"Is it worth it if you don’t want any kids, and you want sex with out a condom (while your girlfriend sticks with her birth control)"Greg, I have no regrets about doing it…. But I have my kids and didn’t want anymore. It was a long thought out decision. You didn’t say how old you are, but I would advise you to really think it through. Your current situation can change or you could meet someone who really wants to have your children... It would suck it you shot blanks!!Although they have a reversal surgery, they just can’t guarantee you’ll start producing some healthy swimmers again.
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Vasectomy
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My hubby had it done when he was 28, and they didn't really want to do it at such a young age, but we have 3 kids now, and that's enough.You might feel like you don't want kids now, but, listen to the older posters, it CAN change, and its not worth doing something like this so young.........JUST so you don't have to use condoms?Recovery time is quick, i was at the Hilton the weekend my hubby had his, and was pretty much sorted when i got back.There is no saying how long it will take post surgery for your ejaculation to have no sperm in it, so you can't put a date on it!Cost, well that isn't an issue over here.What is an issue for me is that you are thinking of doing this, almost like a contraceptive for your trip away, it may not seem like it but its a HUGE deal..........
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Oh no I didn't mean to make it sound like that atall, you see I've been thinking about having it done since I was 14 (now 20, turning 21 in 4 days) . Now just seemed like a conveniant time since I have the doctor lined up, and I didn't want to still be recovering while I was away. I guess my last post came out all f'ked up. So now that that's explained, let me explain why I don't want kids.1) I am not a patiant man at all.2) I am going to travel and be all over the world so having a child I won't be there for is impracticle and mean on my part. 3) They are expensive! Even one would put a good dent in your wallet.4) I love kids, but they just aren't for me. 5) If I am not sure I cant be a dad 100% of the way, I don't want to have even one. If money would be a problem and I couldnt give it the best life, I'm not having one. If I'm going to be a way a lot of the time, I'm not having one. There, That's better and easier to intereperat.
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The question is, how can you be certain that all those things will be true in 10 or 15 years?
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I know I'll never have the patience for a kid, I'll never be a rich man nor would I want to be, and in 10 or 15 years I will still be traveling and seeing if I can find more dangerous things to do.
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You don't have to be Mr. Patience to have children.............and you definitely don't have to be rich........I should know LOLAs for travelling, i know a couple who travelled around the world with their baby who is now 7..........she has seen things i never will...........Not getting at you at all, but ALL these reasons are things that can change in an instant........you really NEVER know whats gonna happen in the future, you're only 20, live a little before making such hard and fast decisions, life has a way of changing who you are and what you think sooo easily.
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It can be reversible for a guy but there is no guarantee. Generally the longer between the vasectomy and trying to reverse it the less chance there is of success.
As for not wanting kids, I think 20/21 is a bit young to be so sure about that. I know someone who was very career driven, thought he'd never have the time etc. until his wife got pregnant. Now the baby has become a really important part of his life - he's less concerned about prompotion at work and a lot more chilled.
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I understand that, My dad didn't want kids but I'm here. I suppose you guys just don't fully understand and I can't put it into words.
Btw, Rox, Darling, Dont get pregnant just to prove a point.
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Btw, Rox, Darling, Dont get pregnant just to prove a point.Huh? You're joking, right?
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Some reason, I don't think that will be a problem Greg lmao :wink:
And yes steve, that was a joke lol