterone in males?It only affects sperm count!5)Its the male one that is reversable, right? I have no idea, dont care, as I stated earlier we are DONE having kids. But if it is reversable, it would be holy shit bad to do. Havin it done wasnt exactly fun and to recut and redo and hook up nad ohh god I dunno I cant imagine, would suck. If you even think you might someday want it reversed, then dont do it to begin with. Its considered a permenant method, a single doubt? then dont do it.I documented alot of it in a blog over a few weeks titled all juice and no seeds on my homepage if you want to read more about it.
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There are no doubts what so ever, I do not want kids period. (Lucky for me i also found Rox that didnt want em either) I tried clicking your homepage and the link didn't work.You've been a great help.And to think Rox was saying there are nothing but fights on here anymore.
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Most of the time they Are fighting!
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we do fight alot Ill look into a link fix later, right now its time for a movie with the woman under the covers and no lights on
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One more question for ya, say I get it done by Dec. 5th, Could i be 100% ready for unprotected sex by January 3rd?
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Lucky for me i also found Rox that didnt want em eitherWow, you sure are thinking far ahead.> One more question for ya, say I get it done by Dec. 5th, Could i be 100% ready for unprotected sex by January 3rd?You must be able to have sex by a specific date? And you're thinking about elective surgery weeks before going to Antartica?!? Don't do it now. Forget about the sex; if there are any complications, you might compromise your whole trip.
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"Is it worth it if you don’t want any kids, and you want sex with out a condom (while your girlfriend sticks with her birth control)"Greg, I have no regrets about doing it…. But I have my kids and didn’t want anymore. It was a long thought out decision. You didn’t say how old you are, but I would advise you to really think it through. Your current situation can change or you could meet someone who really wants to have your children... It would suck it you shot blanks!!Although they have a reversal surgery, they just can’t guarantee you’ll start producing some healthy swimmers again.
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My hubby had it done when he was 28, and they didn't really want to do it at such a young age, but we have 3 kids now, and that's enough.You might feel like you don't want kids now, but, listen to the older posters, it CAN change, and its not worth doing something like this so young.........JUST so you don't have to use condoms?Recovery time is quick, i was at the Hilton the weekend my hubby had his, and was pretty much sorted when i got back.There is no saying how long it will take post surgery for your ejaculation to have no sperm in it, so you can't put a date on it!Cost, well that isn't an issue over here.What is an issue for me is that you are thinking of doing this, almost like a contraceptive for your trip away, it may not seem like it but its a HUGE deal..........
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Oh no I didn't mean to make it sound like that atall, you see I've been thinking about having it done since I was 14 (now 20, turning 21 in 4 days) . Now just seemed like a conveniant time since I have the doctor lined up, and I didn't want to still be recovering while I was away. I guess my last post came out all f'ked up. So now that that's explained, let me explain why I don't want kids.1) I am not a patiant man at all.2) I am going to travel and be all over the world so having a child I won't be there for is impracticle and mean on my part. 3) They are expensive! Even one would put a good dent in your wallet.4) I love kids, but they just aren't for me. 5) If I am not sure I cant be a dad 100% of the way, I don't want to have even one. If money would be a problem and I couldnt give it the best life, I'm not having one. If I'm going to be a way a lot of the time, I'm not having one. There, That's better and easier to intereperat.
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The question is, how can you be certain that all those things will be true in 10 or 15 years?
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I know I'll never have the patience for a kid, I'll never be a rich man nor would I want to be, and in 10 or 15 years I will still be traveling and seeing if I can find more dangerous things to do.
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You don't have to be Mr. Patience to have children.............and you definitely don't have to be rich........I should know LOLAs for travelling, i know a couple who travelled around the world with their baby who is now 7..........she has seen things i never will...........Not getting at you at all, but ALL these reasons are things that can change in an instant........you really NEVER know whats gonna happen in the future, you're only 20, live a little before making such hard and fast decisions, life has a way of changing who you are and what you think sooo easily.
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It can be reversible for a guy but there is no guarantee. Generally the longer between the vasectomy and trying to reverse it the less chance there is of success.
As for not wanting kids, I think 20/21 is a bit young to be so sure about that. I know someone who was very career driven, thought he'd never have the time etc. until his wife got pregnant. Now the baby has become a really important part of his life - he's less concerned about prompotion at work and a lot more chilled.
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I understand that, My dad didn't want kids but I'm here. I suppose you guys just don't fully understand and I can't put it into words.
Btw, Rox, Darling, Dont get pregnant just to prove a point.