If the guy put his hand down your pants, you were sexually assaulted. There's no exaggerating there. If your boyfriend won't stand up for you, and won't listen to you, the best thing I can say is that he is a dirtbag.> if I live around a bunch of overprotective people including family and friends who just happen to be males would that really make a difference?I don't understand what you're asking. Are you saying that your family and friends treat women the way the Saudis do? Do these folk realize that they're living in 21st century America?It may not be easy for you to do, but that guy's parents need to be told that their boy sexually assualted you. I mean, seriously, you pushed this guy away, talked to him for a while, and then he went at it again? This guy could be dangerous. I hope he doesn't wind up raping someone becuase no one wanted to say anything.
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Brace yourselves, it's long, but I love you so...
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Eh, when you put it that way... I just thought it was looking out for the benefit of another. Just making sure they don't get hurt or harmed in anyway. My mom tells me that all the time whenever my dad makes a big deal about it. She says he just doesn't want us to get hurt. I guess she's right when I look at it from his point of view which I try to do alot when he's getting on my last nerves. And it might be the same way with my bf or just a matter of not losing someone. Since it happens alot. But I don't think his brother would do something that extreme because he's only 15 and based on what he's talked to me about he's only focused on one problem which I suggested to him to talk to his parents about or something.
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I don't think his brother would do something that extreme because he's only 15 We know he's sexually assualted at least one girl. Under different circumstances, he may not have been so easily discouraged. There are rapists who are under 15.What do your friends think about it? One of them used to participate on this site. What does she think?Looking out for each other is nice, but taken to and extreme, it can become a prison.
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are you serious? wow, this is a sick world. Maybe he just needs to have a serious talk with his parents. I haven't really been talking to her much because she's been having ALOT of personal and unpersonal problems, I don't know how she's dealing with it all at once. But my other friends think I'm being overdramatic about it too including the one that was there. She says I'm 14 it shouldn't be that big a deal.
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But my other friends think I'm being overdramatic about it too including the one that was there.Your friends are ignorant. This is one area where you should pay more attention to the grown ups than your friends. That's a very sad statenment about where your friends' heads are at.> She says I'm 14 it shouldn't be that big a deal.It's OK for a 14-year-old girl to be sexually assaulted by a 15-year-old boy? That's beyond ignorant, and it's wrong.
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It is a sick world. No doubt about it.I think that given that there are other things that have happened nad it wasnt a one time thing, that you need to let other peoples mistakes and eperiences guide you.Listen to the people that have been through it before and take the advice of the grown ups.Noone can force you but you need to atleast at a minimum, think over what they have said and apply it to your own life and maybe make that hard decision to end it with him.
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ok.. so do I just wait it out and see what happens or something?
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I dont know?Look at your past, maybe you arleady know if you should be waiting any longer or not?
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Ah, ok that makes sense. What happened with his brother I would say was an incident because when I first met him he was really sweet and nice to me. I don't know what happened after that. But with my bf I guess that's more of a pattern and I've sort of learned to deal with it.
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Honey, that is messed up.
It sort of sounds like your boyfriend is contributing to the self esteem... Zip up a sweater because it's too revealing? What's wrong with being a bit revealing? And absolutely do NOT let him control you... That's happens SO often, and it's a really sad thing to watch, because the girl doesn't get it, no matter what you say.
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I feel dirty right now. Like I was in the wrong.Sweetie, there is no reason to feel dirty, you did NOTHING wrong! First off, you were the one who was violated and had thier trust abused; you should not feel dirty because of someone else's stupidity. Your boyfriend shouldn't be jumping to conclusions, he should hear you out... you don't need someone who wont even give you a chance to explain what happened to you. I honestly think you need to get away from these guys, they're not the type of people you should be around honey. I am so sorry that happened to you hugs
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I agree with Katie, these are notpeopel you need to be around and you did nothinf wrong. You're a very sweet girl and you were taken advantage of, not to mention your Boyfriend acting so immature about the situation.
Trust if a very big issue in relationships, and if he has no trust in you (whether it right or wrong) than your relationship cannot grow any further. You need to have a sit down talk with your boyfriend and let him know how you feel