There's this girl who I've known for a couple years now, but I never talked to her much until this year. She's been really interested in me, hence the question I'm asking. I see her in two of my four classes every day, and shortly after talking to her a bit in English class she started coming up to me and talking with me whenever possible. She always seems to happy to see me and we've become close fast.She's been having some problems lately and ever since I asked about what's bothering her it seems like I've been the person who she always looks to for support. A friend she's known for a very long time has a boyfriend and has become really distant and completely lacking of understanding. I've been a person for her to talk it over with. I guess she used to be really good friends with this other girl and helped her through some tough times.She keeps saying things like "You're my favourite person". Now she keeps wanting to be close to me. Just last weekend we were at a movie and she was leaning on me the entire time.Just today when we talked on MSN, she said she was having a bad day. I asked what was wrong, she said that she was thinking about me and how I wouldn't be at school today (city finals for swimming) it started with a can of ginger ale exploding in her backpack. From there a bunch of other little things happened. Then she said I can't leave school any more because things go wrong when I'm not around.I never really noticed her before this year, but I'd go out with her if she was interested. I'm of mixed feelings about it though. Here are the problems. She's been separated from this friend who she's known for a long time so I'm wondering if this is just her looking for a new friend who she can be close with. Also, she's said before that she has a boyfriend in Germany (she was there for a while a few years back), but I don't know much of anything about that. She said she was going to travel to Germany after the end of the school year and she's mentioned seeing him. She hasn't talked about him for awhile though and I really know very little about this. If she is actually in a serious long distance relationship with him then it's no more than friends I'm assuming. I don't know if it really is serious or not though. I'm so confused with this. I've always been a hesitant person - maybe I'm over analyzing the situation.
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Interested in me as a friend or more?
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I think she just needs a good strong friend she can listen to and tell how her day is going, not necesarily a love connection.
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Well, a strong connection does exist between both of you. there's a good chance also that she might have a small crush with you. But, I believe it's better for both of you to remain good friends. It seems that she needs more a good friend to support her with her problems than a boyfriend and more troubles.
First, you have to clarify your emotions to yourself. Ask yourself how'd you feel if you lose the chance of going out with her. If you find her really interesting, then go for it.Anyway, if she already has a boyfriend, don't try anything... I believe it's unethical.
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Once you have sex it will all be over and that is how most friendships or thought to be friendships end. From that day fwd youboth will look at eachother differently. Instinct the thrill of the hunt. My advice, be a good friend don't try to get in her pants, just be there for her and if she wants to have sex then don't do it for the above explanation. The double edged sword now comes into play. Lets say you get married to another woman, the woman that you marry will most likely think that you slept with her or there is some ploy to do just that. I don't know why most women think that men are just trying to get into thier pants. Like a man once told me the fastest way into a womans pants is thorugh her mouth. (excite the brain and you will get.....)
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All right, here's an update on the way things are going. She hasn't been too mad at her friend lately. Her and I went to a school play that her friend was involved in, and they both seemed happy to see each other when we met up (also with another friend of their's from j. high who happened to go that night).I convinced myself before that we were just friends, but things have changed a bit since then. Lately, she's a lot closer. She's always saying things like "I love yah David" and showing other signs like sitting down beside me and just staring at me. Also, I guess that guy I mentioned before isn't currently her boyfriend - I'm not sure where I got that from.Just in the past few day she's been saying I'm hot and she likes my body. When I asked her what she wants for Christmas, the first thing she said was I'd do just fine. I was worried about being more than close friends, but I'm sure she likes me - and I've been thinking a lot about her. I'm going to ask her out.