Weird?

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is it weird that my boyfriend never wants to eat me out? i talked to him about it before, and he did it whenhe was drunk but he says that he thinks the concept is gross. he ate me out about 5 times and now it has been a month, maybe more, and he hasn't done it again. i always make sure that i'm clean so i don't smell when he goes down there. i dont know what to do? do most guys like eating girls out or am i just under a common misconception? is there anything else i can do to encourage it? please help!

Make him a deal, you'll do something that you are reluctant to do or just something that you 2 haven't done that he wants to do in the sex area, if he will first go down on you, make sure the deal is that you will have to enjoy it too.

But I have known some guys that like doing it and some guys that say that their mouths have no business going there and some will just do it to please the girl.

Refuse him oral as well! See how much he likes it. :grin:

I enjoy doing it. I love doing it actually. When I have sex with my g/f it normally starts out with that and leads to 69. I stop eating her because she is the one pulling me up wanting something different not because I was in a hurry to get out of there.

well, personally, I love eating JenJen out, just ask her! i encourage it a lot, i love the taste and the idea of it, so iunno... But on the other hand, as JenJen said, if you refuse him oral, he'll prolly do it He may not like it for a lot of reasons; maybe he is afraid - might sound retarded, but i'm sure there are a lot of guys that don't like to eat pussy because they aren't sure or don't understand it properly.. Maybe he's afraid that he won't do it right?You could always just ask him, if he refuses, ask him why not?, If he says that he's afraid of not doing it right, then tell him that you want him to try, and you'll let him know how he's doing. Give him little tips as he's doing it like - "higher, lower, left, right, harder softer, faster, slower" and so on... circles, flattened tounge and whatever... After you've had your orgasm, let him know how amazing it was and be very comforting.. I start that way, i get JenJen to tell me how she wants it, always helps for her to get EXACTLY what she wants... if that's it, I'm sure he'll start more often, but maybe he's just waiting to be asked to eat you....

I bet your right. However, isnt it the shits that you have to thraten, cajole and manipulate your partner?

how about instead of using manipulation in your relationship you step up and be a good girlfriend and respect the fact he doesn't want to stick his face in your croch. I love to eat out myself but my girlfriend doesn't want to ever give me head... or anyone head. Do I withhold my pleasure-giving skills and be a dickhead and make her feel bad about it? Hell no... I'm not that shallow.If you like to give a BJ then dont stop just to get something u want. he can still please you in other ways.

Have him trim you up if you are not already, this will get him closer and when he sees you getting wet etc... when I trim my g/f it gets her excited. Maybe he just doesn't plain like it. We all do things we don't like, I do feel sorry for you though he doesn't know what he is missing. Ask him if he can feel your pulse with his tounge touching your clit. If he says no, masturbate in front of him and then have him do the same thing just before your orgasm.

it's annoying becuse we've been going out for 10 months and he still hasn't given me an orgasm.

then he's the worst boyfriend on the planet... dump him.

or

be patient with him. think about it... if your being asked to do something you don't like would you rather the person asking be patient and understanding or manipulative and demanding?

ask him these questions:

do you like to be intimate with me?
do you like it when we get really into it?
are you comfortable with us being that close?
are you comfortable being that close with me specifically?
are you ok with going down on me? If not thats ok.
are you ok fingering me?
is there anything i should be doing differently for you or to help you be more comfortable?

start there.

Before I started going out with my bf, I said i would never give head, nor have him eat me out. I thought it was the nastiest thing. The problem was that neither of us tried it...but one day, for the sake of my lover, i said fine, i'll do it cuz i'll never know if i try. So we gave each other oral, and both loved everything!

The above advice is dandy...try to coax him a bit, let him know that he will never know until he tires (and doing it while he's drunk doesnt count), after all, you did take that "chance" and gave him oral.

You give him orgasms right?Well, you need to talk about it somehow. That has to be annoying not ever getting off with your partner. Does he ever finger you or anything? You need to teach him what you like.I don't know if I could handle being in a relationship and not being able to climax at all with my partner.

Well, I don't like doing it either..I will on occassion, but usually I don't. Cuz its gross to kiss your girl after that, however I don't mind at all after she does it to me..

Why is it gross? A vagina (one that's taked care of) is a multitude times cleaner than the human mouth.

wait, so shes has to do it for you or you wont for her? Selfish. Jerk. Prick. All words that come to mind... I dont like giving men oral, but i do it cause they like it.

how was your response when you were getting eaten out? because if you werent doing anything to make him think that it felt good, he might have been discouraged from not pleasing you, and he's afraid that he'll fail again if he tries again

yea.. it's been about 17 months now and still no orgasm. i've given up i think. he eats me out now thankfully, however, still no orgasm. :frowning: