Alright well I have a fairly simple question. I have managed to overcome my depression by just being happy and making others happy. Well anyways, a girl in a department accross from mine at work made my buddy see what i thought of her. Well I decided to take advantage of her liking me (I got it out of my buddy that he was put up to it). So I asked her for a ride back to my house, my damn TBI on my jeep is leaking (that is a gasoline leak on the exhaust), well I got here and it was all good. She has my number and such, but my question is what certain thoughts and bits about me should i hold back. I want her to know what I am like, but I do not know if I should just let that go and just let things happen. So...???
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A fresh Start
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I wouldnt volunteer anything to begin with.answer honestly if she asked about something but dont volunteer all of it.See how it works out fora few weeks, if its still going good, then start a little at a time to let out the who you are stuff.Dont overwhelm her with it all at once.Keep it simple in the beginning, what movies you like, favorite books, small talk. That all prgoresses nicely, then start giving more, see what she thinks of that that you let out and if all goes well and your still happy with her as well as her being happy with you then give her some more.I think its a mistake to blurt it all out right off, besides if you both already know everything, whats left to talk about?Good luck with her.
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Well I do not know...I have known her for a good 2 months now. She and I have spent lunches together and stuff like that...but i never thought she would actively come after me..Well I can hold back, as hard as that may be.
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Like Chance said, don't blurt it all out at once. That will tend to scare anybody, or at least put them off a little.Remember, a little mystery is a good thing. Half the fun of new relationship is learning about the person as things develop. Let the question and answer period come about naturally. You'll find your both talking about a movie or something and the next thing you know your both dicussing the most intimate parts of your lives, that have nothing at all to do with the movie or the original subject you were talking about. You both will find out more than you want to know about each other soon enough.Having said all of that, I don't know what it is that your wanting to tell her. If its something like "I'm an epileptic", or "I go into violent seizures at the sound of Mary Harts voice", then you might want to go ahead and mention that to her.
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Oh hell yes, any pertinant medical stuff tell right off.I have a diabetic son, thats the first thing that his friends learn about, if he does this, or this or this, dont freak out just call 911. Medical stuff liek that is different they have to be told that.I mean lets say that some shit you do is not considered normal, but its harmless to anyone.lets say uhhhh you enjoy knitting.Thats something Id hold back for a bit, most people would find it odd that man knit, its harmless to anyone but why let it out until you knwo where stuff is going.If you two have been having lunch for 2 months and shes interested then youv probally covered all the small talk for the most part anyways. Fave movies and books and such. I dont think you should hide anything from her and if she asks then you pretty much have to tell her but Id just let it all come out slowely instead of in a rush.If she started talking and never shut up and went on and on about herself, she may be a lovely girl, but your going to think "psycho bitch" same thing if you start rambling everytime your togehter on and on about yo and any odd habits you might have.Part of a relationship is finding out things about the other person, I jsut think it shoud happen over time instead of a single date. The closer you get to someone the more you trust them and the easier it is to let out tidbits that maybe you dont want the general public to know.give that stuff away to early and she has something she can use against you. Assumeing shes a good girl an it jsut doesnt work out between you two, if you knew each other for a while before those types of things came out she would probally respect that its a private thing and since you two didnt work out and dot hate each other most people would keep that stuf to themselves instead o it being the talk at the water cooler the next day.I just think you should move slow is all, respond when your asked something but dont volunteer everythign about yourself the first week. and if there is any medical information that could be given that will keep her from freaking out because she knows that it may come up, like epilepsy or diabeties or anything, Id share that very early.
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**Hon, its great to hear things have got brighter for you *hugs*
As for the girl, be yourself and enjoy your time together.........don't overthink things its that kinda thing that makes a situation awkward....... ** :grin:
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I plan to...My biggest concern is my Jeep...If I have no vehicle, I cannot go to work or anything....So I need to fix my car, computer, go to work, and handle her and Christmas...YAY...lol
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piece a cake for a talented young man like yourself
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hugs I'm so glad to hear you are doing good!I think everyone already gave good advice (I am late as usual). Good luck hun!
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and I wish you much luck with that, I have 2 cars to keep running plus the kids bikes and my bike that always seems tobe the one thta goes tumbling down hills plus all that other shit and I run 4 computersin my house all on a network.
I think Im too far in to back out but its ot to late for you, keep the home network out of your home or youll end pulling out your hair and throwing towers from the second floor onto the drive way. (I uhh used ot have 5 computers on this network but one of them commited suicide and jumped from my bedroom window to the pavement below and crawled under my g/f's blazer to die)
Your jeep for the record is a pain in the ass! that is the reason I sold my jeep and that is the reason when that bastard blazer my g/f has is running again its going down the road as well. -
I am running 2 computers on a WIFI network. I am going to have 2 Jeeps soon. My sister is going to give me her Wrangler...and I have my Cherokee, and I think I am going to get a newer Wrangler... This is one possible replacement... Toyota FJ-40 This is the other: Jeep Wrangler
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Well she definitely likes me, it is hard to ask her out when I am around customers at work. But she has consumed my thoughts.
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so i kinda did not ask for it...I wanted to test to see if she did like me and it was not just her being nice. But yeah she likes me.
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> i kinda did not ask for it
Now you know what you need to do.
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yeah i know...it is probably going to be a huge mess of thoughts in one jumble...